You've been too rough. Don't take these things literally. As with everything: forget the teaching after you've learned it!!!!!!!.
Don't talk about it with her. Do something else that she won't object to. Do it silently. In a quiet sense. Lead her casually, but carefully. She is about to lose her trust in you, her safety in you, so be safe with her. Lead her in a "cozy" way that she feels protected by. Keep her hot / aroused for a while. Make it a sort of lengthy thing. It is alright if you lose interest midway. Don't command her in any way. Lead her with your soft touch. If you want her elsewhere, gently direct her elsewhere.
If she's been turned on to the point of orgasm for a while, she will start to crave your more aggressive side. In a sense, her mind will start begging. THEN you can say "come here". "do this". But don't start with the bl0wjob because you ruined it with her. End with the bl0wjob.
Once she starts mentally begging for commandments, you MIGHT say "come here". "on your knees". "Let me look at you". "You've been a bit ... you haven't listened very well have you...". Make it serious and with a feeling of regret and sadness (really the opposite of smiling). You're not smiling when you say this and neither is she. You're just stating the facts. She's been rather disobedient (don't use that word, it is too strong, be subtle, use the silence between words and sentences to convey your meaning). It is a kind of indicting statement but without guilt. In any case, I'm sure you know what I mean full enough.
You might shake your head in disappointment. You might 'frown your lips' a bit. Just be natural. "You've been a bit ... not listening very well mm?" She admits, nods her head silently. Don't make it exciting. Don't use words like "bad girl". Keep the excitement out of it.
Sigh. The impression is that you don't know what to do with her (with such a disobedient girl). Notice that she takes heed of your .. disappointment and your tiresomeness. She must feel she has let you down.
Make sure almost nothing of this is explicit in words.
It must be subtle or she will bolt.
Better not say something than say it too quick or too strong. You probably have time with her. But don't act cold either.
And do not hold anything against her. She is just to notice that she has been disobedient to you.
After you know and feel that she gets it (because she nods) you might do something like mutter "what we're gonna do about that...." out loud but quietly.
You might roughly stroke/push her head a little as you absentmindedly consider this question.......
In the end you will say "Okay.....". Then do like kiss her forehead. Kiss her left cheek. Take her with you and make warm love and let her come.
She will already have become more obedient and she might even suck or offer to suck your c0ck out of her own volition now. Let her handle that for a bit. Just give her the opportunity to show some willingness and some kind of initiative in making it up, let her handle that part now.
Praise her for it subtle, maybe not with words but with facial gestures. Start leading her again and fvck her from behind. Then do something rough like grab the hair at the back of her skull and move her to the side of the bed with this slight bit of pain (but not really). Then like stop your motion (be creative) and start eating her out. Then you can say "on your knees now."
"I want that bl0wjob, you know I do. So be good."
She might still resist it a little bit. Be upset. Be angry. If she starts to protest in whatever way, start to indicate she won't be getting that anymore. No more eating, and you don't feel like sex for a while.
Loose interest. Maybe she'll go and suck.
But you just still feel disappointed. Let her know in some way or another. Then finally, after a while, you have to do this by yourself, you will aggressively push her against the wall face first. Start touching her pvssy and do the rest as you want it. It might turn out to be violence.
It might turn out to be anger. You might yell at her. You fill it up in between with cuddling. But in the end it might be a slam-slap in the face and something you could call rape. If you can let yourself go that far. The point is this:
- most girls crave violence against them whether they know it or not.
- I'm not saying I have successful experience beyond something relatively mild...
- I wish I had lol. She'd regret it. These girls just deserve it.
- after knowing who's boss they are not left with any desire to become all ego controlling on you
- a meekness ensues.
- to do it you must create an assortment of levels. She must have experienced varying forms of sweetness, a bit of distance/coldness, good sex, she must have been in a state of begging (in your case) and she must have opened herself up to being a more good girl already.
- if you don't overdo yourself you can let this cycle be something that gradually grows onto the real thing. If you don't want to go beyond a certain point, just stop. That might end the encounter or get it into something mild again. Doesn't matter. The cycle is going to repeat itself and next time you'll be more violent.
- safe and small-step escalation is going to turn her on and get used to it, while letting you know your strength and how far you can go.
- each time the various states will be faster to reach. The sex will be a bit rougher and your handling of her too. You will also be milder and sweeter. You can use stronger words, less subtle. Because you can refer to previous sessions.
"I thought I told you to listen. I did, didn't I?" "Okay yeah, you did, I'm sorry."
"Then obey for a while... jeesus. Is it that hard? ....." "No......
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". "Okay so come here. What's this? ..... It's my c0ck. You know what to do with it?".
"Hmmhmm". "I don't think you really do. " .............."You wanna know why?" <nods>.
"It's because you've not learned to listen to it yet."
"That's why."
"Would you even deny that?".
"It's your boss but you still seem to think it is your handy tool that you can do with whatever you like, right."
A bit of laughter.
"So if it is your boss, don't you think you should deal with it a bit differently? In the sense of letting it deal with you?"
Nods slightly enthousiast.
"So if the c0ck tells you to spread your legs, what do you do?"
"Show it to me, if you even can
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".
More laughter.
She strangely reluctantly (just pretends to be reluctant) spreads her legs for you with horny look.
You talk to your c0ck "See, I told you she could do that!
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".
"It's a good girl, isn't she.
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". She nods happily with fun in her face/eyes/mouth.
Take a deep breath.
You might just want to relax and take her up into your arms and just kiss and cuddle now.
Put a blanket over you.
Take a break for a while, make it light and fun.
Tease her, tickle her, etc. You know how it goes.
Introduce the c0ck as her master. Get her to be more serious in obeying it.