TheException
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I often write up stories based upon real world observations first hand that can be applied to game and analyzed here for beneficial purposes. I have been labeling them "FR(Field Reports)" just as a way to quickly express its a first hand experience. I have re-termed them "RLE(Real Life Experience)" as it more properly describes the situations....
Anyway. So last night, my roommate and myself had our girlfriends over. We were playing card drinking games when the following(awkward) situation followed.....my roommate and his girl started to have a "socially acceptable" fight.
Socially acceptable fight: One where a fight is clearly occurring, but the fighting parties do so in a way that they think is "not obvious" to everyone else. Usually through back handed compliments, snarky comments, and insults disguised in jest.
The awkwardness begins to really set in, as they try to "one up" each other. They think its not obvious to everyone else that they are "fighting"....but it is. One such insulting joke is burned into my head still....
HB: *something gay about roommate*
Roommate: "I cant wait to break up with you"
HB: *awkward laugh* yaaaaaa
Ouch. Full blown awkward. One thing leads to another and we are ready to head out to the bars and my roommate goes upstairs to change. Girlfriend follows anddddddd instead of him changing, they simply change venues and let the juicy drama continue behind closed doors. About 20 mins later the girlfriend storms downstairs and leaves. Roommate passes out. So what the he11 happened and why? Lets explain the consequences of being a beta chump all the time....but deciding to get liquid courage and let your true feelings out when you are drunk.
Every day my roommate is a whipping boy for his girlfriend. They have been dating for like 10 years(we are only 22 crazy right?). Where she commands....he obliges. When she orders....he fulfills. The worst part is its not even like hes unaware of his pathetic actions. He will give her a little gruff, but always ends up doing what she wills. They say when you drink....your true feelings always come out. Whoever said that, was a smart man.
His male nature doesnt like how he acts or how his girlfriend bosses him around during the day, so when he drinks he finally has the balls to say stuff back to her and refuse her orders. Sooooo as being accustomed to getting what she wants....she retaliates with hostility. He now responds with hostility and before you know it, a full blown fight is under way. Names get thrown around, hateful words are said, and attraction is lost. HOWEVER....he CONSISTENTLY MAKES A MORTAL SIN OF APOLOGY THE VERY NEXT DAY. Pathetic. I will occasionally drop in the morning after and just shoot the sh1t and it never fails that he will say a comment like : "Mannnnnn, I was a complete d1ck last night. I shouldnt drink so much". And he will text his girlfriend and apologize for his behavior.......ugh. Its not that I am against apologies(although I never do so unless I TRULY feel sorry) but he continues to fall into a negative loop.
Acts like a b1tch --> Feels like a chump --> Gets mad at girlfriend for bossing him around all day -- > Fights with gf --> Apologizes for fight.
Andddd the loop continues. Essentially he gets the blame for EVERY fight while she skips out guilt free. And you better believe she holds it against him. If it were not for all the time they have invested together, they would have broken up by now, but both are toooo scared for life without one another(pathetic again).
Point of the story is....its the little things that can add up. You think its "ok" to carry her purse for a couple minutes? You think its "ok" to fail common sh1t tests and give in to her? You think its "ok" to drop all your priorities for a woman? No...to all of the above. Its not "Ok". I hope I did not cause too many cringes, but its the truth and should be told. These scenarios are all too COMMON. On a good note, my girlfriend told me "Im glad we are not like that. I bet he doesnt even have a d1ck anymore"....right before we had sex. So once a women has seen/experienced an alpha, betas may be able to "take care/provide" for women...they still see them as PATHETIC.
PS. I dont know for certain what happened this morning....but when I woke up, my roommate was not home.......20$ he went to his girlfriends for "a talk"(aka tongue lashing) initiated by her.
Anyway. So last night, my roommate and myself had our girlfriends over. We were playing card drinking games when the following(awkward) situation followed.....my roommate and his girl started to have a "socially acceptable" fight.
Socially acceptable fight: One where a fight is clearly occurring, but the fighting parties do so in a way that they think is "not obvious" to everyone else. Usually through back handed compliments, snarky comments, and insults disguised in jest.
The awkwardness begins to really set in, as they try to "one up" each other. They think its not obvious to everyone else that they are "fighting"....but it is. One such insulting joke is burned into my head still....
HB: *something gay about roommate*
Roommate: "I cant wait to break up with you"
HB: *awkward laugh* yaaaaaa
Ouch. Full blown awkward. One thing leads to another and we are ready to head out to the bars and my roommate goes upstairs to change. Girlfriend follows anddddddd instead of him changing, they simply change venues and let the juicy drama continue behind closed doors. About 20 mins later the girlfriend storms downstairs and leaves. Roommate passes out. So what the he11 happened and why? Lets explain the consequences of being a beta chump all the time....but deciding to get liquid courage and let your true feelings out when you are drunk.
Every day my roommate is a whipping boy for his girlfriend. They have been dating for like 10 years(we are only 22 crazy right?). Where she commands....he obliges. When she orders....he fulfills. The worst part is its not even like hes unaware of his pathetic actions. He will give her a little gruff, but always ends up doing what she wills. They say when you drink....your true feelings always come out. Whoever said that, was a smart man.
His male nature doesnt like how he acts or how his girlfriend bosses him around during the day, so when he drinks he finally has the balls to say stuff back to her and refuse her orders. Sooooo as being accustomed to getting what she wants....she retaliates with hostility. He now responds with hostility and before you know it, a full blown fight is under way. Names get thrown around, hateful words are said, and attraction is lost. HOWEVER....he CONSISTENTLY MAKES A MORTAL SIN OF APOLOGY THE VERY NEXT DAY. Pathetic. I will occasionally drop in the morning after and just shoot the sh1t and it never fails that he will say a comment like : "Mannnnnn, I was a complete d1ck last night. I shouldnt drink so much". And he will text his girlfriend and apologize for his behavior.......ugh. Its not that I am against apologies(although I never do so unless I TRULY feel sorry) but he continues to fall into a negative loop.
Acts like a b1tch --> Feels like a chump --> Gets mad at girlfriend for bossing him around all day -- > Fights with gf --> Apologizes for fight.
Andddd the loop continues. Essentially he gets the blame for EVERY fight while she skips out guilt free. And you better believe she holds it against him. If it were not for all the time they have invested together, they would have broken up by now, but both are toooo scared for life without one another(pathetic again).
Point of the story is....its the little things that can add up. You think its "ok" to carry her purse for a couple minutes? You think its "ok" to fail common sh1t tests and give in to her? You think its "ok" to drop all your priorities for a woman? No...to all of the above. Its not "Ok". I hope I did not cause too many cringes, but its the truth and should be told. These scenarios are all too COMMON. On a good note, my girlfriend told me "Im glad we are not like that. I bet he doesnt even have a d1ck anymore"....right before we had sex. So once a women has seen/experienced an alpha, betas may be able to "take care/provide" for women...they still see them as PATHETIC.
PS. I dont know for certain what happened this morning....but when I woke up, my roommate was not home.......20$ he went to his girlfriends for "a talk"(aka tongue lashing) initiated by her.
