Reaction to attractive women that piss you off/disrespect you

[SL2012]

I know when I have felt maybe rejected by a certain girl or a girl disrespects me in a certain way; I "get even" by ignoring the girl next time I see her; generally acting like she doesn't exist.

I.E. If we are talking in a group setting; or you see the that girl around; I avoid eye contact with her, don't talk to her and generally act LIKE SHE IS INVISIBLE TO ME AND BASICALLY DOESN'T EXIST while treating everyone else normally.

I guess It is spiteful, but it is my way of non-verbally saying to the girl, F**K YOU

Does this behavior make me look insecure and unconfident?

I can't help it; I guess I get off on it somehow since I am an attractive guy and like to think (atleast in my head) they are missing out.

 

[dasein]

Yeah, they are masters at sensing that type of BS and they feed on it. Hell they have all their GFs over years to develop that radar. The goal is to really ignore as opposed to spitefully ignore.

 

[Stort_Brød]

either that or straight up call them out on their B.S

 

[Tictac]

Reaction?

None.

 

[Married Buried]

I do this to someone at work. Ignore her completely while others kiss her ass. There is a huge beta who hangs around her desk all the time, walks her out at night, and she is married. It's pathetic and she eats up the attention. God forbid she tells the dude she's married and stop talking to her.

I know ignoring upsets her too. One time she emailed me a stupid question and I never replied. Then a few weeks later I had to ask her something trivial through email, and she never replied, proving my ignoring got to her. Have never said a word to her since then. I let her walk out alone at night. I never say goodbye or hello when we are the only one's working a shift. I don't give a damn.

 

[Colossus]

Sometimes older women will feed on this kind of spiteful ignoring, because they know they got to you.

With younger girls, however, there are two ways to really get under their skin: ignore them (genuinely), and don't take them seriously.

 

[Driggs]

I think ignoring them is like garlic to vampires.

I'm currently trying to figure out a way to pull a woman back in so I can ignore her. My suspicion is that the easiest way to do that is by ignoring her.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Ignoring alone doesn't do it.

Turn your back on them. That KILLS them.

 

[backbreaker]

I do this to someone at work. Ignore her completely while others kiss her ass. There is a huge beta who hangs around her desk all the time, walks her out at night, and she is married. It's pathetic and she eats up the attention. God forbid she tells the dude she's married and stop talking to her.

I know ignoring upsets her too. One time she emailed me a stupid question and I never replied. Then a few weeks later I had to ask her something trivial through email, and she never replied, proving my ignoring got to her. Have never said a word to her since then. I let her walk out alone at night. I never say goodbye or hello when we are the only one's working a shift. I don't give a damn.

I know a woman like this.

She's 40 years old but is pretty attractive. skinny, really really nice legs, she's more sexy than she is pretty. she wears zero makeup and is still very pretty when she actually wears makeup she's gorgeous.

Anyway it's funny she is in the drug rehab field. There is this place that does these meetings just about every night of the week. She teaches a group on Tuesday nights.

Igf you went there today on a Thursday there might be 4-5 people in a group. but if you go on a Tuesday night it's standing room only. Room full of dudes lol. And she comes in with her 6 inch stilettos on. And while she's a good speaker, it just kills me to hear all the bull**** about all the reasons why the dudes show up to her meetings. "Oh she's such a great speaker" "she's real" and i'm like dude, you want to break your **** off into wendy and you know it lol.


Then she's always telling me how she can never get work done because of all the "distractions" at work, dudes always trying to talk to her and **** but let her go a day or 2 without getting some type of attention. She loves the attention. I think it's harmless.. she isn't attracted to anyone like that, but it's like a drug in itself.

I mean let's be real. IF i could go into a place and get girls going out of their way to be around me and **** all the time, throwing themselves at me constantly i'd probably eat it up as well so i don't blame her or women in general.

What gets me is that as a red pill guy I am just amazed at how guys don't see this dynamic.

She won't admit it because she's married, but she has a tiny little crush on me, and honestly if i were sing'e and she were single i'd probably put a move on her she is a very datable woman. I can just tell by the way she acts when she gets around me, and the sole reason is because I don't kiss her ass. I barley talk to her. I have no reason to, she's a cool chick but I mean, ****.

I guess what I am trying to say is I can't believe in 2013 that guys still believe that smothering with attention is the way to go. Show some type of value and get out of her face.

 

[CrashOverRide]

I find that ignoring them subtlety is most effective. I mean if you make it a point to ignore them completely at the end of the day they really don't care and nobody wins this puerile game. But by still talking to them you show confidence, however not talking to them "as much" or telegraphing any interest when you do really gets under their skin.

For example if you had asked her to hang out in the past and she either declined or didn't react favorably, just act like you aren't jaded at all. Say hello and be polite but don't do anything beyond this. It will kill her when you start talking about how much fun you had with others... and she'll most likely say "hey why didn't you ask me to go!" lol

 

[PlayHer Man]

I'm not a big fan of acting or pretending. Acting indifferent when you're not really indifferent is just another way of behaving like a woman. But if you like the results you get then do it.

If I ignore a woman its because I really don't give a sh!t about her. Its not a power move.

As far as responding to disrespect and abuse goes.. my rule has always been to either stop associating with that woman all together or do her worse than she did me. Whatever gives me the most satisfaction is what I do.

I've said it before --> I get a kick out of abusing and punishing abusive women.. making them cry, etc. Its what they deserve.

 

[zekko]

She's 40 years old but is pretty attractive. skinny, really really nice legs, she's more sexy than she is pretty. she wears zero makeup and is still very pretty when she actually wears makeup she's gorgeous.

Just goes to show that there are a lot of sexy older women. This idea that women can't get attention once they turn 30 is total garbage. In fact, some of the sexiest women I've ever known were in their mid-30s.

I can just tell by the way she acts when she gets around me, and the sole reason is because I don't kiss her ass.

WRONG. She's attracted to you physically and it's probably partly your personality. I suspect you have a very engaging personality in person. I haven't kissed a girl's ass in 30 years. I know it's a typical PUA theory example that when a girl gets a lot of male attention, all you have to do is not give it to her and she will flip out over you. But no way is that the "sole reason". If that were so, every attractive girl I've known over the past 30 years would be lined up outside my door right now.

 

[Married Buried]

I'm not a big fan of acting or pretending. Acting indifferent when you're not really indifferent is just another way of behaving like a woman. But if you like the results you get then do it.

If I ignore a woman its because I really don't give a sh!t about her. Its not a power move.

As far as responding to disrespect and abuse goes.. my rule has always been to either stop associating with that woman all together or do her worse than she did me. Whatever gives me the most satisfaction is what I do.

I've said it before --> I get a kick out of abusing and punishing abusive women.. making them cry, etc. Its what they deserve.

I'm not ignoring my work chic because I am pretending. I literally don't give 2 craps about some married chic at work accepting attention from betas who hang around her desk like insects. I wouldn't give a man any attention either. I go to work to make money and get out of there, not make friends or be nice to stupid women. She does a bad job anyway, p!sses me off.

 

[zekko]

I.E. If we are talking in a group setting; or you see the that girl around; I avoid eye contact with her, don't talk to her and generally act LIKE SHE IS INVISIBLE TO ME AND BASICALLY DOESN'T EXIST while treating everyone else normally.

I guess It is spiteful, but it is my way of non-verbally saying to the girl, F**K YOU

Does this behavior make me look insecure and unconfident?

I've done this before with women that have done things that irritated me. I've never seen it as being insecure, I've just looked at it as withdrawing attention, which is supposed to be our best weapon. Of course, when a girl has 100 other guys to shower her with attention, I doubt she'll take it too hard.

 

[The_flying_dutchman]

From my experience and from what I've observed, ignoring an annoying woman by itself isn't enough to get back at her, it's only step 1. Step 2 is you have to start forming good relationships with the women in her peripherals to make her feel inadequate. As others have mentioned on the forum, women are judges of each other and they compete(whether consciously or unconsciously) for attention. Once she see's that you're popular with other females, and yet you don't show her attention, it'll piss her off. It'll irritate her, it'll get under her skin, and she'll do whatever she can to try to get attention for the sake of her own ego.

On a side note, what really pisses me off is when a disrespectful woman at work has a gang of betas worshiping her and defending her from disciplinary actions when she either performs her job poorly or is disrespectful in general.

I see this so much in the corporate setting where a gang of middle-aged beta fools in management will worship some HB9 and will promote her over quality employees. It's kinda sad because these fools try to one-up each other to impress the HB9-10's and them broads feed off the attention, I'd say it's comparable to getting high.

It's a problem because if anyone calls out these broads, they're basically calling out all the beta fools in management as well. And believe me, these fools will gang up on you to protect the HB9-10's whom secretly mock them behind their backs.

This has been a source of much frustration in my professional career. And though I can handle a disrespectful HB9-10, I just can't seem to solve the problems I have with all the beta fools in management.

 

[backbreaker]

Let's be real, most women are considerably less attractive in their 30's and later than they were in their 20's. It's a general rule that simply cannot be refuted. They weigh more, have more wrinkles, fewer years of attractiveness left and often carry a lot of baggage with them.

I can't agree with this whatsoever.

You're using black and white thinking.

It's not the same type of attraction.

take this 40 year old woman her name is wendy. Wendy 20 years ago, pre drug intervention, used to be a stripper. I've seen pictures, she was a bad, bad woman. tone, firm, legs for days, very nice.

At 40, she stil watches what she eats, so she's what like 5'6, 110 pounds - 115 pounds she can't weight more than 115, she still has a nice figure and what she lacks in pure youtuffulness she makes up in class / sexiness.


yesterday when I was in starbucks there was this girl there, about 21 years old.. she was very cute / pretty but she just was so freaking.. rotfl, young. talking loud, she's a freaking child. her youtfulness if i were talking to her would have made my **** go soft. loud, bubble gum popping, silly nieve 20 year olds, yes their tits might be perkier but that's about it. Throw in the fact that they get hit on by all these dudes so much that they think their ***** will fix Obamacare, I'm out. I'm not saying I'm not attracted to 20 year women, I'm ot saying under the right circumstances I wouldn't date one. I'm saying that yo are selling the sexiness of women over the page of 30 very, very short.


we had this entire conversation a month ago, the SMV theory is bull****. I would rather, much rather, fvck a classy 40 year old woman who i still in shape than a hb8 22 year old loud obnoxious college kid.


I guess it's because i'm getting older but young women don't know how to be sexy. They don't know how to act sexy. They don't know how to act feminine yet.

 

[Boilermaker]

I agree with BB.

It's very juvenile to place utmost importance to their youthfulness.

That's putting obnoxious and deluded kids on a pedestal in a more abstract way.

As women get older, the effects of "The Wall" and aging do wonders to their characters also, do not forget.

But of course, I won't go as far to claim that older women are more attractive than their 20-year old sisters, that's just not true. I like BB's way of putting it.

 

[origin138]

I've done this before with women that have done things that irritated me. I've never seen it as being insecure, I've just looked at it as withdrawing attention, which is supposed to be our best weapon. Of course, when a girl has 100 other guys to shower her with attention, I doubt she'll take it too hard.

Really good points here. Attention is your currency in dealing with women. The best course of action is to write her off as a snatch and pursue other options.

Withdrawing attention provokes a reaction with most women, but like Zekko said, if her ego is ballooning from tons of male attention, you're pretty much non-existent. If you're ignoring her to get a reaction/get even, I'd say you're in the wrong mental/emotional frame and she has the upper hand. The point is to write her off without any attachment at all because it gives off a different vibe than flat out ignoring her.

As we all say, spin the plates, and you'll naturally be indifferent to her girlycrap.

 

[origin138]

It's like I can tell in 3-7 years they'll be ugly or fat, but their youth is still doing them some favors.

Haha, that's male intuition right there! Funny how we can predict who the landwhales will be.

 

[zekko]

Do you honestly think that older women are hotter than younger women on average?

Where did I say anything even remotely resembling that?
What I am saying is that there are more women over 30 that are very sexy than this forum would care to admit. A lot more.

If you want to talk about celebrities, this is pretty subjective, but Zooey Deschanel and Rashida Jones are pretty hot. Shoot, Amy Adams is nearly 40! Did you see her butt in jodhpurs in the Night at the Museum sequel? Are you going to tell me you wouldn't hit that?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9yr7Xio4Eg

Yes, generally speaking, younger women are hotter. But as I said, I've seen some incredibly fine specimens in their mid 30s. Incredibly fine. It's not like a hot 29 year old woman goes to bed on the eve of her 30th birthday, and then the next day collapses into a heap of dust.