I was just lying in bed the other night and pondering some of my experiences with girls that I have nexted over the course of the year and realized just how blind you can be to their treachery and just how powerful and sweet their innocent smiles can be in clouding reality. I made a mental list of some of the things that these chicks did that should have tipped me off that they were up to no good, but at the time, I paid little or no attention because I got caught in the AFC trap of putting them on a pedestal without even realizing it.
Just to give an example, here is a list of some of the red flags from a girl that I gave the boot to recently:
Red flag #1: This one happened on the second date. I picked her up from her house and no sooner than we get to the restaurant, she borrows my cellphone and calls her son (she was a SM) and lies to him by telling him that she has gone out with her girlfriend. Now, I should have realized then and there that if she is capable of lying to her own son, she is sure as fvck capable of telling a string of lies to me. She immediately demonstrated her deceitful character, but I paid little attention to it.
Red flag #2: This happened just after the second date. I set up a third date and before picking her up I called as scheduled to confirm a time. She never answered. She calls about three weeks later and tells me that she had to leave to NY because of some problems she was having with her ex, blah, blah, blah. Well, I realized that her ex had temporarily moved back with her during those three weeks and she never went to NY. I rationalized her lie by convincing myself that she was just trying to protect the relationship with me. In the meantime, she was probably screwing her ex.
Red flag #3: After visiting her at her job I went to kiss her on the lips and she slightly moved her mouth so I missed her lips altogether. My stupid rationalization? Maybe she is shy in front of her co-workers and doesn't like to kiss in public.
There were other little warnings like her not even offering to cook me dinner or do little things to let me know that she appreciated my company. She was what you call a taker. She also rarely ever called me during the course of the four months I had been dating her.
I finally came to the conclusion which confromed to my gut feeling that this girl was a professional dater/gold digger.
I think the lesson here is never be subjective with women. Always keep an objective eye and accept reality for what it is and not what you want it to be.
Do you guys have anything similar to share and/or opinions?
Just to give an example, here is a list of some of the red flags from a girl that I gave the boot to recently:
Red flag #1: This one happened on the second date. I picked her up from her house and no sooner than we get to the restaurant, she borrows my cellphone and calls her son (she was a SM) and lies to him by telling him that she has gone out with her girlfriend. Now, I should have realized then and there that if she is capable of lying to her own son, she is sure as fvck capable of telling a string of lies to me. She immediately demonstrated her deceitful character, but I paid little attention to it.
Red flag #2: This happened just after the second date. I set up a third date and before picking her up I called as scheduled to confirm a time. She never answered. She calls about three weeks later and tells me that she had to leave to NY because of some problems she was having with her ex, blah, blah, blah. Well, I realized that her ex had temporarily moved back with her during those three weeks and she never went to NY. I rationalized her lie by convincing myself that she was just trying to protect the relationship with me. In the meantime, she was probably screwing her ex.
Red flag #3: After visiting her at her job I went to kiss her on the lips and she slightly moved her mouth so I missed her lips altogether. My stupid rationalization? Maybe she is shy in front of her co-workers and doesn't like to kiss in public.
There were other little warnings like her not even offering to cook me dinner or do little things to let me know that she appreciated my company. She was what you call a taker. She also rarely ever called me during the course of the four months I had been dating her.
I finally came to the conclusion which confromed to my gut feeling that this girl was a professional dater/gold digger.
I think the lesson here is never be subjective with women. Always keep an objective eye and accept reality for what it is and not what you want it to be.
Do you guys have anything similar to share and/or opinions?
