Red Mist.

[Energizer]

Does anyone suffer from red mist? The dreaded anger management issues? I do, I'm such a hot head and in the past three weeks, I've been in a violent mood, I got barred from a nightclub the other nut for nutting (headbutting) someone in the toilets after he throw his drink at his mate, missed and got my trousers. I just had my lap top fixed after it constantly froze and I punched it, cracking the screen. And today after playing Modern Warfare 2, I smashed the controller against my forehead breaking the joy sticks in the process. I feel better after raging, but does anyone know of any books or treatment I can get?

 

[Da Realist]

Sex.

But no, for real, I have a temper too. The only things I've found to help were lifting weights, God, and talking to my parents. I especially put the second out there because without having at least a little goodness in me, I would have literally snapped a bunch of necks by now and not have cared. You learn it's easy to lash out, but it takes strength, focus, and perspective to not let it out wildly.

 

[Energizer]

I knew that was coming, my mojo isn't feeling it and hasn't been for a number of weeks, I posted a thread about it a week or two ago. I might as well just go to a brothel, it's been a while since I had sex and it might help. I probably need medication, I've always been a loose cannon and haven't been this angry for about three years.

 

[Energizer]

So talking to someone about it helps? I think I go wild everytime I feel frustrated and at the moment, I have been frustrated as hell.

 

[Da Realist]

I was half-way kidding with the sex thing. It takes the edge off, but everything is still there when you get done.

One thing that keeps things under the lid is that I have an idea of how bad I could be. I've been basically powerlifting on and off for 10 years, knocked a guy's shoulder out of place playing ball, saw how hard I can hit in karate, and wrestled people easily in judo. I know if I lose control, nothing ends pretty.

As far as meds, I don't know. If you have a chemical imbalance, then yeah. But if it's just mental, it's a matter of self-control and finding other ways to channel it all. But without a doubt, get help because it's nothing to try to tackle alone. Anger will eat you up if let it.

 

[Da Realist]

So talking to someone about it helps? I think I go wild everytime I feel frustrated and at the moment, I have been frustrated as hell.

Yeah, talking helps a lot. It doesn't seem satisfying because it's not the same as just decking somebody or bashing something, but it get some of that steam out. Instead of going to that place of rage, it makes me have to articulate what's going on and makes me think a little more. And believe me, putting effort into talking calmly does a lot because at times I know if if I get get to screaming, I'm not too far from fighting.

Plus, I know it sounds corny, but when someone takes the time to actually focus on listening to you, it means a lot. I mean, its like you see that you don't have to solve whatever it is alone which I think figures a lot into it. You may be the toughest guy in the world, but when you find a moment were you can let some of it go, it brings about a sense of peace.

Another thing is that if you're like me, you get mad when you feel a wrong has taken place either to you or someone else. You feel your muscles tighten up and you start going to a place where you can't even think in complete sentences. You get mad and you have a reason. That is were I had to learn humility; the fact that even though I'm mad and strong, it doesn't give me a reason to lash out when it's not appropriate. I'm human just like anyone else, and I can't make everything right on my own. If I do, I'm putting myself above folks. The best way again, to learn it is to talk it out. The person you may be talking to may be weaker, but they are helping you when you can't help yourself.

I know that this is long and borderline preachy, but it's some of the stuff I've learned. I hope it helps.

 

[AAAgent]

i have this problem too, but after going to jail and having to deal with court issues and possible prison time...i've been getting a LITTLE bit better at controlling myself hahaha. but i always try to be very peaceful until some dumbas$ pisses me off and thinks he can get away with it.

I practice zen and Buddhism and it helps to make me peaceful and calm at times.

 

[Desert Fox]

Everytime I talk to someone the ******* just says "you should talk to a psychiatrist about this."

WTF? Its not like I'm revealing some childhood trauma to them. I was just talking about how some prick scratched my car and they tell me to see a shrink lol. I don't respect psychology at all as a field so it would be hard for me to take the shrink seriously. I guess I could fvck around with the shrink during my appointment but why pay to do that? Yeah, I have terrible friends.

Nothing really consumes the rage more than beating something up or working out and tiring yourself out IMO. There's nothing like the feeling of feeling physically weak that kills the ego and rage in my mind.

But after the shower its usually back and I get pissed easily. Lately I've gotten better at becoming super focused in my mind when I'm angry and just hating everything, getting that "me vs the world" feeling. It really helps me focus and become super productive for a few hours until I'm too tired to be pissed. Then I sleep and things are all good. Hope that helps.

 

[WaterTiger]

Does your gym have a punching bag? If not, you might want to find one that does. Go put on some gloves and beat the hell out of it a couple times a week till you're exausted. Might help!

 

[Energizer]

I have started up my running again with 40lbs weight on my back and I have started running up hill and on uneven terrain and guess what? It seems to be working, by the time I come home at 9am in the morning, I am ready to crash out for a few hours before work starts.

I stopped my running in september after running in my race that I did well in and have only been a couple of times since then. I'll need to start it up again and go every single day. That should work and if that doesn't, I might have to become a porn stud to get allow of that negative energy out lol.

 

[Veridin]

This is usually body chemistry acting up, and as you know, it won't go away. But you CAN control it. There are no perfect solutions, but here are some things you can do:


**Know that this is body chemistry causing these feelings, and accept it. Know that it is your body, not your mind. Your mind can be isolated from the body, just like you can control pain by focusing on it, seeing it as an object in itself, and separate it from your thoughts.

**Excercise and eat healthy food; this helps weakening feelings of anger.

**Meditate a little every day. You can sit up straight with your hands in your lap, focus on your breathing, and watch your own mind. You will feel the wild emotions, the anger, that you have inside. By being aware of it and watching it, you will get better at controlling it. The trick is to watch your anger when it is dormant inside, and not just when it comes to the surface. You might imagine your mind as a rocky coast that the waves futilely crash against over and over. This helps you visualize what you want to achieve.

**Listen to classical music. I know, it sounds cliché, but the fact is that music shapes brain patterns, this can even be measured physically. It isn't the whole solution, but it helps. Find classical music that you like, not what you think you "should" like. Personally I enjoy listening to Carl Orff and Vivaldi's Four Seasons, and Mozart's Requiem, although my taste changes with time.

**Talk about it, like in this thread.