Relationship with independent woman

[ronjo]

Hi Guys,


so i am 28,she is 33. We are together for like 4 months. I myself am a busy guy. I used independent woman in the title, but i meant she is also a busy person. SO the issue is that we see each other seldom for my standards, like once a week. For her it seems fine. Sex is great and everything is great, but just not often enough for me. We are chatting pretty much daily so we keep in contact(maybe this ruins the things to an extent cause i am giving her attention this way as well). She is not dating other guys - she introduced me to her family, friends etc... Can i do something about the issue? Should i make myself unavailable and go for like 2-3 weeks no date and see what happens? Can i change something and what advice can you give me? Thanks

 

[SgtSplacker]

Man I would love this, a happy, busy, serious girl I see once a week and bang. This is the stuff of dreams to me. All the girls I meet do absolutely nothing with themselves and consider me entertainment. Gets old...

 

[Who Dares Win]

Man I would love this, a happy, busy, serious girl I see once a week and bang. This is the stuff of dreams to me. All the girls I meet do absolutely nothing with themselves and consider me entertainment. Gets old...

Its many guys dream, mine too.

You cash in the morning, lift in the afternoon and go out with friends in the evening then once a week you bang the hell out of her with no obligations.

Of course I talk with a casual point of view, when it comes the moment to start a family career girls are avoided.

 

[Sandow]

Exactly, you have it perfect, why would you wanna change that? Nevertheless...
I wouldn't force anything at this time. If you guys get more serious down the road, seeing each other more often will eventually happen. Just don't force it at this point. Appreciate all the free space you guys are enjoying right now.

 

[Roosevelt]

Go and discuss about yourself

 

[ronjo]

thanks for the answers guys. i will address some of your replys.

did i tell her i want to meet her more often. i talked to her about this like 2-3 months ago. she said that she likes her freedom and does not want me to force her. we nearly broke up then, so i am kind of careful on this topic.

about the guys that like this kind of relationship. yup i understand you to a point but it seems that i develop some feelings about her, so its kind of tough. moreover it is not like every week regularly, it can be like 2 weeks no see and then the next 2 times sex.

i want to see her like 2 times a week, maybe 3 at most(i dunno if thats needy or normal). i personally dont have more time than this. i also dont like the girls that want to be with me 24/7 but once is just not enough for me at the moment.

so any advices, just let it be and see what happens? but it kind of eats from the inside meanwhile...

thanks guys

 

[SgtSplacker]

I think it would be a good idea to kinda see exactly what she is doing with her time. This is starting to sound like one of those stories where the other person has another relationship on the side.

If it was me I would just keep dating other girls and if I find an upgrade... well... upgrade.

 

[Alvafe]

well i'm guessing or you are not happy with her and want a woman more into you or you just want more sex, thing is! are you 2 serious?

yes: then nothing to do then let it happen, go out know more people then maybe you find someone more to your liking.

no: then dude just get some plates and find the better deal. is not what woman do all the time?

if what she offers is not good enough you have to seek what you want

 

[ronjo]

I think it would be a good idea to kinda see exactly what she is doing with her time. This is starting to sound like one of those stories where the other person has another relationship on the side.

If it was me I would just keep dating other girls and if I find an upgrade... well... upgrade.

well, she had her heart broken with her ex(this was like 1 year ago), and after they splitted she started developing interests so that she keeps her mind busy like yoga, swimming, fitness she goes to those mon-fri and have gotten used to them and wants to keep them in her life. she goes home like 9-10pm so its kind of late to see each other (in her opinion, for me its fine) since its during the week and we have to get up early for work but sometimes we see each other during the week as well. some weekends she goes out of the city, but nothing really suspicious since often she goes with her mother and father. other relationship, i dunno, i hvae thought about this but as i said i know her family and some of her friends so it would be kind of strange..

dating another girl. i tried this and it helped temporarily. the other girl was the opposite. she wanted to see me too often for my taste(as i said i am relatively busy myself). so having the 2 at the same time was kind of hard. plus the other girl did not arouse me if i did not use viagra(btw never used this **** before), maybe psycological... but as i said maybe i am falling in love with this girl who arouses me A LOT... so i dont know if other girl is the right way, though this makes me think less about her, but i kind of feel bad doing this to bboth of them.

i also like the fact that she is not suffocating me on one side, but still i want to see her like twice a week. maybe i am a bit needy and need to overcome it but dont know how... thats why i am here

 

[Sandow]

This is simple, date other girls. I mean you don't have a choice, she said no to your proposal, so you can either cry like a baby and wack off every night or do something about it. BTW, this is super beta behavior. You have extreme Oneitis for a 4 month relationship! all of your problems would be solved if you were just spinning plates. I'm actually surprised she didn't completely break up with you after your super needy desperation talk of how you wish you can see her more. I guarantee you if this gets brought up again shes dumping your azz on the spot. I give this relationship another 2 months, tops.

 

[DonDiscovery]

Dude your ****ing mad...this is IDEAL.

 

[Sandow]

i dunno, i hvae thought about this but as i said i know her family and some of her friends so it would be kind of strange..

Wow, just wow. You can't possibly be this naive. So that's it? Because you met her family and some of her friends you're certain she's not seeing anyone else???:crackup:

 

[Don_Dom]

Spin plates!