Rock and Hard surface....

[amoka]

I told my ex girlfriend I do not want to get married so we broke up several months ago. But somehow, we are still "friends" and fvck every time.... practically making a FB out of it. I do not want to be in a relationship with her at all. Lately however, whenever I talk to her on the phone, she'd call me "babe". Anyway, the problem is that she is a known cheater. I know for a fact that she is "cheating" ( if that is the correct word, since we are not really together and have no desire to). Anyway, my curiosity got the best of me and I checked her phone and noticed several text to guys ie, "that was loving", "How are you going to married me when I'm in A city and you're in B city", etc. She is originally from city B and still have families there. She recently visited city B and noticed the sex is different from when we last fvcked. She seemed to keep things very discrete and portrays a "good girl" behavior. Fvcking her is great but the fear of getting STD scares the hell out of me. I'm dying to let her know that I know she's been fvcking others guys but don't want to look like I have been checking on her. Should I let her know that I know she's been fvcking other guys, if so, how should I approach it? Or should I simply not tell her anything and simply cut all contacts with her.

 

[squirrels]

I do not want to be in a relationship with her at all. Lately however, whenever I talk to her on the phone, she'd call me "babe". Anyway, the problem is that she is a known cheater. I know for a fact that she is "cheating" ( if that is the correct word, since we are not really together and have no desire to).

It is not the correct word. You are NOT really together.

If you don't want to be in a relationship with her, then it is NOT fair for you to keep her from seeing other guys. There isn't any cheating. There's no commitment to cheat ON.

If she likes what she's getting from you, then she'll hang around as long as it's convenient for her. And if a girl is f*cking someone, they will still call him "babe". Hell, a hooker will probably call you that. I wouldn't even read into it.

If you don't want her to be "your girl", then why do you CARE who else she is f*cking? And what business is it of yours in the first place? If it's just the STD issue, throw a condom on and suck it up. If you're that worried about STDs, you shouldn't be having sex outside of an exclusive, tested relationship anyway.

As soon as you tell a girl you're not interested in a relationship, you have to be ready for her to walk when she finds a guy who IS. She may not do it right away, but she will eventually. That's why you have 2 other women on-tap. You ARE banging at least ONE other woman (preferably 2), right?

You're trying to have your cake and eat it too, and it's not right to expect her to be committed to you if you're not the same way to her. Ball up and make a decision. Either:

1) You want her to be your girl, or

2) You don't want her to be your girl, but you'll bang her as long as she's giving it (even if she's banging other dudes) until she moves on, or

3) you're done with her.

Those are your choices. Choose one.

 

[NewMan]

I was doing this with a chick recently.

Your ego is involved here - plain and simple.

You need to look at it from the outside - if your are really done with her, then all of this is null and void. Just continue to bang her if that's what you want.

As aquirrels pointed out - afraid of catching something, throw on a rubber.

If you want her back - and you want to be exclusive - then you can follow that path. I would warn you though, make sure your not taking her back just to fvck her - and effectively preventing her banging others. That's not a reason to take her back - I know, because that's what I did, and I paid the price.

 

[amoka]

Thanks guys. The problem is that she acts like she is not seeing any other person and expects me to do the same. There was even a time when she said, "I am not fvcking around. It is only you that I fvck. Would you fvck me still if you know I've been fvcking other guys". WTF, she expects me to be exclusive with her knowing well that she is not faithful. Next time she brings up the issue, I'll her: "look, don't act like you've not been fvcking others dudes around. I told you I'm not interested in having a relationship or nothing in that regard with you. Don't expect me to be fvcking you alone know that you're fvcking other dudes." Is this a good idea?