Rejection Proof Yourself

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Regardless if you have lines memorized, dedication, motivation and a willingness to learn, you still could be setting yourself up for failure. You have to be consciously aware of the steps in your process. If there’s a flaw, you could fail, it’s as simple as that. When behaviors are unassuming they still could decrease your success rate. If you don’t know what you’re doing is wrong, why would you implement a change. If you stick your hand on a hot stove, the automated response is to pull hand away quickly. The pain is the motivator in this scenario, but what if your pain threshold is malfunctioning. You place your hand on the stove, damage will most certainly occur. It’s only when someone becomes aware and sheds some light, do we consider a change. People that are fat, smoke are self aware. They know that eating too much/smoking is unhealthy and that regular exercise is the key, yet every year we see an increase in obesity/cancer. The plan sounds simple enough but procrastination is not a motivational factor.

When no one pays attention to you or takes you seriously, your self-worth takes a nose dive. When we ain’t getting what we desire we do things to focus the spotlight on us. People often resort to dramatic behavior (class clown, wild person, drinking to excess, etc) to compensate for this emotional void. These types are desperate for recognition and think they need validation from others to confirm their existence. When you are in this state of mind any rejection no matter how small or polite is taken personal. Tease them about their clothes, they become self conscious, break a date and their self esteem goes way down, even minor disagreements trigger a feeling of inadequacy. For some people taking on something that falls outside their comfort zone often initiates obstacles to form in their head. They tend to list all the steps, how complex it will be, how long it will take, all the things that could go wrong, etc. Give them a task that they enjoy and the process is simplistic.

So what is the solution here; You have to let go of the past and give yourself OPTIONS. If you begin to alter a set habit or thought and replace it with a new one, soon the fear of failure diminishes and eventually fades.

SOME OTHER EXAMPLES ARE:

A) COMMITMENT-commit to the process, suspend disbelief, become excited about the journey you are about to begin.

B) RECORD OF EVENTS-write down stuff that works, didn’t work, inspirational words of wisdom, record your voice and listen to hear how others perceive you then make adjustments, video record yourself to see how others see you, body language, etc. Make a list of things you desire, likes and dislikes and what would you change if you could.

C) BREAK OLD HABITS-stop doing the same thing you been doing and form a new habit. A habit equates to an almost automatic response to a situation. You need to expand your comfort zone and formulate a new habit to form a new process. Practice til your comfortable with this new habit. Failure to do so and your destined for mediocrity.

D) REDIRECT YOUR FOCUS-when focus on your hair loss, body fat, ugliness, age, occupation, income level, height, etc, you magnify those insecurities. Institute a plan of action and redirect your attention ON POSITVE THOUGHTS.

E) VISUALS-imagine you succeeding in your mind, see yourself as being victorious. You must be in control of your thoughts. When you substitute new responses, you often experience confidence.

F) AFFIRMATIONS-written and or verbal, repeat over an over positive affirmations. I can do this, I will succeed, I am prepared, etc.

G) REWARD YOURSELF-if you refrained from typical past behavior, broke an old habit, achieved a small task, etc give yourself a reward.
 

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Chronocidal said:
How does one video record oneself? (I don't own a videocamera-phone or the like at this time, but I'm wondering about even if I did, just how I would manage to have it trained on myself all day just in case a HB passes by.)
I think what he means is that you should videotape yourself talking to the camera like you would a person so that you can come back and watch it later to look for things you could change body language-wise and that kind of thing.

If you don't own a video camera or phone, why not get a cheap webcam? They're really inexpensive and can do the job just fine.
 

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COD said:
E) VISUALS-imagine you succeeding in your mind, see yourself as being victorious. You must be in control of your thoughts. When you substitute new responses, you often experience confidence.
Man I LOVE this idea!!
This takes some real skill and practice, controlling your own thoughts and actions to do what you want to do. It's like taking your dreams to another level almost.
I'm gonna try this out tomorrow for sure.
 

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Chronocidal said:
How does one video record oneself? (I don't own a videocamera-phone or the like at this time, but I'm wondering about even if I did, just how I would manage to have it trained on myself all day just in case a HB passes by.)
I don't know if it's what the OP has in mind but start a video journal. Talk about your day and watch it back.

Did wonders for my social anxiety. By seeing myself on camera I saw a much more articulate, confident and interesting person than what I thought. Then it's just the process of moving that TRUTH into daily conversations with people.

Also, with a digital tape recorder you can bring it along and have it roll during conversations. I'm thinking of starting this soon as well.
 

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DUDES dont get a wrapped on the recording thingy, it's just a way to view yourself how others see you. Much more powerful than any mirror, like recording yourself durring an interview.

It's all about how you come across, your body language, it's so U can see things you didnt notice then make conscious changes...........BECOME SELF AWARE.

REMEMBER even though the article was about rejection proofing, these tips can be utilized in other aspects of ones life.
 

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