Real Bad Situation My Friend is IN

[SamMalone]

My friend is in a bad situation (for real, it's not me). He is 30, but he usually comes to me for advice but I'm not sure what to do in this situation.

Anyways, he has been with this girl for two years. She's pretty cool, doesn't go out often at all and is pretty funny. They love each other and always look happy together.

Recently, she was diagnosed with schizophrenia. She has multiple personalites. I've seen it with my own eyes, and if she is faking it she is the best actress I've ever seen.

She tried taking pill for the problem, but the pills made her a walking zombie so she stopped taking them. Now this other personality is a **** tease that hates men but doesn't come out often (maybe once every three months).

The problem is this: She recently got a new friend and they want to have ladies nights and go out together. My friend told her thats not cool because of her condition plus the situation plus not taking meds is a recipe for disaster. She says its not fair that she can't go out.

I can see both points here, but I agree with my friend more. I told him he might have to break it off if she doesn't act smart and help the situation, but he refuses to break it off with her. I certainly wouldn't be comfortable with her going out under these conditions, but I can see why she would think thats controlling. Whats your advice guys?

 

[SamMalone]

What do you guys think?

 

[pointbreak23]

My friend is in a bad situation (for real, it's not me). He is 30, but he usually comes to me for advice but I'm not sure what to do in this situation.

Anyways, he has been with this girl for two years. She's pretty cool, doesn't go out often at all and is pretty funny. They love each other and always look happy together.

Recently, she was diagnosed with schizophrenia. She has multiple personalites. I've seen it with my own eyes, and if she is faking it she is the best actress I've ever seen.

She tried taking pill for the problem, but the pills made her a walking zombie so she stopped taking them. Now this other personality is a **** tease that hates men but doesn't come out often (maybe once every three months).

The problem is this: She recently got a new friend and they want to have ladies nights and go out together. My friend told her thats not cool because of her condition plus the situation plus not taking meds is a recipe for disaster. She says its not fair that she can't go out.

I can see both points here, but I agree with my friend more. I told him he might have to break it off if she doesn't act smart and help the situation, but he refuses to break it off with her. I certainly wouldn't be comfortable with her going out under these conditions, but I can see why she would think thats controlling. Whats your advice guys?

my advice is that he needs to get out the relationship as soon as possible, i dated a girl like this once. It didnt go well. If he tells her she can't go out, she probably will anyway.

 

[Leporello]

What are you saying - the girl needs to be locked up? is she dangerous?

if it only happens once every three months, how long does it last?

 

[Sin Verdad]

I wouldn't give up on this girl. He should at least keep her as a friend because she needs help. It's not her fault she has this disease

 

[Joe Stud]

let her go out, no big deal

 

[Pimp-sicle]

No offense, but at 30 years old, your friend should have developed better judgement for choosing LTR partners. A girl who severely mentally ill can NEVER have a healthy relationship when she is constantly battling herself.......... in this case she's battling numerous versions of "herself."

It'll be very hard, but he's got to break it off and let her down gently and walk out of her life forever. You can't be friends with people who are sick like this, especially after being intimate.. tell him to trade in his white knight attire for a new girl.




PIMP

 

[Proselytiser]

I thought multiple personalities were not schizophrenia but called something else like 'dissociative identity disorder' or something. Anyway, I think your friend should ditch her. Just like I would tell your friend to drop someone with a personality disorder like BPD or HPD. The mentally ill make for terrible love interests, and it's not her fault, but he's gonna find it very hard to live with her.

And if she wants, she can just continue the relationship inside her head, so no loss to her (lol that's harsh, sorry)

 

[WaterTiger]

Just because ONE pill doesn't work, don't mean a different one won't. There are many different drugs to control this disease. Tell her to get back to her Dr. & find another pill to try!

 

[DonJuanit0]

This reminds me an incident that happened here in Greece 2 weeks ago! There was this guy who suffered schizophrenia just like your friend's gf! He was a good person and staff, until one day he went out and started shooting at people while being in his car! After the death of 2 people and several injuries police busted him! Why did he do what he did? Well, his mother believed that when he wasn't taking the pills the doctors had given him he was acting like a normal person and not like a zombie, as the OP said before!
I think that your friend should force his gf to go back to the doctor and ask for another pill! I wouldn't stay with her if she wanted to stop taking the pills...

 

[SamMalone]

It only happens once every few months, but can last various range. From a few minutes to two days one time. I agree he needs to get out but he did not learn of this illness until after they were together for a while. I talked to him this morning and he is thinking of breaking it off today.

 

[Furyguy]

I thought multiple personalities were not schizophrenia but called something else like 'dissociative identity disorder' or something. Anyway, I think your friend should ditch her. Just like I would tell your friend to drop someone with a personality disorder like BPD or HPD. The mentally ill make for terrible love interests, and it's not her fault, but he's gonna find it very hard to live with her.

And if she wants, she can just continue the relationship inside her head, so no loss to her (lol that's harsh, sorry)

You're right, Schizophrenia does not include having multiple personalities. A person with multiple personalities has Multiple Personality Disorder. Schizophrenia is a whole range of other symptoms that basically involves not being able to distinguish reality from the fantasy/imaginary world we all have in our heads.

Regardless of which one it is, she needs to keep getting professional help until she finds a way to resolve this issue. People with these disorders can and do live normals lives - it's just a matter of finding the right treatment. Psychiatry isn't an exact process, but she WILL find something that works if she keeps looking.

 

[rocksoff]

Now this other personality is a **** tease that hates men but doesn't come out often (maybe once every three months).

hahahahahahha OH MAN ya really got real big problem there try driving a wooden stake thru the center of her heart or throwing holy water upon her when the demon reveals itself.....