rejected women have it better than rejected men

[dj_china]

agree with OP that from a post priori perspective, its true

but apriori its because men make it like that. I think we can divide into two cases here:
1) random approach rejection
2) social circle rejection

In case 1, I think how much rejection hurts depends entirely on ego. For most men with a lot of approach experience, it won't hurt at all. Because women have less approach experience, their ego might hurt more. But I think OP isn't talking about this kind of rejection, because his observations occur at work

In case 2, most males act differently around a female who rejected them, making it awkward. Since females are empirically doing the rejecting most of the time, they have experienced this phenomenon, and act differently towards males as an automatic response to thinking that the male will act different towards them once the rejection happens. I'm sure that the first male any girl ever rejected was treated normally by the female. Then he became creepy or bitter or w/e, and the female learned that she needs to be cold to him to keep him at bay. Since males don't do nearly as much rejecting, most males are still friendly towards females who they have rejected.

 

[PapiChulo]

Don't underestimate the social stigma of being rejected in a place where the two interact watched from other people,like school or work.

I observe that when a guy is rejected he is somehow considered less of a man especially from the women working in the same place,while if a girl is rejected she somehow gets the victim status as if an ungrate man failed to see how lucky and privileged he has been to receive such gift.
Women can be as close as a gang when some is hurt.

I observed in the work place that the strongest reaction to events like these comes from married/engaged women instead of other single individuals who could relate more.

He is the only one who didn't overlook this important point. A rejected guy is practically always a sore looser by default, thus he can be a potential creep. While a woman is always a f$&king victim of this creeps advances, or a victim if this "as$hole" actually rejects her.That's where they have it easy.
She knew that you were interested because you show the interest, right, then you ask her out, and that confirms her deductions. So whats changed? Nothing. The only thing that has changed is that you are acting on your own initiative, she is no longer safe and in control.

And then her sisters will also mocke her, because she keeps receiving attentions from a guy who expressed verbally his desire to hook up! It is attention wh0ring, women secretly love it and they enjoy it if you are decent non-creepy guy who wont hurt her or her reputation in any way.To bad, it doesnt function that way.

That's why these women turn their backs on the rejected, they shun them as if they have AIDS, meanwhile looking for any red flags of potentially creepy behavior. And most guys get freaked out, they think WTF has happened, why is she so cold to me? It puts them in the pursuing mode, wanting to find out what really took place. People start to squirm when someone disdains them! At the same time, you do a tiny little mistake, drop a careless word, and you are with the creeps. That gives her another excuse to banish you.

If you have other women you will probably behave normally and she may warm up to you a little, but if she is the only one you care about- you pretty much shoot yourself in the foot right there. Somehow they can smell that on you, the strong desire which is more like a need than a desire. Women don't understand their behavior, yet it is extremely effective, misleads and takes a toll on guys. Women dont care, some may even enjoy that power over you.


So I would say, f&%ck it, men have it worse, therefore they are men- they should be able to take it.

 

[Cherokee]

10% of men F 90% of the women

LOL so true!

This is how it has always been though... these days the lesser males are lowering their standards because of the only two options available...

A) A life with no sex
B) sex with a fat, inbred retard

Of course even with poor genetics, a man always has option C available to him.

C) Improve yourself

 

[TheAvoider]

THATS RIGHT AND IS A DIRECT INDICATOR OF MALE OVER POPULATION WHICH EVERY ONE LOVES TO DENY...LOL

You're one of the few people I've seen bring this up. Have you ever watched that lecture from Steven Pinker on violence? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ramBFRt1Uzk

Excerpt: ''Worldwide, the number of deaths in interstate wars has fallen from more than 65,000 per year in the 1950s to fewer than 2000. Among our hunter-gatherer ancestors, the chance that a man would die at the hands of another man ranged from a high of 60 percent among the most violent tribes to 15 percent at the peaceable end. By contrast, says Pinker, the chance that an American or European would be killed by another person was less than one percent during the 20th century, a period that included the two World Wars....if the death rate in tribal warfare had prevailed through the 20'th century, there would have been 2 billion deaths rather than a hundred million.''

And the above leaves out the naturally higher male infant/child mortality rate that has been curbed by modern medical science, and safe environments. What this means, is that modern women have a number of options that her great grandmothers would have dreamed about, let alone her paleolithic female ancestors. And what evolutionary strategies are expressed by women in an environment with surplus males? We're seeing it right now. A balanced gender ratio is a very recent experience in our species, which might explain why rampant 'AFC game' thats so ineffective now, seems like it ought to have been weeded out by evolution, but wasn't.

 

[TheAvoider]

have you seen the things these crazy b1tches do for men they like?? it's ridiculous.

Have you seen the stuff most guys do for women they like?

this. Women NEVER get over guys who reject them, especially via cheating

The studies suggest it's men, not women, who take the longest to get over breakup.

NEVER

Consistency is not a female trait.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I think rejected women have it worse. They are not as used to being rejected simply by the fact they have the pvssy and that's what we want. When they get rejected, their egos take a severe bruising.

Why did he reject me? I have a pvssy and it has so much value. I don't understand! boo hoo wah wah. I need to go home and talk to my cat about this! wah wah boo hoo hoo

Women are so not used to being rejected that an overt rejection rocks their world to the point of shaking their reality. It is so incomprehensible that a man would reject the little princess that they must demonize the man in order to survive it.

They talk about the "male ego" being large, while theirs is so large that it crushes them unless they change the very meaning of reality. Most women will literally start to emotionally disintegrate when they are rejected so they immediatly kick-start the hamster wheel in order to re-integrate with internal lies and unfounded rationalizations that there is something wrong with the man.

 

[TheAvoider]

they are rejected so they immediatly kick-start the hamster wheel in order to re-integrate with internal lies and unfounded rationalizations that there is something wrong with the man.

This, combined with the emotional support most women receive is exactly why rejection, in the long term, leaves less of an imprint on women than on men. Most women also have more options, so they have validation coming from other sources.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

There are also chicks who like to reject dudes but then will secretly (so no one finds out what they're doing) attempt to "accept" you just to have you as one of their perceived "orbiters" or for simply AWing purposes.

Another (3rd) younger chick tried that nonsense on me at work. Pretty hot chick with a nice body but with the mind of a 12 year old. We always talked as co-workers and one day a while ago a group of us were supposed to go out and she was trying to get cute for a ride from me (so she could drink) I blew that shizz off and didn't bother.

A week or so later I asked her if she wanted to go to lunch for Sushi sometime and she said "Oh okay!" I was off for the next few days and come to find out from a married dude (another co-worker) when I'd got back he overheard her telling her little group of girl and guy friends that work there" Oh NN asked me out to lunch! I'm soo scared! I don't know what to do!" To which he heard them say: Oh watch out, you'd better be careful!"

I simply kept that nugget of info for myself and laughed about it as I knew full well the type she was and wasn't surprised in the least.

Later that day when I was working she came up to me when I was alone and said: "Oh thanks NN for going to lunch with me." (Which we never did as I didn't bother asking her after that.) I knew the chick was trying to create some drama queen nonsense to run back and tell her chat group. So I told her I went home and was busy.

She never got the satisfaction of what she really wanted. Juicy "gossip" involving her the "damsel in distress".

And this is the same chick who everytime she sees me will smile and say hello constantly if I even appear to not notice her. (You just gotta laugh at some of these silly broads.)

Some chicks WILL reject you but appear to "accept" you in private just to boost their ego, and have something to talk about you behind your back to their friends as if you're some clown who can't resist them.

Her attempt at trying to clown me was amusing to say the least!

 

[Poonani Maker]

There are also chicks who like to reject dudes but then will secretly (so no one finds out what they're doing) attempt to "accept" you just to have you as one of their perceived "orbiters" or for simply AWing purposes.

Another (3rd) younger chick tried that nonsense on me at work. Pretty hot chick with a nice body but with the mind of a 12 year old. We always talked as co-workers and one day a while ago a group of us were supposed to go out and she was trying to get cute for a ride from me (so she could drink) I blew that shizz off and didn't bother.

A week or so later I asked her if she wanted to go to lunch for Sushi sometime and she said "Oh okay!" I was off for the next few days and come to find out from a married dude (another co-worker) when I'd got back he overheard her telling her little group of girl and guy friends that work there" Oh NN asked me out to lunch! I'm soo scared! I don't know what to do!" To which he heard them say: Oh watch out, you'd better be careful!"

I simply kept that nugget of info for myself and laughed about it as I knew full well the type she was and wasn't surprised in the least.

Later that day when I was working she came up to me when I was alone and said: "Oh thanks NN for going to lunch with me." (Which we never did as I didn't bother asking her after that.) I knew the chick was trying to create some drama queen nonsense to run back and tell her chat group. So I told her I went home and was busy.

She never got the satisfaction of what she really wanted. Juicy "gossip" involving her the "damsel in distress".

And this is the same chick who everytime she sees me will smile and say hello constantly if I even appear to not notice her. (You just gotta laugh at some of these silly broads.)

Some chicks WILL reject you but appear to "accept" you in private just to boost their ego, and have something to talk about you behind your back to their friends as if you're some clown who can't resist them.

Her attempt at trying to clown me was amusing to say the least!

Naughty, if you hadn't gotten the tipoff then you'd be worse off on that episode. I've had these biatch games on my Time (Wasting my time, that could be used on another hoe as well) as well. I guess I just assume that 80% of the time Any broad is talking to her egg-carrier friends behind my back. Let them eggs rot, I don't give a fvck!

Also, i've banged a couple of girls on their period the past couple of years and I Really need to stop doing that cause after considerable thought on that risk I was taking with the blood and all, I could very well have contracted HIV (I don't have it as per recent tests), because as we All know as guys, almost All b!tches don't care one iota about You, as a male, even if she has a brother she loves, that she would not tell us if she had HIV on down the list, and we shouldn't have to Ask, but even if we did ask, she'd cover it up, cause you, as a guy, are Expendable. You might as well be Dead 80% of the time, 80% of the women you meet.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Naughty, if you hadn't gotten the tipoff then you'd be worse off on that episode. I've had these biatch games on my Time (Wasting my time, that could be used on another hoe as well) as well. I guess I just assume that 80% of the time Any broad is talking to her egg-carrier friends behind my back. Let them eggs rot, I don't give a fvck!

Worse off? lol. Nah. I'd have "probably" went to lunch with the chick and even if they all gossiped on whatever shizz she dreamed up I wouldn't have given a fvck regardless. Why? Because I was well aware of the type of chick she was from jump and I don't see people who talk about me "bad" as anything that would effect me. I've told people already I could care less if they talk about me. And never let on to that situation. (Just in general) Better to be talked about than not at all. Plus those are the types of people who are "for the moment" Once I or they ever leave I'll never see nor worry about them regardless. I get flirted with and hit on at work by too many other chicks anyway. True story.

I simply got over myself and dropped my ego to not bother with what people will say about me. It won't be the last time nor was it the first. It happens to everyone. I should be no different. (Unless it's me actually going out and fvcking a chick way younger than me whom I work with.) lol. Then no matter if she's "legal" you know "moral" "good" society would go at you hard at all costs.

 

[Sneevox]

It's funny because women do that same **** men do... except they don't initially reject. They'll play it off as "liking you", and then you fvck and they see it as a one night stand. I always laugh when a girl tries to pull a one night stand and fails because she's confused as to why I don't care that she "cut me off" so quickly, forcing her to subconsciously give me a constant supply of sex... unless she gets annoying. Then I usually say "okay, you're taking this too seriously for comfort."

 

[Naughty Ninja]

It's funny because women do that same **** men do... except they don't initially reject. They'll play it off as "liking you", and then you fvck and they see it as a one night stand. I always laugh when a girl tries to pull a one night stand and fails because she's confused as to why I don't care that she "cut me off" so quickly, forcing her to subconsciously give me a constant supply of sex... unless she gets annoying. Then I usually say "okay, you're taking this too seriously for comfort."

Those are the same types who "hate teh playaz". LMAO.

They either attempt to get dudes hooked as an orbiter or give it up and take it away and get all pissy when certain types of dudes don't fall for the nonsense nor give a damn what they think they are going to "accomplish". It really is amusing!

 

[Poonani Maker]

Worse off? lol. Nah. I'd have "probably" went to lunch with the chick and even if they all gossiped on whatever shizz she dreamed up I wouldn't have given a fvck regardless. Why? Because I was well aware of the type of chick she was from jump and I don't see people who talk about me "bad" as anything that would effect me. I've told people already I could care less if they talk about me. And never let on to that situation. (Just in general) Better to be talked about than not at all. Plus those are the types of people who are "for the moment" Once I or they ever leave I'll never see nor worry about them regardless. I get flirted with and hit on at work by too many other chicks anyway. True story.

I simply got over myself and dropped my ego to not bother with what people will say about me. It won't be the last time nor was it the first. It happens to everyone. I should be no different. (Unless it's me actually going out and fvcking a chick way younger than me whom I work with.) lol. Then no matter if she's "legal" you know "moral" "good" society would go at you hard at all costs.

Don't know if I'd call it ego, per se, not wanting sh!t said behind my back but protecting my rep, but if I'm guarding my rep from those whose respect isn't worth much then fine, she can blab behind my back to ****roaches I don't care. If it's to a person of integrity, someone I know on good terms, then it's not ok, and I will bite back viciously on her if I catch wind. She will rue the day she "played" me and spilled lies behind my back. If it's power...I get tired of these Ameri-hoes who from the "real" world, the kind from the cesspool area I grew up in, try to treat me, a grown man (good God, NO respect these days for someone who's fought to live), as her next "mark" to jack with when she can't get what she wants outta him. I'll stop her nonsense in it's tracks and confront her In Front of her And the people she is gossiping lies behind my back to about. Watch her stammer, when full integrity is there confronting her, and I don't care if she goes offensive cause all backtrack will play out as I am standing there listening to her lies in front of the listeners who know me not to be not respected or a liar.

 

[TheAvoider]

assuming its true it has nothing to do with what I said.

It's relevant.

 

[Pardner]

When a woman gets rejected she will have her ego and self esteem bruised or hurt. But then there will be other guys that will accept and not reject and she will sleep with one of them to have her self validation that she lost from the rejector.

 

[DonGorgon]

You're one of the few people I've seen bring this up. Have you ever watched that lecture from Steven Pinker on violence? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ramBFRt1Uzk

Excerpt: ''Worldwide, the number of deaths in interstate wars has fallen from more than 65,000 per year in the 1950s to fewer than 2000. Among our hunter-gatherer ancestors, the chance that a man would die at the hands of another man ranged from a high of 60 percent among the most violent tribes to 15 percent at the peaceable end. By contrast, says Pinker, the chance that an American or European would be killed by another person was less than one percent during the 20th century, a period that included the two World Wars....if the death rate in tribal warfare had prevailed through the 20'th century, there would have been 2 billion deaths rather than a hundred million.''

And the above leaves out the naturally higher male infant/child mortality rate that has been curbed by modern medical science, and safe environments. What this means, is that modern women have a number of options that her great grandmothers would have dreamed about, let alone her paleolithic female ancestors. And what evolutionary strategies are expressed by women in an environment with surplus males? We're seeing it right now. A balanced gender ratio is a very recent experience in our species, which might explain why rampant 'AFC game' thats so ineffective now, seems like it ought to have been weeded out by evolution, but wasn't.

Yes fantastic post... i keep trying to tell people about this issue but 99% are in denial females saying there are too few men and men saying there are still more some.. its sad.. the US govt keeps telling makes there are more females so the males stay motivated and working for money to pay for things to get some... but yes all social problems we are seeing now are related to male over population directly..

go in public and you see mostly men only exception is in retail areas like groceries and malls when women are out sending mens money..lol

 

[nismo-4]

The title is totally true.

Men don't do a lot of rejecting, and even if they does reject a woman, the woman already has a lot of options at her disposal, so she can easily get with one of them. It's men who have trouble with getting women, not the other way around. It's men who take longer to get over a relationship, not women. All because men have lowered their standards a lot and they don't have a lot of options.

 

[DonGorgon]

The title is totally true.

Men don't do a lot of rejecting, and even if they does reject a woman, the woman already has a lot of options at her disposal, so she can easily get with one of them. It's men who have trouble with getting women, not the other way around. It's men who take longer to get over a relationship, not women. All because men have lowered their standards a lot and they don't have a lot of options.

this situation is out of control now.. women attitudes are worse than ever and men are struggling paying and turning gay at an alarming rate in atlanta ga

 

[betheman]

women do have it better than men, they have access to a swathe of support, what do men have?
a woman, should she chose to and often they do, can enter a sexual or supposedly closer relationship with another man almost seamlessley, most men do not have those options. I also believe most men invest more of themsleves and give up most of their 'safety nets' so that when it all goes t!ts up, he has less to fall back on.
men need to look long term and stop this sh/1t, when it ends you are on your own

 

[Mike32ct]

women do have it better than men, they have access to a swathe of support, what do men have?
a woman, should she chose to and often they do, can enter a sexual or supposedly closer relationship with another man almost seamlessley, most men do not have those options. I also believe most men invest more of themsleves and give up most of their 'safety nets' so that when it all goes t!ts up, he has less to fall back on.
men need to look long term and stop this sh/1t, when it ends you are on your own

Yes. Women sabotage the guy's friendships (ie safety nets) during the relationship.