Recovering from braind-dead, lame set of texting...

[marmel75]

Background: Met chick online, skyhigh interest, offered her number without me asking for it, said "yes" before i even asked her out on a date, then offered ehr Weds or Sat night. Said had to check with sitter and would get back to me. Didn't hear from her, so on Fri, I sent the following texts:


Me: Hey Rachael, haven't heard back from you...we still good for tomorrow or should I make other plans?

Her: I'm sorry. My girlfriend flew in from out of town Tuesday and surprised me. Getting my nails done right now. Will txt u in a few.

Me: its cool...have fun with your friend, we can reschedule for sometime next week...

Her: Thank u. I had every intention of telling u as soon as I heard from u, but I haven't talked to u in 2 days?

Me: been really busy...hit me up on Monday and we can figure something out...cool?

Her: OK

I know it came off as pretty lame, but before this my texting was pretty on point, and she even remarked that I seem very confident and that I probably have no problem talking with women. Also has told me she thinks I am good looking, a few times. Girl is an HB9 and has complained that she is from a small town and there is a lack of "quality guys" there.

Recovery strategy? And don't tell me to forget about it. Although this may not end up going anywhere, I want to try and salvage this, just to see if I can...some advice from Brad80 would be appreciated here as our texting styles and conversation lengths are pretty similar...and he seems to give some good salvage advice, at least in an other thread...

 

[ARrocket]

Is there really a better option than just...not doing anything? As in, pretend it never happened.

So tomorrow is Monday (or for you, perhaps it already is). She'll either hit you up or she doesn't. If she does, I don't think you'll be needing any further advice.

If she doesn't? Then just wait, and reset. Simple, right?

 

[marmel75]

Is there really a better option than just...not doing anything? As in, pretend it never happened.

So tomorrow is Monday (or for you, perhaps it already is). She'll either hit you up or she doesn't. If she does, I don't think you'll be needing any further advice.

If she doesn't? Then just wait, and reset. Simple, right?

Yeah, actually have been following the advice on the site girlschase.com in regards to texting and based on his advice I did pretty close to the right things in keeping it cool and not calling her out on it...

He recommended not attempting to reschedule it then, which I sort of did, but didn't try and pin down an exact time...

Would you ask her out again in the first set of text msgs or would you wait a day or two?

 

[JohnChops]

Background: Met chick online, skyhigh interest, offered her number without me asking for it, said "yes" before i even asked her out on a date, then offered ehr Weds or Sat night. Said had to check with sitter and would get back to me. Didn't hear from her, so on Fri, I sent the following texts:


Me: Hey Rachael, haven't heard back from you...we still good for tomorrow or should I make other plans?

Her: I'm sorry. My girlfriend flew in from out of town Tuesday and surprised me. Getting my nails done right now. Will txt u in a few.

Me: its cool...have fun with your friend, we can reschedule for sometime next week...

Her: Thank u. I had every intention of telling u as soon as I heard from u, but I haven't talked to u in 2 days?

Me: been really busy...hit me up on Monday and we can figure something out...cool?

Her: OK

I know it came off as pretty lame, but before this my texting was pretty on point, and she even remarked that I seem very confident and that I probably have no problem talking with women. Also has told me she thinks I am good looking, a few times. Girl is an HB9 and has complained that she is from a small town and there is a lack of "quality guys" there.

Recovery strategy? And don't tell me to forget about it. Although this may not end up going anywhere, I want to try and salvage this, just to see if I can...some advice from Brad80 would be appreciated here as our texting styles and conversation lengths are pretty similar...and he seems to give some good salvage advice, at least in an other thread...

Two things. First thing I put in bold, if a girl gives you her number then she clearly isnt that serious. Reading a post by pook a bit ago girls give their numbers to guys they arent threatened by emotionally. (bad use of the word threatened but you get the picture.) If you met her online how do you know her interest was high? Her giving you her number isnt enough to prove high interest. She flakd out once, contact her in 5 days with another date idea. IF she shoots you down then PEACE BABBBBY, shes outaaaaa here.

Also my second point, watch out for girls named Rachel .... seriously ....... :nervous:

 

[ARrocket]

You mean wait a day or two after the next time you two exchange texts?

In the past I've waited, but I'm becoming more and more convinced that it's better not to wait. So if she texts you Monday go ahead and try to set something up, otherwise whenever you next decide to contact her, just do it then.

 

[oxford comma]

a girl giving you her number means shes not serious? what does she give you if shes serious? her kidney?

 

[JohnChops]

You mean wait a day or two after the next time you two exchange texts?

In the past I've waited, but I'm becoming more and more convinced that it's better not to wait. So if she texts you Monday go ahead and try to set something up, otherwise whenever you next decide to contact her, just do it then.

Eh, I thinking waiting is better personally.She has guys texting her 24/7, why not just wait and let her think about you, the different one, the one not feeding the ego, the on who actually wants togo out and DO thing with her rather than stroke her ego.

Yes if she texts him monday he should reply and set something up. . With waiting 3-5 days it gives her time to think about what he is doing and its a good habit to get into because why would you text her the next day, GIVING HER ATTENTION WHEN SHE FLAKED?! WHY?! Dont do it. Condition her.

a girl giving you her number means shes not serious? what does she give you if shes serious? her kidney?

What i mean is anyone can give you their number, a girl could be like "oh hey heres my number blah blah blah" but she can FORGET about you. Girls give out numbers all the time and forget who they gave it too. She couldve given it to you for a plethora of reasons. Its not a sure fire way to tell if shes interested. Now if he asked her for her number then the dynamic changes. Then he can tell if she hesitates or seems reluctant (eh kind of the same thing) then you can judge interest level. IF she outright gave it on the spot without a second to think about it, you can gauge her interest is high.

Youve never given your number out just for sh1ts? I have lol, then I ask who the h3ll it is texting me later on and then saying I have no idea who you are.


Bottom line : IF she doesnt text you monday, then text her later in the week for her second chance, if she fails that then byebye.
Hope this helps brotha.

 

[ARrocket]

Bottom line : IF she doesnt text you monday, then text her later in the week for her second chance, if she fails that then byebye.
Hope this helps brotha.

If you read my post(s) carefully, I'm pretty sure we're saying the same thing

 

[JohnChops]

If you read my post(s) carefully, I'm pretty sure we're saying the same thing

for some reason im still not thinking clearly and im still hungover from Friday night hahahah, i see what your saying now :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon:

 

[marmel75]

Lol...just grabbed 2 more numbers from chicks online following Naughty Ninja's quick number grabs advice...so easy, like taking candy from a baby...now just gotta meet and smash. Probably the best way to not worry about it too much.