Relationships are a business agreement. LAY OUT YOUR CONTRACT!

[Julian]

99% of you are failing at a very very big step...its something you are missing and its one reason why you are failing big time with the females you are interacting with when it comes to taking things to further levels.

In order to keep your women in line and on deck you need to come from a level of power and respect. You also need to solidify your manliness by fukking her brains out. Once you have achieved this alot of you guys fuk up and dont know what to do.

First decide what it is the fuk you want from her. Once you smash her you lay out your contract, your rules/guidelines/expectations. And if you she wants to be on board with you then she knows what shes getting into.

For me I wanted a GF. Something steady and medium/long term. depending. So after the initial couple of sex sessions (where I banged the everloving fuk out of her...this is the key component). and built up a very strong sexually charged and emotional connection. Then I snap her to reality and let her know what I want. If she agrees then your power over her will become immense. This is how you get that strong loyalty. Women need to be seduced and coerced in a way. At the end of the day SHE made the choice, it was HER decision. I just layed it out for her.

 

[dustmuffin]

What is in your contract?

 

[Berom]

I agree with boundaries and subvertly implying what you expect from the relationship, but how about the advice from so many DJ's that you should never bring up exclusivity to a woman?

 

[Stugots26]

I have to agree with Berom. The status of the relationship is not the man's department. A woman will be much more invested the more she has to pull you along into exclusivity and the more hesitant you are. The idea is to go along with it, but somewhat begrudgingly and with resistance. Like any good confidence scam, the point is to make the transaction the other person's idea so the investment from that person is higher.

But to Julian's point, everything in life is a negotiation, and you only get what you NEGOTIATE, not what you deserve. So you have to stick to your guns and be willing to walk away from terms that you don't like rather than compromise yourself.

 

[dustmuffin]

I agree with boundaries and subvertly implying what you expect from the relationship, but how about the advice from so many DJ's that you should never bring up exclusivity to a woman?

When she brings it up. You ask her what she expects etc

 

[Berom]

When she brings it up. You ask her what she expects etc

I'm playing devil's advocate @dustmuffin but why ask her what she expects? Isn't all that's important is whether or not she agrees with your terms?

 

[NSX-R]

I agree with boundaries and subvertly implying what you expect from the relationship, but how about the advice from so many DJ's that you should never bring up exclusivity to a woman?

I don't like announcing my targets and rules. I think it's better for her to just follow me into the trip with me as a leader. That's the only rule imo.

Setting yourself as exclusive is also not a good idea. My parents are married for 21 years and even now my father would never admit exclusivity to my mother , that's why he's still the alpha in my family.

 

[grayclif]

I don't like announcing my targets and rules. I think it's better for her to just follow me into the trip with me as a leader. That's the only rule imo.

Setting yourself as exclusive is also not a good idea. My parents are married for 21 years and even now my father would never admit exclusivity to my mother , that's why he's still the alpha in my family.

Isn't a marriage proposal a request for exclusivity and traditionally done by a man...

 

[amazingswayze]

I agree on coming from a frame of power and a high level of respect but the way you say it, you make the relationship sound like a dictatorship with so many rules. I think its better to be subtle and if you command respect you will receive it.

 

[dustmuffin]

I'm playing devil's advocate @dustmuffin but why ask her what she expects? Isn't all that's important is whether or not she agrees with your terms?

Because you can play off her expectations that will probably jibe with your own. That way you are not dictating and she thinks its her idea. It is covert manipulation.

 

[NSX-R]

Isn't a marriage proposal a request for exclusivity and traditionally done by a man...

It is , especially for those that truly believe it.

I have not given it much of a thought cause I'm not interested in it yet.

Taking my parents as my only example, marriage means that you shall share everything, make kids and do the best for them, staying loyal to your family.

It's a complex thing to think about and I'm not in position to give an explanation to it.

 

[grayclif]

99% of you are failing at a very very big step...its something you are missing and its one reason why you are failing big time with the females you are interacting with when it comes to taking things to further levels.

In order to keep your women in line and on deck you need to come from a level of power and respect. You also need to solidify your manliness by fukking her brains out. Once you have achieved this alot of you guys fuk up and dont know what to do.

First decide what it is the fuk you want from her. Once you smash her you lay out your contract, your rules/guidelines/expectations. And if you she wants to be on board with you then she knows what shes getting into.

For me I wanted a GF. Something steady and medium/long term. depending. So after the initial couple of sex sessions (where I banged the everloving fuk out of her...this is the key component). and built up a very strong sexually charged and emotional connection. Then I snap her to reality and let her know what I want. If she agrees then your power over her will become immense. This is how you get that strong loyalty. Women need to be seduced and coerced in a way. At the end of the day SHE made the choice, it was HER decision. I just layed it out for her.

I just don't know how you tell her, in essence, we will continue to f.uck, spend x amount of time together etc etc without asking for exclusivity.

 

[Julian]

There's nothing wrong with demanding exclusivity. And yeah muther fukkers, this IS a dictatorship Lol thats part of my contract.

And this ISNT about bringing up exclusivity...however when she brings it up (and its something you want with her) then you lay out the contract. After some intense banging you tell her, "honey I care alot about you and I really enjoy the time we've spent together...and I want it to continue but if you want me to be with you and only you then here's what I expect..., no male friends online or in real life, no communication with any guys that aren't family period, no girls nights out, no being a dumb sloot, you are essentially being employed by my company.and as founder and ranking ceo what I say goes ultimately and if your not with it then fuk you".

And you can literally say that to her word for word. most guys don't lay it out like that. They keep their mouth shut and go along with everything then make threads about their long term gf hanging out with some guy lol.

This **** is ruthless, cutthroat. It doesnt mean that you shouldn't have love for someone. Just dont let that love fuk with your mind and decisions. When you are alpha and have high status, IE cash, car, clothes, own place, good job, etc etc then a girl knows you have options especially if you are aesthetic/in shape etc and command respect from people regardless.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Excellent post. Bvtches need guidance and this is biblical. We must do our natural order and lead them. If they can't handle that then thats fine. Because there are other chicks waiting in line.

 

[marmel75]

There's nothing wrong with demanding exclusivity. And yeah muther fukkers, this IS a dictatorship Lol thats part of my contract.

And this ISNT about bringing up exclusivity...however when she brings it up (and its something you want with her) then you lay out the contract. After some intense banging you tell her, "honey I care alot about you and I really enjoy the time we've spent together...and I want it to continue but if you want me to be with you and only you then here's what I expect..., no male friends online or in real life, no communication with any guys that aren't family period, no girls nights out, no being a dumb sloot, you are essentially being employed by my company.and as founder and ranking ceo what I say goes ultimately and if your not with it then fuk you".

And you can literally say that to her word for word. most guys don't lay it out like that. They keep their mouth shut and go along with everything then make threads about their long term gf hanging out with some guy lol.

This **** is ruthless, cutthroat. It doesnt mean that you shouldn't have love for someone. Just dont let that love fuk with your mind and decisions. When you are alpha and have high status, IE cash, car, clothes, own place, good job, etc etc then a girl knows you have options especially if you are aesthetic/in shape etc and command respect from people regardless.

Yeah, there is nothing wrong with letting her know your expectations once she brings it up...I am not one to believe in bringing that up to a woman, because personally, I believe allowing a woman to chase and giving her uncertainty for a period of time is key to making her feel like you are "worth it"...no guy with a lot of options is going to willingly just go for the first chick he sees regardless of what he thinks of her, and a woman knows intrinsically that which is easily obtained has little value...

 

[Fireballs]

You will come off as controlling giving them all these rules and probably push them towards the forbidden fruit.

In my experiences the best way of laying down expectations is to bring up examples when the situation arises ie. "....yeah I dumped my ex when I found out she was in continuos contact with her ex bf" You're not telling her what she can or can't do, you're letting her know your standards in a committed relationship.