Respectfully,
nobody bought into anything unless you call being raised in a culture and it's values and mores `buying in`.
As informed adults we can choose to reject, with difficulty, the values we were raised with but rejection just for the sake of rejecting them without a reason seems schizophrenic and irrational at worst or childish at best.
As for it being unmasculine to avoid hurt, although I acknowledge we are the disposable gender and the risk takers that does not mean we are masochists. There is a difference between being dumped and feeling sad and being so wounded by a relationship that you think the only solution is to drive your car into oncoming traffic, and which is where a lot of men have been, myself included.
You said need to adapt not react. Men are trying to do that by rejecting old models that weren't working for them and trying new theories and developing new understandings. Of course men are reacting. Unless you have been living under a rock or in a philosophy department somewhere you would know that there is a lot to react to. BTW adaption IS a reaction. There is a reason men are on the defensive.
To suggest that men should embrace this as part of their heroic adventure is either sadistic, and patronising or indicates lack of empathy or experience.
To be hurt and do exactly the same thing again expecting a different result is madness.
Yes, men were misinformed. They were given misinformation by their single mom's, and their female teachers, the media, and occasionally even by their dad's who were still living in a world that had already started to disappear so no, it wasn't just a mass of uneducated men mis-educating other men.
Where were we expected to get this information from? If we can't get the information from other men, then who could we turn to? The church seems like an unusual choice for someone who hates dogma. Our mothers? Asking women how to be happy and fulfilled men seems illogical and nonsensical to me. The government who is happily perpetuating the wife, and two kids, and white picket fence myth?
The amazing thing is that so many men are brave enough to risk being hurt again, otherwise they wouldn't be here at all, trying to find out how to adapt to the new world and not just become MGTOW or give up trying to make their lives better.
As for this mythical lack of adventure you are talking about, and most men were probably too busy paying bills, and finding someone to love, and trying to get employment, that sort of stuff, but have you thought of the results of every man going off to live this heroic life. Are there women involved in this heroic life?
I have mentioned this before but people on here are only interested in the power to control their own lives. Feel free to read about FRAME. Any woman also has a choice about whether they want to be a part of this, but so really it is all about men having power over their own lives. Power is a word used more often by feminists and liberal arts students.
Tl
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You say men should not be afraid of getting hurt, but tell men to adapt. Why should they adapt if it isn't to avoid being hurt again.
You state that men bought in to prevailing attitudes but don't indicate where men could get alternative viewpoints then say that men coming to sites like these for information should instead be off living the heroic life.
You have also never mentioned the role of women in society and how their actions might have an impact on men and society. You state clearly that men's unhappiness is their own fault. I acknowledge that ultimately we are all responsible for our own happiness but living with someone who is bi—polar or abusive is going to make a difference to our overall mental state.
If women are not contributors to men's mental states then that implies women are passive and are only acted upon. . That seems a little sextet and demeaning. If women are contributors to men's mental state then it seems unfair to castigate men for trying to find a better way of dealing with women.
If you disagree with red pill theory, and I respect your right to do so, then maybe you should apply that critical lens to your own thinking and acknowledge the possibility that it might be you that is miseducated and enculturalised into the dominant societal model and look at which of your values is being challenged.
IMVHO