recontacted after 2 months, should i bother now?

[big weezy]

back in june i picked up some hot woman who works in investment banking and works stupid hours.. i.e. everyday is like 7am-7pm minimum and sometimes weekends.. i was suppose to teach her to play golf but i was suffering some medical health ailment that was dehabilitating so ended up only contacting her like over a week after i got the number.

anyway she said something along the lines of 'its about time you give me that famous golf lesson'

so i thought things were good and i made the suggestion to get together that weekend for it in the evening and she was being evasive afterwards which was odd saying she rather drink a ****tail at that time.. (i wasn't sure if she meant US going for a drink or a general brush off.. it was the latter)

2 weeks later i recontacted to say 'hey it was my birthday 2 days ago, you didn't give me a birthday kiss'

she texts me a day later 'oh sorry, but u didnt invite me to your bday party, i am offended!'

i send 'i didnt have a birthday party. im just saying u didnt give me a bday kiss! haha. i guess u can make it up to me in some way.. how i do not know, but we'll figure something out starting with celebratory drinks this weekend perhaps.. any other suggestions?'

no reply. this was 2 months ago, i left it after that and forgot about her.

i would call her BUT she's always so busy with work her weekends are only free, so it's like a risk for her use her free time to spend with someone shes not interested in.

anyway, i was feeling desperate and stupid the other day and i randomly texted her: 'hey. are you still around (location where she lived)?'

tonight she texts me: 'hey, stranger, yes i still am living there. u ok?'

should i bother replying to this? if so, what?

i was figuring making suggestions to teach her golf (but not in the evening) bu then it just seems like she wants my attention, as validation ego boost.

I JUST REALISED THIS: the way it's written may seem like she doesn't recognise the number and doesn't want to admit that she's deleted it to avoid conflict?

english isn't her first language so it's hard for me to read into it.

 

[pdx1138]

I wouldn't

 

[cola]

She doesn't want you or atleast date you. Shes just too nice to tell you.

 

[f283000]

anyway she said something along the lines of 'its about time you give me that famous golf lesson'

so i thought things were good and i made the suggestion to get together that weekend for it in the evening and she was being evasive afterwards which was odd saying she rather drink a ****tail at that time.. (i wasn't sure if she meant US going for a drink or a general brush off.. it was the latter)

Why didn't you take the hint and invite her for drinks? I mean after all what gets women into bed quicker than going out for drinks? You were a little naive there. She mentioned the golf but it was her excuse to sort of try to encourage you to man up and ask her out and not for golf (when she mentioned the drinks). You should have taken the hint when she mentioned alcohol. Women are not going to flat out tell you I WANT TO HAVE DRINKS WITH YOU! They don't flat out tell you what they want. They give you little hints and it's your job to be smart and pick up those hints.

You might not even be right on those hints but at least you could have tried which is better than what you have now which is nothing. At least you tried your best, tried to get with her but she just refused. You never really gave her the chance to deny you I think you denied yourself.

2 weeks later i recontacted to say 'hey it was my birthday 2 days ago, you didn't give me a birthday kiss'

she texts me a day later 'oh sorry, but u didnt invite me to your bday party, i am offended!'

i send 'i didnt have a birthday party. im just saying u didnt give me a bday kiss! haha. i guess u can make it up to me in some way.. how i do not know, but we'll figure something out starting with celebratory drinks this weekend perhaps.. any other suggestions?'

1. Why did you tell her you didn't have a bday party? Way to go lowering your self in the eyes of a woman and making yourself look like a boring guy with no life and friends!

Even if you didn't have a party you lie about it! You could have just said "I had a blast" rather than you didn't do anything for your birthday. A little white lie doesn't hurt anyone specially when it comes to keeping a good image of yourself to a woman you are trying to get with.

Did you spend all your time on the weekend playing on the computer? You tell her you went out with friends, went biking then on a hike. I don't care if it's a woman you're interested in or your friends you don't make yourself out to be boring to anyone. Lie if you have to but keep a good image of yourself!

2. How was she going to make it up to you when you didn't even invite her to your bday? You are trying way too hard trying to be ****y and doing it the wrong way.

My final advice: You really need to stop messing around and be a little more serious, more direct. You could always try "hey, going out for drinks on friday night wanna tag along" she either says yes or no. If you had said something like that the first time we wouldn't even have this thread in this forum. You need to keep it simple.

 

[gaspipe]

Not to sound negative but it seems that the window of opportunity has long closed. With hot chicks you have to strike when the iron is hot.

 

[Mr. Suave]

Of course you should reply. Give me one reason why not? Exactly there isn't one... Unless you're hoping she'll send a follow-up text which she probably won't.

Definitely reply. Your goal is to get her out one on one with you.

 

[romangod]

Of course you should reply. Give me one reason why not? Exactly there isn't one...

Definitely reply. Your goal is to get her out one on one with you.

Actually, there is a reason not to reply. The OP mentioned he was feeling desperate and stupid and that's why he texted her. Desperate and stupid is the worst way to try and rekindle something with someone who has shown no signs of interest.

The goal isn't to get her out one on one with you. The goal is to have her so intrigued and interested that she's dying to go out with you.


Sorta like Dean Wormer in Animal house as he scolds Flounder about his grades:

"Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life, son."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1hnwvWhbJw


In the same vane:

"Desperate and stupid is no way to approach a broad, son"


You're done before you get started.


Cheers!

 

[big weezy]

Why didn't you take the hint and invite her for drinks? I mean after all what gets women into bed quicker than going out for drinks? You were a little naive there. She mentioned the golf but it was her excuse to sort of try to encourage you to man up and ask her out and not for golf (when she mentioned the drinks). You should have taken the hint when she mentioned alcohol. Women are not going to flat out tell you I WANT TO HAVE DRINKS WITH YOU! They don't flat out tell you what they want. They give you little hints and it's your job to be smart and pick up those hints.

You might not even be right on those hints but at least you could have tried which is better than what you have now which is nothing. At least you tried your best, tried to get with her but she just refused. You never really gave her the chance to deny you I think you denied yourself.

1. Why did you tell her you didn't have a bday party? Way to go lowering your self in the eyes of a woman and making yourself look like a boring guy with no life and friends!

Even if you didn't have a party you lie about it! You could have just said "I had a blast" rather than you didn't do anything for your birthday. A little white lie doesn't hurt anyone specially when it comes to keeping a good image of yourself to a woman you are trying to get with.

Did you spend all your time on the weekend playing on the computer? You tell her you went out with friends, went biking then on a hike. I don't care if it's a woman you're interested in or your friends you don't make yourself out to be boring to anyone. Lie if you have to but keep a good image of yourself!

2. How was she going to make it up to you when you didn't even invite her to your bday? You are trying way too hard trying to be ****y and doing it the wrong way.

My final advice: You really need to stop messing around and be a little more serious, more direct. You could always try "hey, going out for drinks on friday night wanna tag along" she either says yes or no. If you had said something like that the first time we wouldn't even have this thread in this forum. You need to keep it simple.

I should have mentioned that after she suggested '****tails' it was ambiguous as to whether she meant with me or in general.. i did actually suggest ****tails after and she declined. she was just messing me about or polite no.

when u suggest drinks and for her to tag along that assumes you're going with your buddies.. why would i want her to come along for that when i want a 1 on 1?

 

[Mr. Suave]

Actually, there is a reason not to reply. The OP mentioned he was feeling desperate and stupid and that's why he texted her. Desperate and stupid is the worst way to try and rekindle something with someone who has shown no signs of interest.

If he contacts her he has some chance...
If he doesn't contact her he has ZERO chance and will never see her again...

It's better if he talks to her, he can just try his best to surpress his desperate needy feelings.

 

[h1v0lt4g3]

What Mr. Suave said.

What's to lose? She says no, and your desperation fails you, and you never see her again (just delete her number, amirite?).

She says "sure, where at", see where it goes from there.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Do whatever you want. Personally, I would've forgotten about her by now. Why waste your time on a girl that doesn't want to be around you when there are plenty out there that DO want to be around you?

 

[Alle_Gory]

Not to sound negative but it seems that the window of opportunity has long closed. With hot chicks you have to strike when the iron is hot.

With any opportunity you strike when the iron is hot. You want to get a job and someone is offering? You better take it or leave it. 2 months from now, that opportunity won't be available...