I may be in the small minority in my opinion on this, but I think it's a damn shame if you go through life without feeling burning, crippling love for a woman. For however much it can hurt if things go wrong (and from my experience, it hurt A LOT), I wouldn't change a single thing in my past - it was an important feeling and the experience I gained was valuable. The information here will keep you on your toes...but do not become so closed off that you become a game-spouting robot. Feel your emotions, keep them close to the surface. Keep a watchful eye on them so they don't get out of control (this is the mark of masculinity)...but let yourself be young and be free.
Watch some disney movies. Listen to happy-go-lucky songs. Read some books that have romance elements (The Count of Monte Cristo is a great one, fantastic stuff). Regain a bit of your beta-mentality, you NEED some of it in order to really be happy with a woman - otherwise you'll think their purpose is only for sex and reproduction, as seems to be the sentiment here sometimes. And women, too, are not as strict or discerning as you'll read here - they will give you more leeway than you think and won't instantly dismiss you if you fail a sh1t test or whatever, because they too are people with their own flaws and idiosyncrasies (not some abstract entity that acts in the interest of perfect hypergamy 100% of the time).
It would be truly a tragedy if you go through life without really knowing a girl and loving her - if you get that feeling, cherish it. You are young, talk to people, enjoy life, and take some of the experiences you have with women at face value. You'll have time to reflect on them later. Just go out there, stop worrying, and HAVE FUN.