Really like her but its going nowhere?

Oddman

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Need some help here I'm going crazy. I've known this sexy girl since February last year and we worked together till October. We had a fling and were always with eachother at work and we kissed and that but I guess we were more flirty friends then anything but I really fell for her. She's different, she looks like a fn pornstar but she's like a tomboy. I've never met anyone with so many different sides to their personality.

She had feelings aswell I believe(crying,called me everyday for the first 2 months) but told me it wasn't the right time because that she missed her ex of 5 years and isn't over him. She is sexy and has a great personality, she told me alot of her personal problems and we were very close.

People started gossiping, so she told people she wasn't interested in me and had a boyfriend which is something she did not tell me so everyone was hostile to me and treated me like a creeper despite us obviously liking eachother for about 6 months.

I got so stressed from the way they were treating me I made a mistsake and got fired. I don't work with her no more so phone conversation is awkward and I feel frustrated and when I call I think "What's the point?"

We kept up contact for 3 months and I often suggested meeting up but she would always make excuses. One point before christmas she asked me to go out and I was caught off guard and sounded quite nervous and I think this put her off. After about a week she just stopped initiating but would answer my calls and seem friendly enough. When I called her the other day she didn't sound like she had much to say to me or wasn't in the mood. I told her I missed her and she said she missed me too. What do I do, just call her once a week? we used to speak 3 times a week but I haven't seen her in 2 months.
 

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Oddman said:
What do I do, just call her once a week? we used to speak 3 times a week but I haven't seen her in 2 months.
Why would you call a woman once a week if you're not dating her? Doesn't that sound silly to you?

Think about it. You're getting nothing from this woman. No sex. No dating. Just your imaginary feelings of love "She's different. She's special. She has so many sides to her personality."

But for all your imaginary feelings, what are you getting that's REAL? Nothing. You're calling her 3 times a week. You're getting fired from your job. You're sad and depressed...and you've gotten NOTHING out of this situation.

You're way too emotionally invested in this woman. And let's be honest, you're never going to date her. You've already played every card you have, and she still rejected your attempt to date her. Your only option is to walk away and never let this happen again.
 

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An open and shut case.

You're getting nothing now. It's getting worse before better. You want her more than she wants your ass. It can get better. Cut her loose and spin more plates!

You are guilty of catching feelings, Improper use of a pedestal, and traveling down Nowhere Road. The fine for this is 2 blue balls, 1 stressed mind, multiple hurt feelings, and a trip to Notgonnahappen, Mississippi.

She knows she has you. Women want what they can't have. You lost.

Thank you OP! But your princess is in another castle!

Case closed.
 

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I see.

So after one year I'm supposed to dissappear? after watching her two months ago stare me down with tears in her eyes as she saw how distant we had become. You're right I'm getting nothing and she isn't exactly giving me signals. Some phonecalls she will flirt and tell me **** like "I'm wet, I want **** etc" then she talks to me like I'm just her friend.
 

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Oddman said:
I see.

So after one year I'm supposed to dissappear? after watching her two months ago stare me down with tears in her eyes as she saw how distant we had become. You're right I'm getting nothing and she isn't exactly giving me signals. Some phonecalls she will flirt and tell me **** like "I'm wet, I want **** etc" then she talks to me like I'm just her friend.
I see.

You're pu$$y whipped! BTW you are just her friend. That's why you're being teased.

Lay your foot down dammit!

If a woman really liked you, she would move Stone Mountain from Georgia into Ohio to see you. And she'd run like Sonic The Hedgehog across I-75 to see you!

Not the case here. She's got another man. Go get another woman. Who's actually interested in you.
 

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What do you think all the crying was about though? it happened quite a bit, the first time she was trying her hardest to not let me see.
 

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Oddman said:
What do you think all the crying was about though? it happened quite a bit, the first time she was trying her hardest to not let me see.
You could spend your lifetime trying to figure out the meaning behind women and their moods and emotions.

Which is why it's better to look at REALITY. As in - what has this woman given you?

"Why does she cry?" "Why does she call so much?" "Why does she flirt with me?"

Here's the better question - "If this woman liked me, why has she not made a commitment to me after a YEAR of talking?"

Screw that other stuff. It'll drive you crazy. Look at results. Actions speak louder than words.
 
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