Relationships that leave you permanently damaged / not the same
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tick37 said:Let her go completely, and she will be back and astonished at your new found confidence. It happens every time, BUT do not take her back. Stay strong and this will build your courage and keep you strong for the next one. Guard you heart as the Bible says.
Keep up some walls and watch for the red flags. Dump chicks immediately that are playing games or disrespecting you. Forget this chick and find yourself. GAL - get a life. Do things that make you happy.
Find your own happiness and not from other women. That's where you fail. When they become your happiness, it never lasts.
So it's cool for me to ignore her attempts at talking to me?...or would you talk to the girl and be distant?.
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Be friendly and say hello, but do not chit chat or talk about your lives. Why is she trying to talk to you anyway?demonic said:So it's cool for me to ignore her attempts at talking to me?...or would you talk to the girl and be distant?.
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She asked me on msn like 2 weeks ago why i was on my old msn
Told her checking emails
Then today she say's, so can we be civil now then?..
I was kinda confused as i've not exactly been uncivil in anyway shape or form, so i just ignored it.
Told her checking emails
Then today she say's, so can we be civil now then?..
I was kinda confused as i've not exactly been uncivil in anyway shape or form, so i just ignored it.
demonic said:She asked me on msn like 2 weeks ago why i was on my old msn
Told her checking emails
Then today she say's, so can we be civil now then?..
I was kinda confused as i've not exactly been uncivil in anyway shape or form, so i just ignored it.
Just be "work" professional with her and cut her off otherwise. Those feelings will pass. Just keep it in your mind that you made a mistake by dating a woman at work, and it would be a bad idea to be with her again.
Peace and Quiet
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
Just remember that a lot of what you're feeling is what you've attached to it in your mind. Those thoughts can easily be changed if you try to look at it in a different manner. I'm sure that if you got this girl that you can get another.demonic said:Thanks Tick37 for the advice, appreciate it my friend.
I'll see how this goes for a week or so.
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Hey demonic you're lucky at least the girl you work with will talk to you. The one from my work treats me like I'm her worst enemy. She freaking hates my guts.
I'm surprised she didn't turn me in saying I harassed her. Maybe the hate she shows me is just some game in her mind since she is psychotic from a bad marriage.
I'm surprised she didn't turn me in saying I harassed her. Maybe the hate she shows me is just some game in her mind since she is psychotic from a bad marriage.
That's funny. Does it affect you? Does she get under your skin?My Name is Nobody said:Hey demonic you're lucky at least the girl you work with will talk to you. The one from my work treats me like I'm her worst enemy. She freaking hates my guts.
Peace and Quiet
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
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I explained it all in the 30 page thread about the crazy divorcee. I don't want to turn this into a hijack. And I don't want to talk about the crazy divorcee any more.tick37 said:That's funny. Does it affect you? Does she get under your skin?
You should try to be happy without a woman. Don't find another to make yourself feel better because there is plenty of time for that later. Right now just work on yourself and get better.demonic said:Yeah i've had few times where i could've got a new gf but did'nt.
I'll see where i go with the girl i'm talking to atm.
That's healthy.My Name is Nobody said:I explained it all in the 30 page thread about the crazy divorcee. I don't want to turn this into a hijack. And I don't want to talk about the crazy divorcee any more.
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tick37 said:That's funny. Does it affect you? Does she get under your skin?
And yeah it gets under my skin. It won't not get under my skin until I get the hell out of that place.
See? It has left me wanting to find a new job. Not good.
emotions ..pure emotion turmoil...and dude it's normal...
Fact : all emotions subside in duetime...just don't fight them...sometimes suffering is good...
and I don't think bedding chicks will actually help here ..coz you are not really into it....
Absorb the pain...you'll come out stronger....believe me.
Fact : all emotions subside in duetime...just don't fight them...sometimes suffering is good...
and I don't think bedding chicks will actually help here ..coz you are not really into it....
Absorb the pain...you'll come out stronger....believe me.
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
sherineo said:emotions ..pure emotion turmoil...and dude it's normal...
Fact : all emotions subside in duetime...just don't fight them...sometimes suffering is good...
and I don't think bedding chicks will actually help here ..coz you are not really into it....
Absorb the pain...you'll come out stronger....believe me.
I thought about doing that, it's weird...since i've lost the feeling of finding a girlfriend i've enjoyed more success with girls.
guess in life you have to take the good with the bad and try to come out laughing at the end of it all right.
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Demonic what would you say was your biggest loss about losing this relationship?
1. Was it the loss of a person who you believe uniquely "got you" unlike other girls?
If its this Interceptors inner game advice in just about all his posts is golden and required reading by you.
Also if she made you feel like no other just keep in mind that its a chemical reaction that you crave like a drug addict, you're on a dopamine high that is tied into her validating your self worth by wanting you. Its an ego thing and an addiction thing and it takes action via inner game work, turning your interests to something productive like hobbies and such and continually gaming new girls to break free of along with the passage of time and distance from the relationship.
2. Was it the loss of your trust overall towards women because of the way this girl dealt with you such as however it ended between you two being extremely negative despite your confiding your emotions in her so much?
The second one makes it hard to move forward because you can no longer be your unguarded self and trust any new girl you get involved with. You don't feel you can have true intimacy with her or connect with her and not later be betrayed by her like the earlier girl did to you in some way.
You want this connection with someone, with a girl but because of your recent experience you may be on some level disgusted with women or at least untrusting of them because of how this girl treated you and you don't trust any of them to be any different which leaves you depressed because the connection that you want may never be fulfilled and all you'll be able to content yourself with is shallow empty sexual experiences.
If its this one I think what you need is some more distance and time to heal and also to remember any women you've known in your life family or otherwise that have been there for you and that you've been able to trust or look to any successful relationships that you know of from friends or family as proof that trustworthy women do exist in order to rebuild your trust for women.
Then when you go on the hunt for a new girlfriend again and you get one you can try something that has never failed me in my life for friends or anyone. I stopped using this system in my life because I had been brainwashed by the feminist society that it was paranoid and I didn't have this place that encouraged me to think for myself against all the brainwashing so I got screwed over badly more than once by dropping my system but since re-adopting it and when I used it before getting brainwashed it has never failed me. Its really simple. I call it the two year test. It basically goes just like it says. If someone sticks by your side for two years you can probably start to trust them. It may not be completely fullproof but it can help to weed out the people that are going to be there for you as opposed to the people that only want to take from you and move on be they friends or lovers.
So to clarify by my plan not having you trust anyone you get involved with for at least two years it doesn't mean you act all that differently towards them than you would now except that until the two years has passed and they are still around, until that milestone is reached you avoid sharing very deep emotional stuff with them from your past or things that can hurt you if they should turn on you. Until this time passes and they have proven themselves to you through the test of time you can keep them at what I would call an arm's length of intimacy.
Give them just enough of you to believe that you both are connected and that you care but nothing more than that until they have proven themselves through the test of time.
3. Was the loss something else?
1. Was it the loss of a person who you believe uniquely "got you" unlike other girls?
If its this Interceptors inner game advice in just about all his posts is golden and required reading by you.
Also if she made you feel like no other just keep in mind that its a chemical reaction that you crave like a drug addict, you're on a dopamine high that is tied into her validating your self worth by wanting you. Its an ego thing and an addiction thing and it takes action via inner game work, turning your interests to something productive like hobbies and such and continually gaming new girls to break free of along with the passage of time and distance from the relationship.
2. Was it the loss of your trust overall towards women because of the way this girl dealt with you such as however it ended between you two being extremely negative despite your confiding your emotions in her so much?
The second one makes it hard to move forward because you can no longer be your unguarded self and trust any new girl you get involved with. You don't feel you can have true intimacy with her or connect with her and not later be betrayed by her like the earlier girl did to you in some way.
You want this connection with someone, with a girl but because of your recent experience you may be on some level disgusted with women or at least untrusting of them because of how this girl treated you and you don't trust any of them to be any different which leaves you depressed because the connection that you want may never be fulfilled and all you'll be able to content yourself with is shallow empty sexual experiences.
If its this one I think what you need is some more distance and time to heal and also to remember any women you've known in your life family or otherwise that have been there for you and that you've been able to trust or look to any successful relationships that you know of from friends or family as proof that trustworthy women do exist in order to rebuild your trust for women.
Then when you go on the hunt for a new girlfriend again and you get one you can try something that has never failed me in my life for friends or anyone. I stopped using this system in my life because I had been brainwashed by the feminist society that it was paranoid and I didn't have this place that encouraged me to think for myself against all the brainwashing so I got screwed over badly more than once by dropping my system but since re-adopting it and when I used it before getting brainwashed it has never failed me. Its really simple. I call it the two year test. It basically goes just like it says. If someone sticks by your side for two years you can probably start to trust them. It may not be completely fullproof but it can help to weed out the people that are going to be there for you as opposed to the people that only want to take from you and move on be they friends or lovers.
So to clarify by my plan not having you trust anyone you get involved with for at least two years it doesn't mean you act all that differently towards them than you would now except that until the two years has passed and they are still around, until that milestone is reached you avoid sharing very deep emotional stuff with them from your past or things that can hurt you if they should turn on you. Until this time passes and they have proven themselves to you through the test of time you can keep them at what I would call an arm's length of intimacy.
Give them just enough of you to believe that you both are connected and that you care but nothing more than that until they have proven themselves through the test of time.
3. Was the loss something else?
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Imagine my words sounding like one of those negative sarcastic gothic types:demonic said:Ok i know what the reply will be to this already, move on, go out and screw 10 women and it will be ok.
Well i've gone out and screwed 2 girls, one of them twice...and nothing seem's to be able to help me forget a past relationship that went bad.Maybe it's cause she works in the same Hospital i do and thats why i still think about her.
but come on, the other 2 girls i slept with were better looking and i had better sex with them.but i just have this really bad outlook on life now cause of my past.
I see girls as objects that temp make me happy...after i've slept with them i feel so empty and depressed.I guess i wanna hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel?..
Demonic
It's 10 women not 2 and doing one 2 to 100 times doesn't count.
It is 10 for a reason.
Do you understand?
Then do 10 and not just a mere 2.
"Kontrollerx" I'd have to say both, more so number 1 though.But i did actually tell her i loved her and i've never told anyone that.
Since then i've realized it was the infactuation of the idea of love rather than actually being in love with her.I told her things i've never told anyone about myself.
So yes it's both and thats what's screwed me up the most.
"therealsupreme"
I know it say's 10, does having sex with the same girl twice count as 2?...but after 3 ons i thought i'd start to feel diffrently.
Demonic
Since then i've realized it was the infactuation of the idea of love rather than actually being in love with her.I told her things i've never told anyone about myself.
So yes it's both and thats what's screwed me up the most.
"therealsupreme"
I know it say's 10, does having sex with the same girl twice count as 2?...but after 3 ons i thought i'd start to feel diffrently.
Demonic