Real Depressed; Need Desperate Help

[SIXPAKGQ]

Hi, I had been seeing this girl for about 5 months as friends. did everything that a DJ can do. She is a "nice" girl but she gave obvious signals for me to ask her out, at the end, she said that you took the wrong way, is it my fault? i really liked this girl to become my g/f....how can i recover from this mess? I am really depressed...

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
Hi, I had been seeing this girl for about 5 months as friends...at the end, she said that you took the wrong way, is it my fault?

You don't even have a clue, do you? The 'wrong way' she is referring to is your symp 'friend' approach - women see this indirect approach as less than manly!!!! It is difficult for her to see you in a different light now!!

(Women) SHE WANTS A MAN - NOT A FRIEND!!!!

Never approach a girl as a 'friend'!!!!

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
Hi, I had been seeing this girl for about 5 months as friends. did everything that a DJ can do.

How can you possibly say you "did everything that a DJ can do" when you've been seeing her AS FRIENDS for 5 MONTHS??

You set yourself up for that one. You can recover from this mess by finding a new girl and not wasting time being her friend if what you really want is to be her lover.

 

[saigonheadache]

This is how you learn bro. And this shows that you haven't been doing "everything" And remember be the man not the friend and you will be surprised how girls react to that. Now ain't this a bltch
I know how you feel. been in this situation bout 3 years ago, it sucks, but on the other hand one day you will thank this girl cause she opened up your eyes to the game. Now blame your parents and your environment for not teachin' you how to handle women

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

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saigon : well i wanted to make sure that she does not think i am a player. lot of girls label DJ's as a player and i don't want that. this girl was different. she was a nice girl in my eyes not a woman DJ. So I played my game differently. its too late now....I wanted a LTR not a quick f**k, u see what i mean?

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

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don't most women want a guy who they can be friends with first and then a relationship. I am talking about LTR's not One night stands.

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

i did all the DJ stuff.

Funny
****y/Confident
little bit of touching
she showed lots of eye contact, hair playing and smiling only to play games? and want attention?

in those 5 months, i ignored her a lot...she didnt, she called me like 10 times a day

Discuss

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Re: ...

Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
don't most women want a guy who they can be friends with first and then a relationship. I am talking about LTR's not One night stands.

They want a man no matter what the length of the relationship!!! Quit lisitening to the older bitter 'Oprah' hos!!!!

What don't you understand????

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
i did all the DJ stuff.

Funny
****y/Confident
little bit of touching
she showed lots of eye contact, hair playing and smiling only to play games? and want attention?

in those 5 months, i ignored her a lot...she didnt, she called me like 10 times a day

Discuss

Did you pursue her romantically as a man and go for the kiss????? If no, then you were wasting your time!!!!

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

puerto : regardless of what ethnicity she is? well how a man be not a good friend? i am sure u have friends that guys and perhaps u have a best guy friend....how do u treat them?

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

lover : i kissed her hands thats about it..i am too much of a P**sy to kiss her lips....i played slow.....i wanted to make sure that she was the one....wouldnt she think i am a player if i kissed her early?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
lover : i kissed her hands thats about it..i am too much of a P**sy to kiss her lips....i played slow.....i wanted to make sure that she was the one....wouldnt she think i am a player if i kissed her early?

I feel like choking you for doing less than your duty as a man!! Women want men to pursue them - this is their desire and by you kissing her hand she saw you less than a man because you did less than what a man should/would do!! Your 'hand-kissing' attempt was weak and you are trying to be 'nice' instead of being a man!!! This approached may have worked in the 17th century, but this is a new day!!!

You never gave her a chance to accept or reject you romantically - this is where you have errored!!!!

She told you "You did it wrong"!!! This means all of your thinking and actions were/are wrong - don't you see this?????

 

[Wong Fei Hung]

SIXPAKGQ, my suggestion is to forget about trying to turn her into a girlfriend. Some girls are just like that no matter what you learned...


Your heart will hurt but think this way. She allow a great catch like you getaway. There are plenty of girls in this world. Try asking someone else.


Life is too short, so LIVE, LAUGH, and LOVE!

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

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puerto : she said that i took all those signals the wrong way......so its not my fault right? i mean if u were in my shoes, u would definately think she is flirting. I am also an above average looking guy so i don't think that even helped.....

remember this girl has no experience in dating, she is 19......she is seen as a innocent little girl, how can you really DJ on her? she is an AFC chick.....

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

hung : thats for the uplift. but it takes time to get over a rejection. check this out, i have been with a total of 5 women in my life, the first 4 asked me out, but today after 26.5 years i asked a girl out!

p.s : i do see this girl often in the cafeteria where i work..how should be my approach? ignore her?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Re: ...

Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
puerto : she said that i took all those signals the wrong way......so its not my fault right?

You would have known if she gave you the wrong signals in the first week if you would have pursued her romantically only and asked her out!!!

If you make your intentions known right away, she would have given you an answer right away and not 5 months later!!

She probably likes you physically but may view your 5 month actions (inaction) as weak and may have lost respect/admiration for you with respect to how she sees you as a man!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
...but today after 26.5 years i asked a girl out!

This here lies your problem - this is your first true approach/attempt - you have no experience!!!!

Only pursue a woman in a romantic fashion!!

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

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lover ; i thought women love men who take their time in knowing her from inside. this shows that i am not a dog! afterall a DJ is a player right? well she always checked out my body (not to be conceited) and she showed interest at first sight....for some reason i always DOUBT myself, i dont know why, but i doubt myself, i am like no she doesnt me even thought she does, something in my mind tells me that give some time....

 

[SIXPAKGQ]

lover : wel i have been in 3 LTR's....but they did all the work by asking me out...which made my life quite easy....i am afraid of rejection......

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Re: ...

Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
..and she showed interest at first sight....for some reason i always DOUBT myself, i dont know why, but i doubt myself, i am like no she doesnt me even thought she does, something in my mind tells me that give some time....

It is your mind/thinking that needs correction - it is obvious that you never pursued a woman!! ' Your other relationships were easy because the woman did all the work! When left to your own devices you fail miserably! Your looks get initial attraction but then that only lasts for so long - it is a man's manliness that eventually captures and keeps a woman!