I'd like to say hi to the community, I'm a new member and I hope to be a Don Juan some day. This is my about me post.
The problem:
I usually feel really awkward in social situations -- I often get to the point where I become extremely shy and my voice starts to barely work properly from all the anxiety and self-consciousness; being in a loud environment really makes the problem worse since my already weakened voice becomes basically unintelligble. I can remember the time I was 14 and went out with 4 girls for a casual night at the mall and I literally turned in to a mute -- not saying a word for hours. It's not that bad anymore, but I still have to fight whatever it is that's going on inside my head.
Honestly, I alwasy feel that if I could only get my voice and anxiety together, I could solve all my social problems. If only it was that easy, who knows what sort of psychological hole I have dug myself in to.
About me:
I'm 26, 6 ft, 170 pounds. I think I'm decent looking, no worse than a 7. I turned my life around at the age of 16, I mastered the SAT, went to an elite college, and graduated with honors. I travelled, then set up my own business which has been going strong for 3 years now. I make 6 figures, drive a hot 2006 car, and have a 4 bedroom house all to myself. I'll probably have a million bucks by my early thirties.
Sexual history: I haven't been a total failure with women. And when I list my experience, I may sound like I'm not doing that bad. But I get so anxious and withdrawn that I know I haven't reached my potential, I'm just too socially retarded.
At 14, a 13 year old girl got infatuated with me thinking I was a cute rebel, we became official I guess, she said she loved me, and she told me on the phone she wanted me to fvck her. But I always clammed up to the extreme when around her and her friends as usual so nothing came of it, even though I was a horny bastard eager to lose my virginity. At 16, I almost had a one night stand with a hot girl -- she tried a BJ on me, though I was too drunk and nervous to get hard, let alone fvck her, though we tried that too. Over the years there were a few makeout sessions here and there when drunk, but nothing too exciting. And after I focused on school from the age of 16, I became especially socially retarded.
I was a virgin until I was 21, when I happened to get a serious girlfriend in college by circumstance. I broke up with her, and at 22 I found a horny (kinda ugly) girl on the internet; she turned out to be a great fvck buddy, she'd do anything you'd find in a porno, yes, she even liked that. She had stuff on her computer I wouldn't download for fear of somebody finding out about it. She always told me I'd never find a girl as horny as she.
After a few months of this I went travelling in Asia, and I got to experience life as a mini-DJ -- 4 girls in one month, even fvcked 2 girls in one 24 hour period -- but it's not very hard for a decent looking young foreigner to be successful in Asia. And no, these weren't prostitutes, most of the time I did 50/50 on all expenses with them. I found a great girl -- innocent, nurse with a car -- who eventually fell in love with me and was on my couch ready to fvck, but I knew I was just having fun and I didn't want to ruin her, so I made us just be friends and never did the deed. I've had an Asian girlfriend for the past 3 years as I lived in Asia, she's got a model's body, but we're not soul mates or anything, and it's an economic relationship since she's also my full time assistant for my business.
Now:
But here I am, back in the US, and I'm a big loner who'd like to have an exciting social life and lots of girls. I still get turned in to a nervous wreck in lots of social situations. My voice is just fine when I don't think about, or am talking to just one or two people in a quiet environment. But if the social situation is more than that, I start to get so self-conscious and my voice gets horrible again, not to mention the anxiety.
I saw them talking about Neil Strauss's book on Current TV, so I ordered it and read it. That was 2-3 weeks ago, I've been in to this stuff ever since.
I've been reading "Feel the fear and do it anyway", "Double your dating", "The Book of Pook", and on the way I have books on voice, body language, and other good stuff.
I'm starting to work out seriously again. I am shooting to put on 10 pounds of muscle in the next couple of months. I'm eating as much as I can, drinking a daily protein shake, and taking creatine.
I'm flirting with easy targets. Basically girls behind the counter who have to talk to me. I think I'm coming off as a pretty attractive guy, but I haven't moved past just a few lines of chat. I think the next thing I need to do is continue the talk, "build rapport" as they say, and try for number closes. This would be a brand new world for me. Just knowing that there are guys out there who aren't naturals who have learned these skills is enough to help me do it.
I'm taking community education classes and they look to be excellent places to at least get more socially comfortable. Oh my god, you guys have to try dancing classes. I'm taking Salsa. Let me tell you about the math here. 20 girls, 10 guys, and all of the other guys are there with their wifes/girlfriends. So I'm the only single guy with 10 girls who are basically forced to dance with me. There's a 9 and a 7, then the rest of the girls I wouldn't go for cause I think they're not too attractive, but I'm sure they'd be pretty easy to date. Of course, the only girl I'm interested in is the one hot girl, maybe that's another reason I don't have much success.
Well, if you've read this far, let me say thank you for your attention. I hope to give more posts of progress over time.
The problem:
I usually feel really awkward in social situations -- I often get to the point where I become extremely shy and my voice starts to barely work properly from all the anxiety and self-consciousness; being in a loud environment really makes the problem worse since my already weakened voice becomes basically unintelligble. I can remember the time I was 14 and went out with 4 girls for a casual night at the mall and I literally turned in to a mute -- not saying a word for hours. It's not that bad anymore, but I still have to fight whatever it is that's going on inside my head.
Honestly, I alwasy feel that if I could only get my voice and anxiety together, I could solve all my social problems. If only it was that easy, who knows what sort of psychological hole I have dug myself in to.
About me:
I'm 26, 6 ft, 170 pounds. I think I'm decent looking, no worse than a 7. I turned my life around at the age of 16, I mastered the SAT, went to an elite college, and graduated with honors. I travelled, then set up my own business which has been going strong for 3 years now. I make 6 figures, drive a hot 2006 car, and have a 4 bedroom house all to myself. I'll probably have a million bucks by my early thirties.
Sexual history: I haven't been a total failure with women. And when I list my experience, I may sound like I'm not doing that bad. But I get so anxious and withdrawn that I know I haven't reached my potential, I'm just too socially retarded.
At 14, a 13 year old girl got infatuated with me thinking I was a cute rebel, we became official I guess, she said she loved me, and she told me on the phone she wanted me to fvck her. But I always clammed up to the extreme when around her and her friends as usual so nothing came of it, even though I was a horny bastard eager to lose my virginity. At 16, I almost had a one night stand with a hot girl -- she tried a BJ on me, though I was too drunk and nervous to get hard, let alone fvck her, though we tried that too. Over the years there were a few makeout sessions here and there when drunk, but nothing too exciting. And after I focused on school from the age of 16, I became especially socially retarded.
I was a virgin until I was 21, when I happened to get a serious girlfriend in college by circumstance. I broke up with her, and at 22 I found a horny (kinda ugly) girl on the internet; she turned out to be a great fvck buddy, she'd do anything you'd find in a porno, yes, she even liked that. She had stuff on her computer I wouldn't download for fear of somebody finding out about it. She always told me I'd never find a girl as horny as she.
After a few months of this I went travelling in Asia, and I got to experience life as a mini-DJ -- 4 girls in one month, even fvcked 2 girls in one 24 hour period -- but it's not very hard for a decent looking young foreigner to be successful in Asia. And no, these weren't prostitutes, most of the time I did 50/50 on all expenses with them. I found a great girl -- innocent, nurse with a car -- who eventually fell in love with me and was on my couch ready to fvck, but I knew I was just having fun and I didn't want to ruin her, so I made us just be friends and never did the deed. I've had an Asian girlfriend for the past 3 years as I lived in Asia, she's got a model's body, but we're not soul mates or anything, and it's an economic relationship since she's also my full time assistant for my business.
Now:
But here I am, back in the US, and I'm a big loner who'd like to have an exciting social life and lots of girls. I still get turned in to a nervous wreck in lots of social situations. My voice is just fine when I don't think about, or am talking to just one or two people in a quiet environment. But if the social situation is more than that, I start to get so self-conscious and my voice gets horrible again, not to mention the anxiety.
I saw them talking about Neil Strauss's book on Current TV, so I ordered it and read it. That was 2-3 weeks ago, I've been in to this stuff ever since.
I've been reading "Feel the fear and do it anyway", "Double your dating", "The Book of Pook", and on the way I have books on voice, body language, and other good stuff.
I'm starting to work out seriously again. I am shooting to put on 10 pounds of muscle in the next couple of months. I'm eating as much as I can, drinking a daily protein shake, and taking creatine.
I'm flirting with easy targets. Basically girls behind the counter who have to talk to me. I think I'm coming off as a pretty attractive guy, but I haven't moved past just a few lines of chat. I think the next thing I need to do is continue the talk, "build rapport" as they say, and try for number closes. This would be a brand new world for me. Just knowing that there are guys out there who aren't naturals who have learned these skills is enough to help me do it.
I'm taking community education classes and they look to be excellent places to at least get more socially comfortable. Oh my god, you guys have to try dancing classes. I'm taking Salsa. Let me tell you about the math here. 20 girls, 10 guys, and all of the other guys are there with their wifes/girlfriends. So I'm the only single guy with 10 girls who are basically forced to dance with me. There's a 9 and a 7, then the rest of the girls I wouldn't go for cause I think they're not too attractive, but I'm sure they'd be pretty easy to date. Of course, the only girl I'm interested in is the one hot girl, maybe that's another reason I don't have much success.
Well, if you've read this far, let me say thank you for your attention. I hope to give more posts of progress over time.
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