Reaching out after the 2nd date?

[bario]

Assuming that I reached out and planned both the 1st and 2nd date.

She always thanks me before and after the date for taking the lead and being thoughtful and planning.

I know men usually are supposed to lead, but since I've shown consistent interest, planned both dates, and put effort into nurturing the connection, I'm thinking if it's fair to step back now (not reach out) and see if she takes the initiatives and whether if this balance helps gauge her interest and ensures that the effort is mutual.
Does this sound reasonable or overthinking?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

She wants you to lead. So lead.

She always thanks me before and after the date for taking the lead and being thoughtful and planning.

Don't try to shirk your duties in the name of 'equality'. Her enthusiasm for your leadership when evident shows her equal investment in the relationship.

 

[SW15]

Does this sound reasonable or overthinking?

Overthinking.

Did you have sex with her yet?

The balance of taking initiative and effort gets more balanced after the commitment to exclusivity happens. You're not at that stage yet.

Plan a 3rd date with her if you are still interested in her.

 

[sevbucmash]

I'm thinking to step back now (not reach out) and see if she takes the initiatives

Women: these men only want one thing, and after they get it, they don't call you.

 

[Solomon]

She wants you to lead. So lead.

Don't try to shirk your duties in the name of 'equality'. Her enthusiasm for your leadership when evident shows her equal investment in the relationship.

^^^End of thread heh'

 

[Clockwerk50]

Her "thank you for the good experience" after the date translates, in women's terms, to "I want to see you again." Your goal as a man on dates is not only to show her a good time but also to create opportunities for sexual escalation.

See the thread below, where the girl didn’t thank him or reach out for another date. It means "stop texting me” or “not interested”

I'm not sure why you'd want to de-escalate. There are times when creating distance or absence can backfire, especially early in the process. It might make her lose interest, as it introduces too much uncertainty, and she may find something else to focus on. Only use space when you're confident in her feelings for you, and don't let it last too long. It works best later in the seduction.

I have a feeling you created enough sexual tension but you are scared of it…

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I’m 56. Went on a 1st date Friday night with a 52 year old lady. Today (Sunday). I text her: Hi Mary, I enjoyed our date very much. I would like to see you again. How about this week? I know I’m free Tuesday & Thursday. she replies: Hi John! I enjoyed our date as well- I appreciated...

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[BackInTheGame78]

In my experiences women who are really interested always reach out after the date, usually the next day and many times before I even wake up in the morning because it's like they just can't help themselves.

Now there are a few times when that didn't happen and they were still interested but in most of the cases when I had to do all the work in the beginning it was usually a situation where they just date me until they found someone they were more interested in.

IMO she finds you "OK" but is not "all in" on you. Maybe a situation where you get a few more dates and then she fades if she finds someone she likes more...or she may actually end up liking you more after spending more time with you or can't find anyone else.

Essentially this one hangs in the balance and could go either way, IMO.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Talk dirty with her OP if you want to see where she stands. As other say lead, but with your c0ck, not your mind or your "heart"

Your job isn't to nurture the connection, but rather to bend her over the kitchen counter.

 

[Juanto]

Just keep doing what you are doing, and have sex with her (if you havent already) everytime you meet, but dont over do it (meeting her once a week is fine). And enjoy the process!