Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
All of us have made it to this message board with the promise of one day be very successful in handling our encounters with women. Some of the very best on this board started from scratch. For others, it came much easier, yet the final outcome is the one thing we all have in common. Most of us at one time or another have been guilty of wanting instant gratification, of wanting to get something for nothing, of attempting to skip all the necessary steps, mostly due to our frustrations and impatience. After some futile attemps, we realize that there is in exact price to pay in return for anything we receive. There are no short cuts. You will hear something to this extent from every veteran Master DJ here. Strinving for MASTERY in DJ'ing is something that is learned over time. When it comes to dealing with women, you're a master when you've reached the 4th stage of awareness/learning wich they call the "Unconscious Competence." Most of us strive to get there, sooner rather than later. A lot of you have heard of the four stages of learning any new skill.
The 4 Stages Are:
1. Unconscious Incompentence. You are not aware that you don't know.
Typical AFC who does all the wrong things and wonders why it doesn't work, yet doesn't change his approach. Most of us were/are here when we first discover this site.
2. Conscious Incompetence. You become aware that you don't know. Most of us after a couple of weeks. Things start making sence as to why we are not successful. This is when we see the light. It starts to look promising, too much to learn, a whole new world.
3. Conscious Competence. We do the right things, but we have to concentrate on them. It doesn't come second nature; we are putting the skills to work, we know why they work, yet we still have to concentrate on certain things, and think about it. We do the things that get us the results, yet we still must focuss on the task and follow steps. Well on the way to mastery level.
4. Unconscious Competence. We are aware, but we don't need to think about it. It is second nature. We do things that might seem instinctively; we have becomed wired to do the right thing, automatically. The ultimate level of mastery. At this point others might start calling you "lucky", or "he's soo good with women", or "natural DJ". Yet they have no idea you had to pay your dues by going through the first 3 steps. Thousands start the marathon, yet few cross the line at 26.4 miles.
Even though we all must go through all the steps to reach mastery level, some do it so fast that it seems like they are natural at level 4; not the case, it just means that they picked it up so fast and things just made so much sense that they are not stuck on one of the early phases.
The Master doesn't have to go back and re-learn everything all over, but he must go back and review. The best at everything always review the basics, at least once a year. Think of it as spring training for DJ's. You know the skills, yet you get your game prepared for mental and physical peak.
In fact, the best way for the Master to hone his skills and review is by helping others, and pull out wisdom from his many experiences. Remember is not where you are at that matter, its the skill set, the things you learned on the way to becoming a master that matters, where the treaure lies. That is why one must learn the 'inner game' before moving into specific tactics, or 'the outer' game.
Most newbies want the "tactics, the pick up lines, the tricks, the lines, the seductive patters", not realizing that none of that will work unless you have laid down your foundation. To keep the baseball analogy going, you must go through the minor leagues before you make it big time. You will not able to hit a Roger Clemens, or Ramon Martinez fastball if you can't get a hit off of Joe Jockstrap in high school.
According to experts in the field of learning, on the average, we remember:
-20% of what we read.
-30% of what we hear.
-40% of what we see.
-50% of what we say.
-60% of what we do.
-90% of what we see, hear, say and do.
So what's the best way towards achieving mastery?
1. Read good information like some of the posts from the better DJ's on this board, the DJ Bible, e-mail newletters, books, etc. Reading is a good learning tool because most people use their visual mode than any of the others.
2. Listen to instructional audios. I would very very highly recommend David DeAngelo's Advanced Series, Brian Tracy's "Psychology of Achievement", and other of the more reputable programs available. There are several 'Product Review Threads' available for search. Take advise from other guys who are good with women. My fist choice are the audio programs, because you get to repeat them as many times as you want, and learn something new. Some may not be cheap, but remember, it is your brain, your life we are talking about here.
3. Observe, look, and learn from guys who are good with women. You know who I'm taling about. The guys that make it look so easy that we think they are natural at it. Take notice and observe their behaviour. They do what they do because it yields them the results, the same results you want. If somebody else has said it, done it better, borrow the ideas. Why take the long way to re-invent the wheel.
4. Teach others what you know. This will only help you more by engraving it into your memory. Definitely the fastest track towards reaching Mastery. Most of your great teachers, and coaches in school got very good by teaching until it became second nature. They make it look easy.
5. Go out there and practice what you preach, try and test the techniques. Learn what works/doesn't work for you. Learn from your failures, this is where you grow the most. Look at each not as a failure but as an opportunity that will get you one step closer to your final destination.
This is the road towards reaching the ultimate Mastery Level in DJ'ing. By far the road less traveled, yet the most rewarding one. Then one day, you'll wake up and realize that you are good at your trade. While others will call you "lucky."
The 4 Stages Are:
1. Unconscious Incompentence. You are not aware that you don't know.
Typical AFC who does all the wrong things and wonders why it doesn't work, yet doesn't change his approach. Most of us were/are here when we first discover this site.
2. Conscious Incompetence. You become aware that you don't know. Most of us after a couple of weeks. Things start making sence as to why we are not successful. This is when we see the light. It starts to look promising, too much to learn, a whole new world.
3. Conscious Competence. We do the right things, but we have to concentrate on them. It doesn't come second nature; we are putting the skills to work, we know why they work, yet we still have to concentrate on certain things, and think about it. We do the things that get us the results, yet we still must focuss on the task and follow steps. Well on the way to mastery level.
4. Unconscious Competence. We are aware, but we don't need to think about it. It is second nature. We do things that might seem instinctively; we have becomed wired to do the right thing, automatically. The ultimate level of mastery. At this point others might start calling you "lucky", or "he's soo good with women", or "natural DJ". Yet they have no idea you had to pay your dues by going through the first 3 steps. Thousands start the marathon, yet few cross the line at 26.4 miles.
Even though we all must go through all the steps to reach mastery level, some do it so fast that it seems like they are natural at level 4; not the case, it just means that they picked it up so fast and things just made so much sense that they are not stuck on one of the early phases.
The Master doesn't have to go back and re-learn everything all over, but he must go back and review. The best at everything always review the basics, at least once a year. Think of it as spring training for DJ's. You know the skills, yet you get your game prepared for mental and physical peak.
In fact, the best way for the Master to hone his skills and review is by helping others, and pull out wisdom from his many experiences. Remember is not where you are at that matter, its the skill set, the things you learned on the way to becoming a master that matters, where the treaure lies. That is why one must learn the 'inner game' before moving into specific tactics, or 'the outer' game.
Most newbies want the "tactics, the pick up lines, the tricks, the lines, the seductive patters", not realizing that none of that will work unless you have laid down your foundation. To keep the baseball analogy going, you must go through the minor leagues before you make it big time. You will not able to hit a Roger Clemens, or Ramon Martinez fastball if you can't get a hit off of Joe Jockstrap in high school.
According to experts in the field of learning, on the average, we remember:
-20% of what we read.
-30% of what we hear.
-40% of what we see.
-50% of what we say.
-60% of what we do.
-90% of what we see, hear, say and do.
So what's the best way towards achieving mastery?
1. Read good information like some of the posts from the better DJ's on this board, the DJ Bible, e-mail newletters, books, etc. Reading is a good learning tool because most people use their visual mode than any of the others.
2. Listen to instructional audios. I would very very highly recommend David DeAngelo's Advanced Series, Brian Tracy's "Psychology of Achievement", and other of the more reputable programs available. There are several 'Product Review Threads' available for search. Take advise from other guys who are good with women. My fist choice are the audio programs, because you get to repeat them as many times as you want, and learn something new. Some may not be cheap, but remember, it is your brain, your life we are talking about here.
3. Observe, look, and learn from guys who are good with women. You know who I'm taling about. The guys that make it look so easy that we think they are natural at it. Take notice and observe their behaviour. They do what they do because it yields them the results, the same results you want. If somebody else has said it, done it better, borrow the ideas. Why take the long way to re-invent the wheel.
4. Teach others what you know. This will only help you more by engraving it into your memory. Definitely the fastest track towards reaching Mastery. Most of your great teachers, and coaches in school got very good by teaching until it became second nature. They make it look easy.
5. Go out there and practice what you preach, try and test the techniques. Learn what works/doesn't work for you. Learn from your failures, this is where you grow the most. Look at each not as a failure but as an opportunity that will get you one step closer to your final destination.
This is the road towards reaching the ultimate Mastery Level in DJ'ing. By far the road less traveled, yet the most rewarding one. Then one day, you'll wake up and realize that you are good at your trade. While others will call you "lucky."
