Review my Match.com profile. Especially photos.

[LoneRanger]

I live in Saginaw, MI which is probably the WORSE place to expect to find anyone worth while to date. A low income ex-factory town ghetto.

I rarely get profile views and even rarer get responses no matter how many women I email. There are no places to hang out here (to see and be seen) but bars. :kick: In short, I have had ZERO luck.

However, what do you guys think of my profile and the new photos I uploaded?
http://www.match.com/profile/showPr...handle=trikke_king&tp=S&pn=1&rn=4&do=0&lid=18

Is the 3-D picture too "childish" or do you think it will be a good ice breaker with a better class, fun woman than found here?

Dont hold back on evaluations but please remember I am 42.

I am planning to move by the end of the year to Detroit Metro where there is a 1) higher income (twice that of here) 2) better class people 3) 5 times more women registered with Match.com than here and 4) people are much more cheerful. :rockon:

I think my luck will improve after that but still am looking for suggestions.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think one must have a match.com account in order to view your profile. I can see your user name and a thumbnail pic of you in sunglasses, but that's all.

Match, especially for people our age, is only going to make you happy if you are both in a hurry to get married and not especially selective. It's predominantly middle-aged moo cows with kids who expect to be swept off their cankles like princesses.

 

[Mike32ct]

I more or less agree with all of this. I just put a few additional comments or clarifications.

Ok Lone Ranger, we have a bit of work to do here.

1. First of all, all of your pics have you with a hat on. Are you losing your hair? If not, you need to lose most if not all of these pics and put one up without a hat. If you are balding, shave your head and get the bad boy look. 42 year olds can be bad boys too, and i've banged lots of hot women in their 30's who are still attracted to this type of guy (i guess some never learn).

You might not need a full bad boy look, but maybe consider some facial hair (unless its all gray)?. Then you can rock the shaved look without the hat.

2. You're a built, pretty good looking guy. I have no idea why you're squandering these advantages by posting such shoddy pics of yourself. Lose the pic of you with the dukes of hazzard car, it makes you look like a redneck. Also lose the pics of you with the 3D glasses and your profile pic.

Most women in the north won't be into the orange car from a former tv show. Delete that one.

No offense, but the 3D glasses or the crazy wayfarer glasses really look bad. Please get rid of those first.

3. Bottom line, lose ALL of the pics you have up except for maybe the one you have next to Bill Mumy. You look good in that one (despite the hat), your good physique is more obvious, and you stand out as even better looking next to that ugly short guy. Try to post other pics of you looking really good, all dressed up, and without that damn hat.

This^

4. I actually really liked everything you wrote, i don't see much problem there. I like that you talk about not being crazy about the bars, it makes you look a person of value and also makes it seem like you're selective about who you date, which women find attractive. The only things I would change about the written portion of your profile is the reference to saginaw in your title, and the "gainfully employed" comment. This makes it seem like you're trying too hard to please. Let women know you run your own business and leave it at that. This shows you're confident and a man of initiative. Don't reveal what kind of business you run, leave this as a bit of mystery which can open up conversation when you start chatting up the girls.

You also might want to leave your income blank or "prefer not to say." Since you are self-employed, let her wonder what you make.

Also maybe change "moderate" drinker to "social" drinker? Moderate drinker might be a turn off to mature women?

Just my 2 cents.

 

[SecondHalf]

Match, especially for people our age, is only going to make you happy if you are both in a hurry to get married and not especially selective. It's predominantly middle-aged moo cows with kids who expect to be swept off their cankles like princesses.

So funny, and so true.
I can't go back there!


SH

 

[LoneRanger]

thanks for the advise. Will take another look at those photos.

I am going to move to a more affluent, thriving area by winter. (Kid Rock and Aretha Franklin live about 10 minutes away from where I am looking at) I am positive that this will be of big help. Saginaw, MI is a lower class, unemployed region. Never had luck with any women from around here and lots of people are moving away.

 

[MatureDJ]

Detroit is "thriving"?

 

[Mr.Positive]

Lone Ranger, I'm not sure what neighbourhood or suburb of detroit you're moving to, but i fear you may be setting your expectations a little too high here.

Lone Ranger, I am unable to view your profile to give any direct advise.

I will give some general advise, that all of us men, can perhaps benefit from.

The key to online dating, is to not care at all. Seriously. Put up some pics, write an honest profile, then go message some gals.....the gals that respond, get their phone number. Call them up and talk to them.

It really is that simple. Don't over think it. Take the initiative and message the gals that interest you. Just keep at it, I generally get 3-4 responses out of 10 gals I message. If a gal responds to you, you basically can get her number at that point. Just get it, and call her up.

Using online dating to get numbers, numbers means meeting them in person.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Lone Ranger, I am unable to view your profile to give any direct advise.

I will give some general advise, that all of us men, can perhaps benefit from.

The key to online dating, is to not care at all. Seriously. Put up some pics, write an honest profile, then go message some gals.....the gals that respond, get their phone number. Call them up and talk to them.

It really is that simple. Don't over think it. Take the initiative and message the gals that interest you. Just keep at it, I generally get 3-4 responses out of 10 gals I message. If a gal responds to you, you basically can get her number at that point. Just get it, and call her up.

Using online dating to get numbers, numbers means meeting them in person.

The key to online dating, is to not care at all. Seriously. Put up some pics, write an honest profile, then go message some gals.....the gals that respond, get their phone number. Call them up and talk to them.

It really is that simple. Don't over think it.

^^^This.^^^

Don't 'fall in love' with the pretty pictures and profile fluff filler and 'worry' about what to email.

I found the dvmbest sh1t I've made up and sent gets responses like crazy.

Most dudes send boring B.S or are too try hard to 'mirror' the likes of a chicks profile. Send them nonsense. It makes it so they think you aren't desperate but fun and taking 'online dating' for what it is.

Chicks who need online 'dating' are on there for good reason....and 99.999% of the time it's not 'good'. Remember that.

Go through about four email exchanges and tell them to give you their number and you'll give them a call sometime.

 

[disgustipated]

Ahh Sagnasty. Bro went to college there. I remember there being decent chicks from college around but if you can't pull from that demo then yeah I remember that place as pretty gloomy....sorta a mini Flint.

Also I was from the downriver area of Detroit. Imo you are gonna be covered, in the variety of women. Hot girls in every class imo, upper middle and lower. I did quite well for me off PoF....my bro cleaned up Lmao. I semi grew up there and in Ohio...downriver had some of the hottest women in the area imo...way better than Toledo. If you want a quick lay hit up some Toledo spots but for quality stay with Michigan areas. Numbers will be an improvement over Sagnasty for sure.

 

[cordoncordon]

Ahh Sagnasty. Bro went to college there. I remember there being decent chicks from college around but if you can't pull from that demo then yeah I remember that place as pretty gloomy....sorta a mini Flint.

Also I was from the downriver area of Detroit. Imo you are gonna be covered, in the variety of women. Hot girls in every class imo, upper middle and lower. I did quite well for me off PoF....my bro cleaned up Lmao. I semi grew up there and in Ohio...downriver had some of the hottest women in the area imo...way better than Toledo. If you want a quick lay hit up some Toledo spots but for quality stay with Michigan areas. Numbers will be an improvement over Sagnasty for sure.

I was born in Toledo . Moved to Saginaw when I was 4 and grew up there. One of the wealthier townships though, not downtown. I got my start with race horses at good old Saginaw Valley Downs! Saginaw is bad, but back in the 80's and early 90's, it wasn't THAT bad. In fact there were some VERY cute girls that went to Swan valley, Douglas McCarthur, Eisenhower, Frankenmuth, etc.

Then I moved to Fenton, which I loved, and from there to Macomb, a suburb of Detroit, all white, and there are tons tons tons of hotties there, actually in all of the Detroit suburbs-you would be surprised. I live in the LA area now in CA, and I can say there are very comparable white girls in terms of ratings in the wealthier areas of Detroit to that in Los Angeles. The difference is there are tons more hot white girls in LA and the beach cities around it, and there are way more girls of different ethnicities, especially Asian. Tons of hot ones here. IF I was single and in my 20's? I would move to the OC area or the beach cities south of Long Beach. You will literally die from all the hot women in those areas. A true smorgasbord of hotness.

 

[Boilermaker]

the key to online dating

is to have a PRIMARY source IN ADDITION to online dating.


When I was actively involved in REAL LIFE dating, I would get a note from (online) women every once in a while...


This agrees with -you shall not care in online dating- as well. The only way not to care is to replace it with something else.

If Jophil was alive, he would tell you "knuckleheads" to join dance classes and actually do something useful with your time.

His words, not mine.

 

[LoneRanger]

Take the initiative and message the gals that interest you. Just keep at it, I generally get 3-4 responses out of 10 gals I message. If a gal responds to you, you basically can get her number at that point. Just get it, and call her up.

Thanks. Over here in Saginaw I message 15 to 20 women within a 25 mile radious and get maybe 2 responses.


As for moving into the Detroit area of Michigan:

The last two or three from the Saginaw area that I met off of Match.com turned out to be wet brain drunks / pill poppers. This is a low income, low class region. Exit town.

Over the past 12 months I went on maybe 4 dates. Scarcity problems.

Moving to a better population and demographic will give me places to "see and be seen" among people my age which does not exist here. Also, most who want a good job have one.

I'm looking at Waterford Twp right now. This will put me within 10 to 35 minutes of all the places where I have things in common with folks and lots of places to meet women. Over here in Saginaw it is like dumpster diving of the worst kind. Too many here have issues and mental problems.

 

[LoneRanger]

Detroit is "thriving"?

Michigan has one of the most growing economies in the USA right now. So many people have moved out and things are so inexpensive it has become ripe for investment.

The inner city of Detroit is so far gone it won't start to turn around until all the properties crumble to the ground but there are areas like Downtown that are doing great. And some of the better, non Section 8 / Welfare neighborhoods are seeing a rebirth, too. :rockon: