Rollo Tomassi said:
Agreed, but you're missing the point. I'm not suggesting he goofed up at all. He was what he was; queer as a 3 dollar bill and tragically human. He's a shining example of biology trumping conviction. What is belief but a set of internalized mental schemas and behavior modifications? There's no doubt in my mind that Ted Haggard could very easily passed a polygraph test about his "religious convictions" he believed the things he said in church, but his biology dictated his behavior.
I'm personally undecided on the "biology" of homosexuality. I probably lean more towards LMS's viewpoint of it; that its more a perversion than it is hardwired biology. It was only sum 15 years ago or so that it was removed from the DSM-IV psychological disorder book and that probably was mostly due to political pressure.
Now dont get me wrong... I get turned on as much as any guys with 2 women going at it.... especially if i can join in!
But, more on point, since the bible
specifically identifies homosexuality as also being a damnable sin, then it suggests that he could have chosen to not "partake" in this sin. So, from a christain perspective, biology didn't win out; sin and "choosing self over God" did.
Rollo Tomassi said:
Nothing is required for forgiveness beyond accpeting faith:For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - Ephesians 2:8
There are tons of versus that say more than faith is required; a testiment to the bible's contradictory nature. I'll assume you concede this. If not, let me know and I'll bombard you with versus that suggest more than faith is needed.
Rollo Tomassi said:
I'm not trying to flame you here either AZANON, but personally I think you have more of a problem with what I advocate here, rather than any ideological motivation for them, because it's a personal affront to the decisions you've made for your own life in getting married so early and not experiencing more in the time you have been.
So far, you haven't flammed me and have been respectful.
What i'm about to tell you is truth and you can either believe it or not. I
do not regret marrying my wife. I met her when I did, so that was the time to marry her.
Yes, in hindsight, I probably would have like to have had more sex prior to marrying her when i did, but I think that's more a "grass is greener on the other side" issue than anything else. What i mean is, if someone knew the "deal" I have (my wife), they would say "Are you out of your freakin' mind; that woman's wonderful!".
Please don't feel bad for me on this point though. I can assure you I am compensating for this "regret", if you will, in my own personal way. Generally speaking, i spend
very little time regretting the past, and far more time living life to the fullest today.
Rollo Tomassi said:
I'm not trying to patronize you by stating this, but for the same reasons you can call into question how I justify myself, I can use the same method with your own situation. The difference is that I can speak from experiences that you chose to limit yourself from.
RT, the plan truth was that, back then, i was a strong practicing christain. I turned down 4 women that specifically and outright said or impled "please screw me". If i have any regret, I'd take all 4 of those up on their offer and maybe even add another 12 to that. Anyway, I have enough going for me that, single, I could do that without issue. But my parents raised me that way and, unfortunately, it took a lot of world experience and a masters degree in Biology to undo that "parental manipulation", if you will. That mental process and transformation wasn't fully completed until long after i was married. I at least experienced "a few" women prior to my marriage.
So, yeah, I would have loved to have been raised by parents who would have taught me out to think more dynamically and not warped my mind so much as to make me terrified to have anything resembling sex with a woman.
But all of this is besides the point of this discussion, quite frankly. I'm asking you only because you are arguably the most gifted writer here, you specifically identified youself as being a "christ-follower", yet you claim to have had 40-50 women. That's the only reason I asked you. If you want to presume it was more than that, then you're reading into it.