Reminder: The importance of checking bad behavior the moment you notice it.

[cola]

I just want to remind you guys that you have to have a 0 tolerance policy for disrespect. The first condescending remark, the first temper tantrum, the first snide comment .. immediately correct it. If it’s in the car pull over look her dead in her eyes and tell her “I don’t tolerate that”.. Don’t over explain, dont yell, don’t justify why you don’t .. just let it be perfectly clear that you will drop her off and never speak to her again in a calm deadpan tone.

if it’s in a bar/restauraunt/date scenario, you end the date, don’t make a scene in public. You wait till you get outside. And let her know “Hey, that little comment/remark/behavior, I don’t deal with that.”
And stand on that sh*t.
She gets one chance to correct the behavior if she is willing, that’s it.
Remember there are four billion women on earth there is never a need to settle for a defective model.

“If you own a business, you fire the employee who breaks rules during their probationary period”
Remember, the time you spend with her is taking away from the time you could be using to develop yourself. At the gym, side hustling, meal prepping. Value that time.
We want calm, kind, cooperative women.
Correct the small **** test long before she attempts the big one.
This literally would solve 90% of issues on this forum.

 

[BeExcellent]

Agree @cola and also think that men should not entertain low/no interest women. Those are the women most likely to pull crap, if a guy can get her out in the first place. Respect your time; respect yourself.

 

[DreamAgain]

Another idea that's great in theory, but counter productive in practice.

I am a bit confused I must say as to what the sentiment of this forum is anymore. Is it for picking up women with the intention of sleeping with them, or finding long term wife / mother of children potential candidates?

If the latter, then this is a huge undertaking which many would consider a lost cause in the United States, and for good reason. There is only so much correction of train tracks you can mend before the train flies off the cliff, the entire railroad would need to be deconstructed and the land reformed in order for the train to get to this "final destination".

 

[Gamisch]

Another idea that's great in theory, but counter productive in practice.

I am a bit confused I must say as to what the sentiment of this forum is anymore. Is it for picking up women with the intention of sleeping with them, or finding long term wife / mother of children potential candidates?

If the latter, then this is a huge undertaking which many would consider a lost cause in the United States, and for good reason. There is only so much correction of train tracks you can mend before the train flies off the cliff, the entire railroad would need to be deconstructed and the land reformed in order for the train to get to this "final destination".

Word on the street is that now 80% of men don't date. Quite a stretch, but a couple off years ago the number 63% went viral so its not impossible.

That seeps through into every layer of society. There will be muscular lawyers who are incels now. A simple Google search about women will often shows this site so it's logical that a lotta men who are struggling for whatever will find this place.

Not saying OP is necessarily struggling but I do get his sentiment. Tbh he does have a point. Gotta check disrespectful behaviour right away before it grows out of control. Most men don't wanna deal with that but refuse to acknowledge that women will test you. Before you know it the lack of understanding turn into anger and resentment.

 

[DreamAgain]

Word on the street is that now 80% of men don't date. Quite a stretch, but a couple off years ago the number 63% went viral so its not impossible.

That seeps through into every layer of society. There will be muscular lawyers who are incels now. A simple Google search about women will often shows this site so it's logical that a lotta men who are struggling for whatever will find this place.

Not saying OP is necessarily struggling but I do get his sentiment. Tbh he does have a point. Gotta check disrespectful behaviour right away before it grows out of control. Most men don't wanna deal with that but refuse to acknowledge that women will test you. Before you know it the lack of understanding turn into anger and resentment.

Dating is for the purposes of a long term relationship, if I know a girl will be short term just fun it is setting up a drink here and there and back to the apartment for fireworks.

Knowing how prevalent social media is, the dating app carousel of 1000 guys in the inbox after a few days, whoever would want to wife these girls is completely delusional.

 

[BPH]

I just want to remind you guys that you have to have a 0 tolerance policy for disrespect. The first condescending remark, the first temper tantrum, the first snide comment .. immediately correct it. If it’s in the car pull over look her dead in her eyes and tell her “I don’t tolerate that”.. Don’t over explain, dont yell, don’t justify why you don’t .. just let it be perfectly clear that you will drop her off and never speak to her again in a calm deadpan tone.

if it’s in a bar/restauraunt/date scenario, you end the date, don’t make a scene in public. You wait till you get outside. And let her know “Hey, that little comment/remark/behavior, I don’t deal with that.”
And stand on that sh*t.
She gets one chance to correct the behavior if she is willing, that’s it.
Remember there are four billion women on earth there is never a need to settle for a defective model.

“If you own a business, you fire the employee who breaks rules during their probationary period”
Remember, the time you spend with her is taking away from the time you could be using to develop yourself. At the gym, side hustling, meal prepping. Value that time.
We want calm, kind, cooperative women.
Correct the small **** test long before she attempts the big one.
This literally would solve 90% of issues on this forum.

Why do I feel like there's a story attached to this? That's what I was looking for in the post

 

[cola]

Hey bro, one problem I’ve always had with this forum..and one reason I think a lot of guys aren’t getting laid on and off this forum is unrealistic standards ..
I feel like a lot of guys here have always had this mindset that it’s 9’s and 10’s or nothing.

We have to remember when we are talking about those type of chicks exactly who we are competing against.

A chick who is a legit head turning 10 very likely has celebrities in her dm. I’m speaking from experience. I’ve worked in night clubs with some very hot bartenders and waitresses. They have literally shown me celebrities offering to “fly them out for the weekend”..
So once a chick has been with a man with a million dollars in monthly play money, it’s hard for her to take Jim from accounting seriously.

For the best results with women you should be slightly more attractive than the woman.



If you are a 7 your target should be 5s.
If you bang a mutual 7 that’s a big win.
All men should drop their standards by 2 points.
The p*ssy will still be good, I promise.

It’s like saying “I’m not gonna drive cars at all if I can’t afford a Porsche.”

 

[cola]

Why do I feel like there's a story attached to this? That's what I was looking for in the post

When I post it’s generally more so as a reminder to myself and I feel like others could benefit. Yes, there is a story to this.

I violated some rules I know recently, I guess I kind of backslid, which is why I’m back around now probably.

 

[pipeman84]

Another idea that's great in theory, but counter productive in practice.

I am a bit confused I must say as to what the sentiment of this forum is anymore. Is it for picking up women with the intention of sleeping with them, or finding long term wife / mother of children potential candidates?

If the latter, then this is a huge undertaking which many would consider a lost cause in the United States, and for good reason. There is only so much correction of train tracks you can mend before the train flies off the cliff, the entire railroad would need to be deconstructed and the land reformed in order for the train to get to this "final destination".

Even if you're dealing with hoes, why would the approach described in OP be counter productive? Isn't it a fact that most hoes prefer a gentleman or bad boy as opposed to a 'nice guy' simp who doesn't dare put her in her place?

 

[DreamAgain]

Even if you're dealing with hoes, why would the approach described in OP be counter productive? Isn't it a fact that most hoes prefer a gentleman or bad boy as opposed to a 'nice guy' simp who doesn't dare put her in her place?

In my experience hoes don't like to be lectured/corrected, which would be happening very frequently if we are indeed dealing with hoes.

 

[cola]

In my experience hoes don't like to be lectured/corrected, which would be happening very frequently if we are indeed dealing with hoes.

Most of the time they’ll fall in line, because women these days just aren’t use to that level or manliness. The ones who don’t have low interest or mental health issues. Either way, it’s a win win. You’re saving yourself a headache later:

 

[cola]

Also sidenote: Know the difference between playful teasing and disrespect.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I just want to remind you guys that you have to have a 0 tolerance policy for disrespect.

I agree but can you give examples? I find it subjective, every man (every person) will have a different take on what's considered disrespectful and bad behavior, not to mention the context and how sensitive he is to it. Based on past experiences etc.

For example perhaps she was just teasing or being playful, and he took it seriously and thus found it disrespectful?

Whereas another man gets the playfulness and teases her back! Doesn't take offense to it all.

I've seen this happen!

I dunno maybe I'm off, it's not always so black and white imo.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

If you have options. And she knows you have options. It’s not that hard to shut down her bad behavior.

 

[cola]

I agree but can you give examples? I find it subjective, every man will have a different take in what's considered disrespectful, not to mention the context and how sensitive he is to it. Based on past experiences etc.

For example perhaps she was just teasing or being playful, and he took it seriously and thus found it disrespectful?

Whereas another man gets the playfulness and teases her back! Doesn't take offense to it all.

I've seen this happen!

I dunno maybe I'm off, it's not always so black and white imo.

Valid points

.. for me personally, comments about superficial things like my choice of outfit, my hairstyle I can write off as playful banter and tease back.

I get really upset about attacks on manhood.
For example the trendy word girls are saying is “sassy” for example if a guy does something she doesn’t like she deems him feminine by saying he is acting “sassy”.. I don’t play that. And that word is trending.

Don’t ever tell me “what a real man should/would do” I really dislike that because who gave you authority over manhood?

I think name calling is a bit too far .. “dumbass, *****” etc etc .. draw your own line in the sand for everyone it would be different.

 

[Gamisch]

If you have options. And she knows you have options. It’s not that hard to shut down her bad behavior.

Underrated comment

 

[Gamisch]

When I post it’s generally more so as a reminder to myself and I feel like others could benefit. Yes, there is a story to this.

I violated some rules I know recently, I guess I kind of backslid, which is why I’m back around now probably.

I feel that. It's sometimes annoying how limited the room for error is around some women. Recently lost a good one by letting my guard down. We live and we learn.