Rebuilding frame

[jimjam]

So the first goal was get the punching bag set up this weekend. To be honest it doesn't matter what you start with the most important thing is to start. So.... we're starting with health and fitness. Therefore start a new thread in health and fitness. Google a few different bags on eBay post the links and ask the guys for their opinion. If you use the @ sign in front of a members username they will get a notification. Most of the regular posters here genuinely enjoy helping out fellow members and will kick in if u ask. E.g. @dustmuffin has had some dark times he came through and is a kick-ass DJ now so he would be good on the mental side..

My son has a punching bag. But he's six so I doubt it'd do me much good. Besides, I just had a bursectomy on my arm so I'm kind of incapacitated at the moment.

I'll take a walk for an hour tomorrow. Maybe it'll clear my head.

Thanks for all the input. I appreciate it.

Funny, I owned two houses at one time. Now I'm reminded of the guy from Bukowski's "A Dollar and Twenty Cents." But I have a beautiful son. Really wouldn't do anything different if it meant him being here.

 

[ubercat]

Mate there s your motivation. You have to do it for your son. He needs a strong male influence. Walking is great I can't go running today because it's been raining too hard and I run in the Park. So I've loaded up my audio books and I'm about to go for a half hour walk now.

 

[dustmuffin]

Jim Jam, my story is similar to yours. I lost my job of twenty years. Was unemployed for 2 years. Got a divorce. My brother died. I was dumped by my LTR. This was all in the span of a few years.

I was raised by a single mother who is as crazy as a bedbug. She **** tests me constantly. Being around her is emotionally draining. My father is a narcissistic, selfish *******. My life as a child was very dysfunctional.

The last straw was one my LTR dumped me and I stopped taking my meds. oH.....i suffer from depression too. I went into a spiral that took a year to get out of. I read the DJ bible. I read all of the red pill material I could get my hands on and slowly started to recover. I made an effort to improve my emotional state by journaling, going to counseling and taking my medication on a regular basis. I did get a new job finally at half of what I earned before. It has it's positives though and I'm happy to have it. I worked in the entertainment industry and It's hard for an old fart like me to find employment.

You need routine. Like @ubercat suggested exercise is a great way to increase the feel good endorphins that you need. From what you have written you are severely depressed. Go to a doctor and get medication for it. get counseling, Journal and exercise. It will take time for you to get out of your funk. You have to be willing to try to break out of it instead of wallowing in self pity.

If you have negative influences from others around you cut them off. You don't need to deal with their crap. I cut my dad off. He caused me much mental anguish. He is in the hospital right now with heart failure. I really don't give a s hit. He is reaping what he sowed. He will probably go into a home and live out the rest of his life there.

If you need to talk to someone I am available. I chat with some of the guys on here on a regular basis. I am well versed in crazy. Just pm me your number.

 

[jimjam]

Jim Jam, my story is similar to yours. I lost my job of twenty years. Was unemployed for 2 years. Got a divorce. My brother died. I was dumped by my LTR. This was all in the span of a few years.

I was raised by a single mother who is as crazy as a bedbug. She **** tests me constantly. Being around her is emotionally draining. My father is a narcissistic, selfish *******. My life as a child was very dysfunctional.

The last straw was one my LTR dumped me and I stopped taking my meds. oH.....i suffer from depression too. I went into a spiral that took a year to get out of. I read the DJ bible. I read all of the red pill material I could get my hands on and slowly started to recover. I made an effort to improve my emotional state by journaling, going to counseling and taking my medication on a regular basis. I did get a new job finally at half of what I earned before. It has it's positives though and I'm happy to have it. I worked in the entertainment industry and It's hard for an old fart like me to find employment.

You need routine. Like @ubercat suggested exercise is a great way to increase the feel good endorphins that you need. From what you have written you are severely depressed. Go to a doctor and get medication for it. get counseling, Journal and exercise. It will take time for you to get out of your funk. You have to be willing to try to break out of it instead of wallowing in self pity.

If you have negative influences from others around you cut them off. You don't need to deal with their crap. I cut my dad off. He caused me much mental anguish. He is in the hospital right now with heart failure. I really don't give a s hit. He is reaping what he sowed. He will probably go into a home and live out the rest of his life there.

If you need to talk to someone I am available. I chat with some of the guys on here on a regular basis. I am well versed in crazy. Just pm me your number.

Thanks for the good words. You sound like you've taken a few yourself. I need to meet people. Only trouble is I feel better being alone. Catch 22. Was excercising 3-5 days a week., Pull ups, dips, squats, muscle ups. All body weight. Haven't done much since they operated on my arm. Hence going for a walk tomorrow.

You're right. Tough to not let what happened define me. One step at a time.

 

[jimjam]

Thanks, everyone for the advice. I posted a thread in health and fitness as suggested titled "Starting over" Trying to stay motivated. Baby steps. Today was okay and I have to make tomorrow better.

Spent a lot of time thinking today. I suppose you could say I've hit bottom again. I've also come to the conclusion that I can't see myself with another woman besides my son's mom. That doesn't mean I want her back. I guess I was raised on the idea that mothers and fathers stay together. I suppose some part of me feels like a failure because we're not together. And I don't want to saddle my son with a step mom. Maybe when he's older and understands things a bit more. I don't know. Fvcked up thinking that I need to jettison, I suppose