the easy thing to do with deangelo is become too much of a prick/jerky guy.
if you are not funny his stuff will not work.
a lot of what his techniques need good humour to set up the "i am better than you and hotter" frame....if you dont do that, then you will come off as a condecending *******.
His stuff is great. I had instant success over what i had before (which was a good deal).
Thing is, it brings out the confidence in you.
If you are starting from a place that is pretty good, you will be better. You dont need to change much.
Thats to be expected.
If you are starting from the basement, then you will need to work hard to improve a lot.
His is a programme. It takes effort. And experience and practice.
Its not just theory.
With his stuff, remember, practice.
I think of it as a metal frame around me (theoretically i dont walk around thinking that) and i have filled in the gaps....so its integrated into me.
His stuff will make you hot stuff...believe me...but the thing is, you NEED to be that person he is pushing you towards to become hot stuff.
If you contiunue to be a dork, you wont get anywhere.
My main thoughts on him -
A lot of his stuff is misinterpreted because people just plain dont understand or wont take the time to understand. A lot of it is extreemly good. Some is incomplete. Some areas he focussed on needed less in the program, and some areas he focussed on needed more.
When he did the program, he was working with the seminar attendees....their needs are not ours dont forget.
But the overall picture is there and attainable. You just need to work on it and experience it.
But its like anything in life of this nature.....you are trying to become someone....so therefore you are going to be (deep down) fake, until you finally reach a level where you are in fact 'seemless' with that person you want to be.
And it can come crashing down like a house of cards.
I once went out with a girl who was all hot and bothered with me.....but i got upset at something she done (even tho it was VERY bad, she was coming onto other guys in an effort to make me jealous)....and i crashed and burned.
How i am as a person now, i know i dont need her i can get someone else, and the person i am seeing now and others i have seen surpass her anyway, so it doesnt matter....
but i think you can see where my seams started to show.
And thats the other thing (with this site as well as deangelo).....you will get with people you would never have gotten with before for a variety of reasons....for me. 1 i am trying stuff out and it goes further 2, i am acting a certain way and it goes further 3. you get someone who was before out of your class.
Whatever....just remember, it takes a fair bit of polish, or perhaps better....you REALLY have to believe the principles and follow them. You have to teach yourself a new way to live.
Thats whats hard. And thats where people stuff up IMHO