Reaction vs Indifference

[jhonny9546]

My cousin (29F), who has been in a 6 year LTR with her boyfriend (32M), has actually experienced this situation, and I would be interested to know how you would respond.

They have been living together for 3 years in his house.
In January 2024, they had an argument, and she moved back in with her parents.
This lasted for 2 months until she moved back in with him.

Their argument was about issues like how to properly organize clothes in the closet, which was when the tension escalated.
Meanwhile, during these 2 months, he was also texting another girl who was "emotionally nurturing" him.


How would you have reacted if your LTR of 6 years did this to you? And why do you think she would do it? And why would you think She would come back with you?

 

[New_Journey]

- She was the one who left the house
- The guy knows he is the prize, therefore didn't wait to find another girl
- The girl could've fvcked another guy, maybe she did
- She missed all the great things she had
- The girl realized she was gonna lose the guy to another girl and the competition anxiety kicked in and that's why she came back

I hope the guy fvcked that other girl. I would have, also, I would've waited min 6 months to have her back in my house and would've used that opportunity to go out and do whatever I wanted to do, including fvcking other women. That's the only way women can respect a man, when she knows he has other options

Jealousy and infidelity are not the same for men and women.

 

[jhonny9546]

That's the only way women can respect a man, when she knows he has other options

You then chose to have sex or not, but you can just give her a hint of impression.
Btw, what if I tell you the same story happened but without the other woman in the game here?

 

[The Duke]

My cousin (29F), who has been in a 6 year LTR with her boyfriend (32M), has actually experienced this situation, and I would be interested to know how you would respond.

They have been living together for 3 years in his house.
In January 2024, they had an argument, and she moved back in with her parents.
This lasted for 2 months until she moved back in with him.

Their argument was about issues like how to properly organize clothes in the closet, which was when the tension escalated.
Meanwhile, during these 2 months, he was also texting another girl who was "emotionally nurturing" him.


How would you have reacted if your LTR of 6 years did this to you? And why do you think she would do it? And why would you think She would come back with you?

I've had 3 women live with me in my lifetime. My rule has always been, if you move out you aren't coming back.

The problem with a girl moving out and the guy entertaining other women is it erodes the foudation of the relationship.
The fact that he started talking to some other girl will cause her to question him if they get back together. Once she has ran away from her problems once, its even easier to do it a second time.

I hope the guy fvcked that other girl. I would have, also, I would've waited min 6 months to have her back in my house and would've used that opportunity to go out and do whatever I wanted to do, including fvcking other women. That's the only way women can respect a man, when she knows he has other options

Jealousy and infidelity are not the same for men and women.

Sure hooking up with another girl will get her(exgf) attention and draw her back in. I'll agree with that. But the damage it causes later on creates problems when they get back together. Its something that will stay with her a long time. It creates distrust, and apprehension on behalf of the woman. I have experienced this myself when broken up for a few months and have a few friends that cheated on their wives and got back together. Their stories are all the same, just as I have stated.

I certainly would not recommend doing so. Its also weak behavior.

 

[pipeman84]

Their argument was about issues like how to properly organize clothes in the closet, which was when the tension escalated.

Nah, that was just the tip of the iceberg.
I think the guy lacks a masculine frame. Otherwise, this wouldn't have happened OR he wouldn't have accepted her back.
Moreover, what the heck is this:

Meanwhile, during these 2 months, he was also texting another girl who was "emotionally nurturing" him.

What kind of man is looking to be 'emotionally nurtured' (whatever that means) over text?

 

[New_Journey]

You then chose to have sex or not, but you can just give her a hint of impression.
Btw, what if I tell you the same story happened but without the other woman in the game here?

If she left the house, I hope she fvcked other women on her absence, its time for men to use a pragmatic view of relationships and stop being shame for it.

Sure hooking up with another girl will get her(exgf) attention and draw her back in. I'll agree
with that. But the damage it causes later on creates problems when they get back together. Its something that will stay with her a long time. It creates distrust, and apprehension on behalf of the woman. I have experienced this myself when broken up for a few months and have a few friends that cheated on their wives and got back together. Their stories are all the same, just as I have stated.

I certainly would not recommend doing so. Its also weak behavior.

Doing that to get her attention is weak and pathetic. He should do it for himself. When women no longer have any use for men, they broke up and get with another as you may know. But men are so $tupid and have the sense of morality so stupidity high that they think doing the right thing for a woman is what matter.

Women can sniff when men get puzzy, men behave differently. I'm not advocating for him to get puzzy for attention from her ex, I'm advocating for him to get puzzy without her showing it to her. Also, I don't care what is moral and what is not, I care what works for a guy, and if getting puzzy outside will help him get rid of any oneitis or making him realize he's the prize, then by all mean he should do it.

Women have their own tricks for relationships, its time for men do the same without shame, and may the best woman wins his heart.

Women are the pragmatics posing as romantics, while men are the romantics posing as pragmatics. If all men replace their woman at the minimal BS, women would behave in their best behavior for ever, cause they know she can be replaced at the minimal BS she throws at the guy.

 

[Gamisch]

Nah, that was just the tip of the iceberg.
I think the guy lacks a masculine frame. Otherwise, this wouldn't have happened OR he wouldn't have accepted her back.
Moreover, what the heck is this:

What kind of man is looking to be 'emotionally nurtured' (whatever that means) over text?

Tbh it's a reflex to find a new woman as soon as possible. Some people cant be alone for a second. The new woman either wasn't as high quality or proofed to be more difficult than he'd expected or a combination of the two.

It's indeed the tip of the iceberg and just a bs reason to escalate sh1t. He called her bluff and eventually she caved in. Big mistake to take her back. Next fight will be because he spilled a drop of water when he was drinking. Or the infamous toothpaste battle. Or when a small cubic hair is the shower.

 

[zekko]

What kind of man is looking to be 'emotionally nurtured' (whatever that means) over text?

I think it's entirely possible that the guy was hurting over the breakup or whatever it was, and the girl was offering him some support. Contrary to popular belief, some guys do have feelings. She probably knew him already, I doubt if she came out of nowhere. Of course it could have been a sexual or attraction thing too, but women are good at nurturing so I wouldn't rule that out.

As for her coming back, it's not uncommon for couples to get into an on again/off again relationship, especially if they're younger. Sometimes they have to break up a few times for it to "take".

 

[pipeman84]

As for her coming back, it's not uncommon for couples to get into an on again/off again relationship, especially if they're younger. Sometimes they have to break up a few times for it to "take".

Yeah, I understand this if they're teenagers and the break up means a couple of days. But when they're 32 and 29yrs old, 6 years in the relationship and the woman leaves for 2 months, then it's kaput.