reverse field report-charm will get you everywhere

[iqqi]

here is a "reverse field report" that will back up my previous thread on body type is not that important.

i am at work (a hotel) and a guy just came in. he was smiling, i couldn't even tell if he was needing any help until i asked, because he was just chill.

me "what is your last name?", as i start pulling up the reservations
him "montejo" pause, smile, and lifted eyebrows, spanish accent, "and what is yours?"
-AFC's take note, that was charm right there.
me, smiling "iqqi"
i look up at him at this point. he is a short, lanky guy about 5'4 maybe. nice green (?) eyes and unruly curly dark hair, kind of reminded me of elijah wood (frodo from LOTR). cute.
me not seeing his name listed...confusion...
..."you don't have a reservation..." (we are SOLD OUT, so i start to worry). i look up at him and realize i jumped the gun and just assumed he had a reservation without even asking.
him "nope." he is two steps ahead of me. he has observed my assumptious nature, noticed my confusion, and is delighting in my realizations.
at this point i am thinking that he will be getting my number. (BUT! my mind begins, he is like your height! is he really that cute....)
i look up at him and he is just smiling (at me, at that, finding me...amusing?!). yup. he ain't all that but the way he is smiling and looking, i am completely charmed, he will get the number. we are looking at each other and i can tell he is completely interested, i am feeling the chemicals!

to make a story short(er), and it is a sad story, right in the midst of our connection we were making, a girl walks in. his girl. hhahahahhaahah! the look on his face was one of regret, disappointment, and "damn b!tch, why didn't you stay in the car!
the worst part was, i lost control of my body language! see, i am a master at disquising emotion and reaction. but i was blushing the whole time, and then when the chic walked in, i sent her a look to kill, (uncontrollably!) and he caught it!

a short skinny guy had the great iqqimus putty in the palm of his hand....

charm, fellas. it is a secret ingredient that will hook people.

 

[ryan killa]

That guy sounds like me, except I'm taller.

 

[SamePendo]

A damn lunatic dressed up as a travesti would charm you. That is charm? Damn, I must be god then!

 

[Slickster]

me "what is your last name?", as i start pulling up the reservations
him "montejo" pause, smile, and lifted eyebrows, spanish accent, "and what is yours?"
....

What if he wasn't attractive, kind of ugly or dorky looking and said the same thing?

You'd think he was a cheeseball loser trying to pick you up.

His looks got you first, then his charm. Am I wrong???

 

[Julian]

Slickster, why would you even question the obvious?

The thing is women have check lists in their heads that determine what qualities they are looking for in a guy.

She was looking at this guy positives and negatives. Pos - nice eyes, neg - short.

I think what shes saying is that if you have charm, it makes up for some flaws that a chick sees in you.

I agree with this sentiment.

 

[iqqi]

i actually want to stress here that his looks in the matter were completely secondary in the formation of my opinion of the young lad.

when i first noticed him at the desk, i "noticed" as in took note, as in took interest, in his demeanor. he was just chilling. but kind of mischevious/curious, his whole demeanor was just...refreshing.

then when he asked my name, in the same sentence of me asking his (for business purposes) that was also refreshing, and charming, and suave. (NOTE-THIS IS WHEN I DID THE FIRST "QUALIFYING LOOKOVER)

then when i realized that i was sitting there jumping the gun, and that he wasn't trying to stop me, he was basically using me for amusement, in a way, that got me. (NOTE-THIS IS WHEN I "MADE SURE" THAT HE DIDN'T LOOK LIKE AN UGLY TROLL)

and what "would have" sealed the deal was the fact that we had an interesting chemistry going on. plus he was decent looking. (plus, as in IN ADDITION to). not "my type", but his looks were...interesting...nevertheless.
i was at work, i don't pick up guys at work, so i wasn't paying attention to his looks, until he peaked my intrigue with his charm and demeanor.

 

[drixsa]

uhhh iqqi why arent u at the game?

 

[white_hype]

beggers cant be choosers

and to think, you almost had the young mexican dishwasher but your "body language" broke...

WOW, quit posting

 

[FoxHound20]

I like discussions regarding sensuality.

Iqqi, what traits do you view as being sensual regarding men in general?

Eye contact, walking smooth, and tonality are major sensual traits to have. What gets you going though?

By the way, just ignore these ignorant afcs who criticize your every move. It's like when a female comes into "their" cave, they get all defensive and patriachal. Chill out guys.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by FoxHound20
Iqqi, what traits do you view as being sensual regarding men in general?

its hard to answer "in general" because it really is unique in most cases. like the guy in this thread, lets call him frodo. (haha). since it wasn't something "in general" i tried to outline the whole interaction, and point out the specific sensual/charming/suave moments on his behalf.

each guy i have been with who i described as sensual, they all had it in their own way. its like if you described my love life as a comic book, and sensuality was the weapon (not the right word for my analogy), i have collected 4 or 5 different x-men.

sensuality is the x factor, ahahahahaah!

obviously charm is sensuality. so is smoothness. so is being comfortable in your own skin.

also when you are sensual you are one with your senses, and the enviroment surrounding you. it goes with owning yourself, you then own your enviroment. and it will show when you enter a room, when you survey a room, you will have a presense that will be FELT- which is a sense. therefor it is like your sensuality is contagious. follow?

 

[Master of the Universe]

Hi iqqi,

Interesting post.

I'll have to agree that his attitude made a big impact on you finding him desirable.

And I would like to point one other thing which made him even more desirable - the fact that his girl came in, and you felt that he was still interested.

Here are the basic steps:

1) He was confident and charming
2) You were mildly interested but that would have probably been the end of it
3) His girl comes in
4) Fear of loss hit in, mixed with him giving you a signal that he is interested = major increase in attraction
5) Re-review of your interaction to justify your emotions. At this step your minded justified your emotions by analyzing the interaction and all the possible ways that he was charming. By you thinking this over several times, your attraction increased further, and he appeared even more charming and suave. It becomes a loop.

I'm willing to bet that if he had got your number, and a few more situations like this would happen again over a month or two... a combination of hope and uncertainty, you would become infatuated or in love with him.

MotU

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by Master of the Universe
And I would like to point one other thing which made him even more desirable - the fact that his girl came in, and you felt that he was still interested.

nope. you're wrong, my friend. i don't fcuk with someone else's mess. if you read the first post ( i am sure you did), you will see that is where this story ended. it didn't "pick up" at that point. it "ended".

 

[Real Man]

iqqi,

questions:

do women like big penis?

do you want big penis?

 

[MVPlaya]

Originally posted by iqqi
kind of reminded me of elijah wood (frodo from LOTR). cute.

You have poor taste in men.

 

[iqqi]

Re: Re: reverse field report-charm will get you everywhere

Originally posted by MVPlaya
You have poor taste in men.

what?! anyways, i said that is not my usual type.


....you gay bastard! hahahahahaha

 

[Porky]

Real man has a strange infatuation with penises (his own and others).

Stop trying to prove your point, Starman.

 

[Mr. Latte]

Am I the only one who wants to see a pic of Iqqi? Helps put the story into perspective.

 

[chlywly]

I second that; pics!!!! lol but true charm does work wonders, a simple smile and air of confidence is part of it.

 

[Evo]

i third that pic