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Senior Don Juan
You ever wonder how that fat ass ugly nerd you saw at the mall hooked up with such a hot girl?
True. But I've found that the best way to beat a goodlooking guy is through indifference. So the next time you see a girl giving her attention to a dull prettyboy, act as if you don't give a fvck and do your own thing.
Walden
Master Don Juan
I'm sorry man I gotta post on this one.It's mostly about looks.
It ain't d*ck to do with looks.
Example from personal experience.
I just got back from a party I went to where one of my crew was like a f***en male model.
Now me, I wouldn't rate much above a six and I have a huge f***en scar on my face.
We all hit this party and there are these two hot 8s in a corner with a crowd of guys literally three deep around them.
So I immediately put on my alpha vibe (friendly but unimpressed, like I'm a visiting rock star but I haven't told anyone) and hang out.
Me and this model guy are competing for the chicks, in a friendly way.
One chick looks over, I smile a little and look away , like I'm hotter than she is and haven't noticed her.
Eventually I pick my moment to make my approach on one of them. We get talking , she's busting kino on me cos unlike the other guys in the room I haven't been clowning to get her attention all night. The topic of rubbing someones belly for luck comes up (it was a simpsons refernce) so I use that as a chance to bust kino like I expect her to be happy I'm touching her...I don't even focus much convo on her I seem almost indiferent to wether she;s there.By now this romful of guys are all watching this chick busting kino on me.
The rest of the night I go and engage these chicks only a couple times, but each time I do it's confidently like I expect their full attention.
...long story short by the end of the night I get up to leave (I'd driven nine hours today) these chicks are begging my friend not to let me leave, and have hardly noticed this model guy (who was , incidentally a totally cool guy).
The lesson here is it's not good looks and it's not luck. It's all about confidence , game and alphaness man.
Señor Fingers
Master Don Juan
Yes it IS about looks!
You must look confident
You must look relaxed
You must look like you are having fun
Do this by actually being all the above
You must look into her eyes
You must look around you to absorb your situation
You must look past your own superficial limitations.
But looks are only one-fifth of the equation. How do you sound, smell, feel, taste?
Expand your mind dude!
Fingz
ps - great post Walden!
You must look confident
You must look relaxed
You must look like you are having fun
Do this by actually being all the above
You must look into her eyes
You must look around you to absorb your situation
You must look past your own superficial limitations.
But looks are only one-fifth of the equation. How do you sound, smell, feel, taste?
Expand your mind dude!
Fingz
ps - great post Walden!
At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Nice posts Walden, Fingers...
Anyway, AMF, to say it is "all about looks" is something that can be easy to do if you are feeling down.
Here is something I could never explain though:
Sometimes me and a friend of mine go out on the town. He is one of those guys who just gets raped every time he steps out the door. He doesn't even have a big ego about it, he thinks it should happen for everyone.
You would not believe the hot HOT girls that come up to him and do most of the work. Later, these same girls would be overheard saying "Wow, he is hot!" and things of that nature.
I used to sit back in awe, just wishing that the same thing could happen to me. I wished I was as "good looking" as he was.
NOW I know that what this kid REALLY had working for him, was that he was APPROACHABLE and OUTGOING. We go out now, and I notice him talk to everyone, and be really open. People approach HIM because....well, he looks approachable and friendly.
Whereas I used to sit hunched, not saying much, and think it was LOOKS that seperated us! As if!
Now that I am more outgoing, I have found that (a few times) some girls that he has talked to first, make an effort to get to know me over him! Why? Who knows, probably they like my LOOK. Other girls like his LOOK better.
Looks cannot be 'rated', the rating system is FOUL and can only describe things like beauty that have NOTHING to do with sexuality. (You will learn this soon enough if you GO and hang with girls.)
You will be SURPRISED. There is something strange at work in nature. The certain girls that have certain traits that make me think they are SO HOT; the ones that I could "fall in love with at first sight"; usually feel the same way about me.
It is probably the same with anyone else. I DARE you to find "one of THOSE girls" that doesn't feel the same way about you. I am not that lucky of a guy to just HAPPEN to get the girls that I absolutely love.
Of course, this isn't 100% foolproof, but if you go out there, to many situations, and many girls...you will see just what I am talking about.
If you still think it is looks, and more IMPORTANTLY, if you DON'T go after "those girls" that you are inexplicably drawn to just because they don't look like models with huge tits....well....I guess you get what you deserve then.
Also, if you are sitting there WISHING you had "looks" so you could have all the attention of the ladies, to feed your own ego, then you need to grow up. I used to think this way, and it is a symptom of a life lived in fear. Nothing good comes of being admired by women unless you have a desire to PARTAKE in the joy of sexuality.
And if you have a desire to partake, then having them worship you doesn't have any bearing. Just go after what you want. You don't have to be the top dog, or the best looking guy. If you are MAN enough not to be afraid of your desires and what you want, then that will turn her on enough to LOVE it.
Anyway, AMF, to say it is "all about looks" is something that can be easy to do if you are feeling down.
Here is something I could never explain though:
Sometimes me and a friend of mine go out on the town. He is one of those guys who just gets raped every time he steps out the door. He doesn't even have a big ego about it, he thinks it should happen for everyone.
You would not believe the hot HOT girls that come up to him and do most of the work. Later, these same girls would be overheard saying "Wow, he is hot!" and things of that nature.
I used to sit back in awe, just wishing that the same thing could happen to me. I wished I was as "good looking" as he was.
NOW I know that what this kid REALLY had working for him, was that he was APPROACHABLE and OUTGOING. We go out now, and I notice him talk to everyone, and be really open. People approach HIM because....well, he looks approachable and friendly.
Whereas I used to sit hunched, not saying much, and think it was LOOKS that seperated us! As if!
Now that I am more outgoing, I have found that (a few times) some girls that he has talked to first, make an effort to get to know me over him! Why? Who knows, probably they like my LOOK. Other girls like his LOOK better.
Looks cannot be 'rated', the rating system is FOUL and can only describe things like beauty that have NOTHING to do with sexuality. (You will learn this soon enough if you GO and hang with girls.)
You will be SURPRISED. There is something strange at work in nature. The certain girls that have certain traits that make me think they are SO HOT; the ones that I could "fall in love with at first sight"; usually feel the same way about me.
It is probably the same with anyone else. I DARE you to find "one of THOSE girls" that doesn't feel the same way about you. I am not that lucky of a guy to just HAPPEN to get the girls that I absolutely love.
Of course, this isn't 100% foolproof, but if you go out there, to many situations, and many girls...you will see just what I am talking about.
If you still think it is looks, and more IMPORTANTLY, if you DON'T go after "those girls" that you are inexplicably drawn to just because they don't look like models with huge tits....well....I guess you get what you deserve then.
Also, if you are sitting there WISHING you had "looks" so you could have all the attention of the ladies, to feed your own ego, then you need to grow up. I used to think this way, and it is a symptom of a life lived in fear. Nothing good comes of being admired by women unless you have a desire to PARTAKE in the joy of sexuality.
And if you have a desire to partake, then having them worship you doesn't have any bearing. Just go after what you want. You don't have to be the top dog, or the best looking guy. If you are MAN enough not to be afraid of your desires and what you want, then that will turn her on enough to LOVE it.