One thing I've noticed that kinda refutes one viewpoint that some incels as well as some manosphere followers have is the phenomenon of how many unmasculine nerdy sort of guys have attractive girlfriends. The viewpoint I'm referring to is how certain incels or manosphere guys will talk about how desirable women are inaccessible to them because they're with some chad instead or whatever. For example about six years ago I knew this hot girl in one of my college courses and one day she added me on social media and on her profile she had pics of her boyfriend, and this dude was a unattractive nerdy looking guy. It was really baffling to me at the time. Hypothetically speaking, if I had been with this girl she would have been the hottest women I'd have ever been with, even to this day, and here she was going out with this nerdy dude that looked like he sucked in every way. I did hit this chick up on social media and talked to her a bit and threw around the prospect of us hanging out, but I decided not to go thru with it in earnest because I felt weird about potentially hooking up with a girl who was already in a relationship, even if the guy she was with was a total pipsqueak.
This isn't the only time I've seen something like this, irl and online. From a conventional manosphere point of view, attractive women go for conventionally successful, attractive, masculine guys, but there's a lot of unmasculine, nerdy, or not conventionally attractive men who are capable of achieving relationships with desirable women. Think of all those numale stereotype dudes out there, the sort who collect funkopops and nintendo and marvel stuff who have wives and girlfriends somehow. The manoshpere often teaches that men should pursue self improvement or improving one's looks or financial status as a means of attaining the type of women and relationships they desire, but none of this alone ensures success in the end. Incels harp on the fact that they can't change the hand they're dealt, and thus doomed to a life of celibacy as they perceive themselves to not be attractive, rich, or socially astute enough to get laid, even though plenty of objectively unremarkable guys get girls all the time.