Rebound Coming Back? If It Was a Rebound...

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So, this girl and I hit it off amazingly. We get along so well, amazing sex, personalities mesh together so well, we have so much fun together, best I've ever gotten along with any girl. Sex first time we hang out and she sleeps over. Sex and sleep over again the second. She gets jealous if I like other girls pics on social media, she starts calling me baby, babe, calling me and face timing me every day and we'd be on the phone for 1-3 hours before bed, telling me how much she missed me non stop and can't wait to see me, texts me all the time, she was clingy and needy I'll admit, insecure as well, but I could look past that as it wasn too bad.

Now she's a young single mom, we had big plans that we had planned a week in advance, we had been talking about it all week, both so excited, then she calls me the night before the plans and says the father isn't coming home anymore and she can't make it, while on the phone she tells me she is going on vacation with him and his entire family. Keep in mind she had just gotten out of a 2 year 4 month relationship with this guy, had a kid together, were engaged, and then he cheated on her twice. And her and I started talking just a month and a half after they broke up and finally hung out 2 months after they broke up, so it has rebound written all over it.

When we talk on the phone I was so disappointed and when she told me she was going on vacation with him she said I have nothing to worry about and he's out of the picture. And I told her "I'm not sure if this will workout" cause I was pissed to hear she was going on vacation with him and quickly apologized and said no I trust you whatever just go. She gets distant, then a few days later I ask her what's wrong, she takes almost a full day to respond and says she's not sure if this will workout cause we live an hour apart and she's busy with a kid. I say the distance will be simple to workout around, just more careful planning and I have to be more patient and understanding, then goes on to say she's afraid to get into another relationship so soon since her and I moved so fast and got pretty serious very quick. So she said she doesn't want to rush and rather slow things down. And we agree to give it a shot and see were things take us. I said okay. We continue to talk for a week and a half, she still initiates almost every time we talk, but we don't talk anywhere near as much. And for some reason rather snapchat me than text me. Few days later says she's in the weirdest mood and just hates her life right now.

Last Wednesday (a week ago today, was the last time we talked) and I ended up asking her to hangout when she gets back and she doesn't respond, then snapchats me 7 times Friday night. I don't respond to any of them cause I figured if she actually wants to see me and hang out, she would have responded to my text or she can call me. So didn't respond to the snapchats and haven't heard a thing since and I haven't contacted her.

So this obviously has rebound written all over it. And I'm thinking too that her ex did come home but she just didn't tell me cause she misses him and isn't over the break up after only a couple months. Cause she posted some pics that looked suspicious and kinda looked like him but could only see a bit of his body holding the child, but same shirt I've seen him where in other pics they have together. And he was home that Sunday and had the kid, and we had plans for Saturday into Sunday, so idk if he actually came home that Sunday or he was actually home all weekend and she just backed out cause she realizes she's not ready for a relationship yet. But I know I didn't do a thing.

So that's the whole story, and curious if anyone has been a rebound, but had the girl/guy come back? Honesty not even sure if I'd take her back if she did come back but there's a chance. I googled and I had seen posts about girls missing and always thinking about their rebound. Which alwyss makes me wonder if she is still thinking about me and wonders what I'm up to. Just sucks cause we got along soooo well and didn't even get a true shot at anything together.

Makes me wonder if she'd come back after she finally gets over him. I'm certainly not going to wait and put my life on hold, I've already gone out sleeping with other women, but if she decides to come back I'd maybe consider giving it a shot. But im also thinking since most women don't always text a guy they miss she may miss me and want me back but just keep to herself and not reach out to me so I'm thinking about Reachin out to her in 4 weeks to wish her son happy birthday. Cause I've been a rebound in the past and the girl did come back to me after 3 month but wanted to hear other stories. And she never texted me, just ran into each other and took it from there. And other girls in the past I've had little flings with have died out and ended and picked back up months or even a year later
 
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If her feelings are uncertain at this time, so is any future with her. Go about your business and let her decide by herself.
Sounds like a rebound love bomb when she herself has not moved on yet.
 

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If her feelings are uncertain at this time, so is any future with her. Go about your business and let her decide by herself.
Yeah true that's why I'm not contacting her at all. Well mainly cause she never texted me back even though she snapchatted me a bunch.

She said she originally told herself she'd not date anyone or be with anyone for a while after they broke up, but she met me and did not expect things to go the way it did with us she said. But she went with it and now I think she realizes she's not emotionally ready for that and just isn't over it yet. It's either that or she was actually completely serious about the distance thing. Which I don't think she was cause we were doing it just fine and saw each other 3 weekends in a row. Cause after that distance excuse she said well yeah but I'm actually really scared to be in a relationship this soon and we moved so fast and I can't rush things, which could be completely true too

I know, everything screams rebound. The sex right off the bat, was an extremely physical and sexual fling we had going which went well for us and we're both just very sexual and matching sex drives. But also all the face timing, 3 hour phone calls, and all that just not even 1 month from the first time we hung out.

But back to the main question, do they ever come back when they're finally ready??
 

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Yeah true that's why I'm not contacting her at all. Well mainly cause she never texted me back even though she snapchatted me a bunch.

She said she originally told herself she'd not date anyone or be with anyone for a while after they broke up, but she met me and did not expect things to go the way it did with us she said. But she went with it and now I think she realizes she's not emotionally ready for that and just isn't over it yet. It's either that or she was actually completely serious about the distance thing. Which I don't think she was cause we were doing it just fine and saw each other 3 weekends in a row. Cause after that distance excuse she said well yeah but I'm actually really scared to be in a relationship this soon and we moved so fast and I can't rush things, which could be completely true too.
Her actions, not her words.…
 

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Yeah true that's why I'm not contacting her at all. Well mainly cause she never texted me back even though she snapchatted me a bunch.

She said she originally told herself she'd not date anyone or be with anyone for a while after they broke up, but she met me and did not expect things to go the way it did with us she said. But she went with it and now I think she realizes she's not emotionally ready for that and just isn't over it yet. It's either that or she was actually completely serious about the distance thing. Which I don't think she was cause we were doing it just fine and saw each other 3 weekends in a row. Cause after that distance excuse she said well yeah but I'm actually really scared to be in a relationship this soon and we moved so fast and I can't rush things
Her actions, not her words.…
Oh I know. I always consider that too. the phone calls everyday usually 2 times a day are the actions saying she was definitely into me, but what actions are you referring to in regards to thaf quote
 

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Her pulling away from you with another man still involved somewhat.
 

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Her pulling back from you with another man still involved somewhat.
Ok that's what I thought just being sure. She claims the reason she wanted to go cause that's her one chance to go to the beach this summer and she doesn't want to miss out on her son in the ocean playing in the water and stuff. But really if there's an ex that cheated on me twice, I would definitely not want to be in the same house as her for a whole week with his entire family. But she must really like the guy a ton if she even gave him a second chance after cheating
 

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So confusing damnit lol. Idk I might just hit her up in 4 weeks wishing her son happy birthday and along with a little message about me doing something that reminded me of her and see how she respond s
 

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She sounds like a emotional mess right now. I would just lay back and go about my life as usual. If she initiates something meaningful with you then you will have at least half a clue how she wants to go forward with her life.
 

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She sounds like a emotional mess right now. I would just lay back and go about my life as usual. If she initiates something meaningful with you then you will have at least half a clue how she wants to go forward with her life.
Yeah true. That's what I plan on. Like I said, already have gone out with 2 different girls in the past week but I'll still keep in her mind. Yeah does seem like a mess. Saying she's been getting in the strangest moods and hasn't been herself, hates her life right now, recently out of a very serious relationship witha kid, told me she's afraid to get into a relationship, been hot ahd cold with me and distant ever since we had our talk about seeing where things go. Just needs some space and time to think it over
 

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You are to invested in this woman. You already have her moving in and living happily ever after in your head.
With the crap she is pulling she is only good for f ucking and entertainment. If you can back away emotionally and keep frame that is the way to go. It seems you were only a distraction from her rebound. I would accept it and move on. If you continue to over invest in her you are setting yourself up for heart ache.

You did move to fast. You were in contact with her to much. All of which will drive a woman away becasue you are not the prize. You are available all of the time. Stop being available and make yourself scarce. She might come back or maybe not. Don't worry about it. Learn from your mistakes and move on.
 

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You are to invested in this woman. You already have her moving in and living happily ever after in your head.
With the crap she is pulling she is only good for f ucking and entertainment. If you can back away emotionally and keep frame that is the way to go. It seems you were only a distraction from her rebound. I would accept it and move on. If you continue to over invest in her you are setting yourself up for heart ache.

You did move to fast. You were in contact with her to much. All of which will drive a woman away becasue you are not the prize. You are available all of the time. Stop being available and make yourself scarce. She might come back or maybe not. Don't worry about it. Learn from your mistakes and move on.
Nope, didn't make any mistakes, I wasn't overly available. There were times she asked to hang out and I said no I can't. Times she called or tried to face time me and I missed them, times she texted me and she'd double text thinking I was mad at her. I always got back to her, but I was a challenge and wasn't in contact too much. I let her initiate most of the time. And yeah I did get too invested too soon but that's just how fast we moved. But we'll see. Like I said not even sure if I would take her back, moreso I just want an answer
 

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"more so, I just want an answer"
Some times there Are no clear answers in life when it comes down to people. Accept them for what they are, somewhat unpredictable.
 

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"more so, I just want an answer"
Some times there Are no clear answers in life when it comes down to people. Accept them for what they are, somewhat unpredictable.
True. Just have to move on. Only been a week and it's getting better everyday. Sometimes throughout the day I'm good and not on my mind, then there's times it think so much about it get kinda down thinking of it. Another week and I should be good.
 

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Pull way back on your time needed for investment with the next one
 

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Pull way back on your time needed for investment with the next one
Yeah that too. I'm usually good at that, but this time not so much. Probably cause of just how unexpectedly serious it got so fast.
 

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Sex first time we hang out and she sleeps over. Sex and sleep over again the second. She gets jealous if I like other girls pics on social media, she starts calling me baby, babe, calling me and face timing me every day and we'd be on the phone for 1-3 hours before bed, telling me how much she missed me non stop and can't wait to see me, texts me all the time, she was clingy and needy I'll admit, insecure as well, but I could look past that as it wasn too bad.
Talking on the phone 3 hours? Sleeping over on first screw? You are not the prize.
 

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Yeah that too. I'm usually good at that, but this time not so much. Probably cause of just how unexpectedly serious it got so fast.
Classic love bomb… beware, that kind of behavior on her part could also be a big BPD red flag.
We always Assume, based on her words that all the problems in her previous deal was her exes fault. Look for actions and flags with any new girl. Screen hard
 
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Talking on the phone 3 hours? Sleeping over on first screw? You are not the prize.
Lol just stop. When it comes to sleeping with a girl it's usually the girl that loses the value of being the prize. Not so much the guy. I've slept with women first date before and it didn't change a thing. They were still obsessing over me for a while until I end things when it comes to the "what are we/where is this going talk" im very picky, not many women id actually date. I know this one has a kid and that's typically a huge turn off for any guy but for some reason with her I looked past it. If a thing sex right away brought us closer quicker from the way I see and her actions, words, and how fast we moved. Talking on the phone for 3 hours is fine, as long as it's not too frequent. There were times she'd want to talk and I'd say no I'm going to bed I have to be up early tomorrow and that was that. Other times we'd talk.

This definitely has nothing to do with me. with how well we got along, amazing sex, great connection, just everything was perfect with us and with how extremely sudden it was that she just got distant. I'm sure it's a matter of her realizing "damn I'm not over my ex and we moved so fast, not sure if I'm ready to date again actually" I've been in rebounds in the past, and it always seems that the girl gets very distant very very suddenly. First time it ever happened to me was 4 years ago with a girl that again, got along amazingly with, never had sex tho she just gave me head, awesome time with her, great connection and chemistry, could talk with for hours, same interests, and suddenly one night just cancelled plans last minute and went back to her ex, 3 months later came back to me.

Don't bother typing out another response I'm not going to respond to it or even read it. Meaning from dust muffin. Any one else feel free lol
 
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