Red Flags fom POF??

[jimjam]

Dudes!! Gentlemen....

Had a nice hummer on the couch. So, yeah..... I know gentlemen shouldn't brag on these things, but you all were right on with the advice.

But she got flaky when she left, like she couldn't get away from me fast enough. I thought I'd never see her again, which is ok with me. But then she sent me all of these weirdo texts yesterday out of the blue. Like I said, the vibe to them is weird, like something is missing. We have plans for Monday but I can't get past this weird vibe. Maybe its me. Anyway, I'm thinking of cancelling...

And I had one coming over here on Thursday but she changed it to Saturday..something about changing work schedules. Whatever.

Any idea as to the weirdo vibes from the other? It was like she was a totally different person.

 

[Outlaw_]

Dudes!! Gentlemen....

Had a nice hummer on the couch. So, yeah..... I know gentlemen shouldn't brag on these things, but you all were right on with the advice.

But she got flaky when she left, like she couldn't get away from me fast enough. I thought I'd never see her again, which is ok with me. But then she sent me all of these weirdo texts yesterday out of the blue. Like I said, the vibe to them is weird, like something is missing. We have plans for Monday but I can't get past this weird vibe. Maybe its me. Anyway, I'm thinking of cancelling...

And I had one coming over here on Thursday but she changed it to Saturday..something about changing work schedules. Whatever.

Any idea as to the weirdo vibes from the other? It was like she was a totally different person.

Hey man...a couple of things for us to help you on this one. You will have to be more discriptive about the problem here. What I'm saying is that you could be mis-interpreting her being "flaky" & "weirdo texts" & "weird vibe". Give us some examples & we can help you.

 

[jimjam]

OK.

Well, you were all correct. I could tell she was DTF as soon as I answered the door. We began watching the movie, were soon all over each other. She was nasty. By that I mean a nasty, slvtty type girl. Which is okay, I suppose. anyway, more on that later. To continue...next thing I know she's on my lap, she takes her shirt off, I take her bra off, my fly is open and we finish.

After it was over, she jumps up, runs to the bathroom and makes to leave as though she couldn't leave fast enough. Maybe she has another date waiting, who knows. I walked her to her car and even then she kissed me but it was as though her mind was somewhere else. This is strange because she was very flirtatious and charming up to this point. And by weird vibe to the texts, I mean that they were not flirty or charming at all, like they were originally. They were all mono syllabic, non committal kind of answers. Like I said, I never expected to hear from her again, but, whatever.

The only thing that I can think to explain this change in behavior is that I had trouble getting it up there. I'm 42 and I have MS so even with the pills it's still sometimes a struggle. She seemed put off by this at first. Plus, like I said, she was nasty. kind of low-down an dirty and this kind of turned me off. Kind of reminded me of her while I was reading the thread on low quality women. She had a slvtty disposition, bad tattoos. Nasty women were a fun right of passage back when but I feel I deserve something better now. I only went with her just to prove to myself that I could do it. I suppose I was only fooling myself. Anyone could've done it, I think.

Anyway, why the fvck should I care anyway? Just writing this makes me realize I've wasted too much time on this.

As always, thanks for your insight.

 

[jimjam]

any insight you may have to offer, that is....

 

[jimjam]

Not to keep harping on this,but she is the one who texted me with "What's up?" I felt like calling her to ask if she was trying to be funny. But I kept it light, playful, tried to see if she wanted to meet at her place. Her answers were "Yah" and "Nah" to the days I suggested. Finally agreed on Monday. Like I said, this is a waste of time and energy and I'm thinking of cancelling by text and just ignoring her.

 

[Outlaw_]

Her answers were "Yah" and "Nah" to the days I suggested. Finally agreed on Monday.

Stop asking her questions. Lead her & tell her...Let's meet at my place on Monday. When you ask her what she wants to do, it shows a lack of confidence...which is a turn off.

Like I said, this is a waste of time and energy and I'm thinking of cancelling by text and just ignoring her.

How is it a waste of time if a girl who blew you down is coming back over to your place? And why would you cancel or ignore her?

The only thing that I can think to explain this change in behavior is that I had trouble getting it up there. I'm 42 and I have MS so even with the pills it's still sometimes a struggle. She seemed put off by this at first.

Bingo. This is the problem here. I have a woman like this as a plate. Very cool. We talk about other men she's ****ed. And, she had one guy who couldn't get it up. She just left & never returned any of his phone calls.

With this one I would say, just milk her until milk stops coming out. You need to fvck her too. Another reason that she is acting like this is because she just blew you down & got nothing out of it. So, fvck her next time. She was just sucking you off to get your d1ck properly hard. Not so you could blow a load in her mouth & not do any damage to her pvss.

 

[jimjam]

You're right. I initially suggested to her that we meet on Tuesday. "I'll meet you on Tuesday at your place," were my words. She said she was busy with something. OK, I said, you tell me.

I realize I should have told her that Tuesday was the only day I can do it. Like I said, I'm seeing her on Monday, but I doubt anything will happen. But we'll see. And if not, at least I learned.

And I think this is what its all about. I'm 42 and have spent the better part of my life operating under an AFC haze. Only now am I beginning to attempt to right myself. I know it's not going to be easy and that I'll have to take some hits along the way. I suppose this is one of them. OK. But I'm looking forward to a better change. Thanks again to you all. I'm learning much here.

 

[Outlaw_]

You're right. I initially suggested to her that we meet on Tuesday. "I'll meet you on Tuesday at your place," were my words. She said she was busy with something. OK, I said, you tell me.

I realize I should have told her that Tuesday was the only day I can do it. Like I said, I'm seeing her on Monday, but I doubt anything will happen. But we'll see. And if not, at least I learned.

And I think this is what its all about. I'm 42 and have spent the better part of my life operating under an AFC haze. Only now am I beginning to attempt to right myself. I know it's not going to be easy and that I'll have to take some hits along the way. I suppose this is one of them. OK. But I'm looking forward to a better change. Thanks again to you all. I'm learning much here.

From now on, the way to handle this is to simply say, "When are you free again?" She will give you her availability & then you pick. You know she really likes you when she starts rattling off day after day...or says "anytime, you just let me know when." It's a good temperature gauge.

Simple as a pimple. This hemming and hawwing reeks of unconfidence...that is a turn off to women of all types.