Recovering from self improvement. Getting in touch with my friends

kingman

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After self improvement I have changed alot, and I have less contact with some of my old friends because of my new lifestyle.Those people have a harder time to relate to me because they remember me as I was before.

I found out that maybe my friends liked me more how I was before self improvement.

The cure to get more in touch with your friends is to experience thing out of the ordinary with them. The only thing people remember in life is the things that is not ordinary. You don`t remember what you eat, when you stood up , your normal workday and so on. You only remember when new things happens. When you do new things people will remember it all their life.

So a way to get back in touch with them is to do things that is out of the ordinary. Go to a vacation, take a road trip, take a cruise, take a walk on the mountain.

The best thing I now is to just travel. When you do things together who is out of the ordinary you have things to talk about, who is very important. When you have things to talk about I think everything will get back to normal . ( It is on the way back to normal for me this way + that I have started to care more about them )

I now my best friend has had a hard time. But I am recovering now more back to who I was. 1 year of self improvement feels like 10 years. It is like a shadow how I was before.

Remember this, if you change fast your friends will have trouble to relate to you. Because your friend may feel like you are a new person.

All my life I has only been caring about others ( the perfect nice guy). In the self improvement I found out that girls like men who love them self ( selfish men). So I become more selfish and cared more about myself than I did before.

I found out now that it was fine how I was before, and I try to change back, only difference is that I will only care about those very few who deserves it.
And that I will not take ****.

I have had more friends in life than any other person I now. But most of them have disrespected me and used me. And I can`t have friends who don`t accept me for who I am and don`t respect me.

I consider myself lucky in life since I have two good friends left.

I don`t now how many friends I have had, but lets say I have had 20-30 friends who I have been with regulary. Most people have I find not trustworthy. It is nothing wrong with me, it is most people there is something wrong with ( ore maybe I have to high expactations? ) . Most people are to selfish to have a friend potential. When I give my trust openly, I want the same back. I don`t want talking behind my back, a person who only call when he needs something, a person who only is with me because of my material goods, a person who says **** to my face and the list goes on.

I expect nothing more from others than I do for myself.

The only persons who has a friend potential is the nice guys. They care about others. Most other people are to brainwashed about the media, ore they are borned selfish. I will go back being the nice guy who don`t take ****.

Many of you on this forum are really negative about girls. Yes most girls are not trustworthy. Just like many of my old friends who has proved that. But some girls are really amazing. Those are perfect, they care about others and are openly good persons. They are just as my ideal dream girls.

And most people change for the worse when they are drunk on the clubs. Girls are not that bad when they are sober. Many have surprised me a lot in a good way.

Most guys and girls ain`t trust worthy. But there is some people who is. But you can only get trust, if you give trust ( if you let your guard down) .
 

PeeGee

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I have met one, maybe two girls who are completely drama free, seemingly sane yet attractive women. I honestly have a hard time with this idea, and often conclude that the only reason I did not come across anything negative about them must be due to lack of extended history.

In other words, if I had given this girl some more time she'd show me she was just like the rest.


As for self improvement and your old friends, often by self improving you will replace their usefulness with your own life. It doesn't mean they can't be friends, but they may not occupy as important a part in your life any more.

Sometimes I feel bad about it...especially about current friends I honestly care about, but that's how life is.
 

DJDanny

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If your self improvement was to become selfish, then you're doing it wrong. It's about confidence, not being selfish. Yes, confidence involves going for what you want but it doesn't mean you have to be selfish.

May i suggest the following from the bible as reading for you.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16903

Seems you missed the point and instead of becoming a DJ you went to a$$hole. The 2 are not the same, though yes being a ass will make you more successful with women then a nice guy.
 

ItsAllAboutMe

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I was thinking maybe try to bring your friends along to what you like. I mean I hate to sound like a di ckhead but figure out which of your frineds have potential to "improve" be "cool" and call them and help them like you helped youself.

I mean don't waste all your time on it, just kickstart them and see how they go.
 
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