Re-opened: Do blacks, Hispanics and Italians have an edge in dating and hooking up?

[steve76]

I see that this post was closed which made me laugh. Why did I get labelled as someone who hates "minorities" when all I did was make a point? If anything, I'm the real minority as I'm a combination of German, Dutch and Irish but I guess I'm not supposed to complain because my skin color happens to be white. It must be nice to be a "minority". Not only do many women seem to prefer darker men but if someone even mentions your nationality, you can cry racism too.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Being black & hispanic(dominican and cuban) I can tell you that life is very hard here unless you live in a mixed area.

As a white male you don't have to worry about people looking at you strange when you step into a nice store or restaurant.

You don't worry about cashiers not wanting to touch your hand when they give you back your change so they slam it on the counter.

You don't worry about getting fired when you get an older female white supervisor at work.

You don't worry about a cop pulling you over just cause your in the suburbs...and possibly even receiving a beating..

or do you?

White women don't cross the street when they see you coming or give you a mean look when you just so happen to look in their direction ..

We don't have it easier at anything in america...

So what the PHUUCCKK can you or any other white person possibly know what it is like to be black or even hispanic?

If you go through what I listed above then i[ll shut up.

 

[everywomanshero]

Steve, the problem is that racism stems from competition over resources. Your post will almost certainly bring out those feelings in some members. That's one reason it is offensive to some people

Also, your question has so many variables such as age, location, religious background, etc. It's not an easy question to answer at all.

Women have all kinds of preferences, there is no generic algorithm to determine what any one woman will prefer. It has been found that women (in general) prefer darker features than men do. This is why women tan I think, they assume because they prefer darker features, men must do so also. Just how dark are those features though? That's a really good question!

However, look around. Black women with blonde guys, white women with blonde guys, black guys with blondes, black guys with black haired hispanic women, etc. Every possible combination has probably been done hundreds or thousands or times. Also most studies do not make it super easy to track these preferences by age groups other than college students, differing religious backgrounds & races, etc. If you really want to answer this question, be prepared to do a hell of a lot of research!

In regards to receiving stares and such, it's hard to seperate what is racist from simply unfriendly. I've had people of various races "stare me down" and such, but how can I be sure it's simply because of my race? Is it possible that person is just crazed, anti-social, jealous, or a weirdo? Maybe if that same brain were dropped into my race, the actions would have been the same? It's a dangerous thing to assume anytime an unpleasant experience with another race occurs, that racism is the cause.

 

[steve76]

re:

I'm a white guy but I'm a 5'8" white guy with lighter features so by no means do I have an advantage, especially when most women seem to prefer men with darker features. I may not get pulled over for no reason but people treat me more like a boy than a man and don't seem to take me as seriously as they do with men who have darker features. So in that respect, you have the advantage. Plus, I'm not recognized as a "minority" because I'm just thrown in as Caucasian so I don't have affirmative action on my side like you do.

 

[everywomanshero]

This is going to create a self-fuffiling prophecy!

If you believe people will treat you bad because you're white, black, etc., then you will look for instances of that and interpret everyone's behavior as such. As a result, you will come across, over-reactive, non-assertive, or preoccupied and people will not want to be around you. Then you will consider that evidence you were right all along.

The only way to break this cycle is to realize there are good people, bad people, and most fall somewhere inbetween. Race cannot predict which of these camps any one person will belong to.

As far as I know there is no affirmitive action law requiring women to date minorities LOL so I doubt that is the cause of anyone's success or failure with females.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Cuz you're short,you're d1ck is small,you can't dance,play sports,you're bad in bed cuz of lack of coordination..

etc,...

That's what those types of women think when they see a whiteguy.

When non-black/hispanic women IN GENERAL see me :most of them view a dangerous,violent,sexually aggresive,rude,black SOB,who hates white people.

Which is worse?


Both are ignorant and wrong but the stereotypes young black & carribean latino men face would make anyone give up.


You're sh1t is just people trynna be cool.I go through real sh1t,you're complaining about some females...please...

 

[Tha Realnezz]

This is going to create a self-fuffiling prophecy!

If you believe people will treat you bad because you're white, black, etc., then you will look for instances of that and interpret everyone's behavior as such. As a result, you will come across, over-reactive, non-assertive, or preoccupied and people will not want to be around you. Then you will consider that evidence you were right all along.

The only way to break this cycle is to realize there are good people, bad people, and most fall somewhere inbetween. Race cannot predict which of these camps any one person will belong to.

As far as I know there is no affirmitive action law requiring women to date minorities LOL so I doubt that is the cause of anyone's success or failure with females.

No.

If you are black/mixed with black/appear to be black/associate with blacks or identify with black culture of any nationality....and you're in an area in america where there's very few black people?

You are fawked.Forget about it.

That's why so many people stick to the "hood" or have nasty attitude towards other races cuz quite frankly you're gonna mistreated regardless of what you say by most people.

I can't blame them about sticking to their hoods...the nasty attitude is wrong though..

 

[booster]

CORRECTION:

affirmative action is only used to BALANCE the unequalness between whites and non-whites, or so i think, not to make whites seem less advantaged. therefore you are already at an advantage despite your insecurity over your height.

also, affirmative action isn't used in all walks of life, unlike your skin color, so its very limiting at what it can do.

Plus, I'm not recognized as a "minority" because I'm just thrown in as Caucasian so I don't have affirmative action on my side like you do.

 

[KneghtRyder]

So what the PHUUCCKK can you or any other white person possibly know what it is like to be black or even hispanic?

If you go through what I listed above then i[ll shut up.

+2

being indian .. i can speak from personal experience on being both sides of coin. When I am look white or in a dark setting i look white, man o man, you wouldn't believe how great it is being white looking ..opens doors quicker than alcohol.
Trust me , being white is a huge advantage. The last girl I had a first date with. Shes hispanic but shes got a thing for whites. like a freakin disease or something..
I didn't borther to give her a second date seeing how racist she was turned me off.

If a good looking white guy is next to a good looking non white guy, the white guy will win every time judged by another white chick. WHite guys never complain about not having girlfirend -- if they can' get a white chick, they just go the next race in ladder ...

 

[everywomanshero]

And if you hide in an ethnic monotony, then how will that change things? It is racist to assume an entire race is racist LOL that is the irony here, and I realize there are white and black people and people in all races who do this.

I've been in bed with every race except oriental. I don't believe that everyone is racist, if that's true, why on earth did they give me sex?

Don't you guys see the irony here. White guys are convinced they have it bad, black guys are convinced they have it bad, etc etc etc. This is like religions argueing over whose version of a higher power is "right"... I think the closest thing will ever get to an answer is that all members of all races will encounter people who are racist against them. Everyone will encounter this. It is possible, even probable, that some races will encounter more in certain areas than other races.

 

[KneghtRyder]

bottom line ; being white has a huge advantage. They see you are 'in' ...doesn't mean its a huge end all factor but that its definetly helps.

I wish i looked like antonio saboto jr. ( he's italian btw ) ..

 

[L777]

Being black & hispanic(dominican and cuban) I can tell you that life is very hard here unless you live in a mixed area.

As a white male you don't have to worry about people looking at you strange when you step into a nice store or restaurant.

You don't worry about cashiers not wanting to touch your hand when they give you back your change so they slam it on the counter.

You don't worry about getting fired when you get an older female white supervisor at work.

You don't worry about a cop pulling you over just cause your in the suburbs...and possibly even receiving a beating..

or do you?

White women don't cross the street when they see you coming or give you a mean look when you just so happen to look in their direction ..

We don't have it easier at anything in america...

So what the PHUUCCKK can you or any other white person possibly know what it is like to be black or even hispanic?

If you go through what I listed above then i[ll shut up.

For real? Man that's bad....I'm sure it's not like that here...Asians and blacks are just accepted as one of us here.

 

[Obsidian]

You guys are all wrong: Looks hardly matter!

Black guys seem to have an advantage because, as a whole, they are more masculine. Black culture has been corrupted in many ways, but it hasn't been feminized the way most white guys have.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

And if you hide in an ethnic monotony, then how will that change things? It is racist to assume an entire race is racist LOL that is the irony here, and I realize there are white and black people and people in all races who do this.

I've been in bed with every race except oriental. I don't believe that everyone is racist, if that's true, why on earth did they give me sex?

Don't you guys see the irony here. White guys are convinced they have it bad, black guys are convinced they have it bad, etc etc etc. This is like religions argueing over whose version of a higher power is "right"... I think the closest thing will ever get to an answer is that all members of all races will encounter people who are racist against them. Everyone will encounter this. It is possible, even probable, that some races will encounter more in certain areas than other races.[/QUOTE]

Yes and those people are black/mixed with black/look black/emulate black culture.

I seen some indians get pulled over just the other day and the fawking cop looks suprised when he sees the guys hair blowing all over his face and just looks at his partner like .."wtf"....

Now you tell me what race did those cops confuse those indians as being?hmmm...

Even if you LOOK black you will probably be treated like sh1t here if you leave the big cities..sh1t even then look at New York,cops asking working men for ID's then shooting the sh1t out of them when they reach for their wallets..

As a catholic I am completley against the eye for an eye philoshpy but it's hard to be all Captain Planet when you go personally go through experiences like that on a constant weekly basis.

Every week,without miss it's something.

You guys at best go through the "white people are uncool/racist thing" and b1tch about it like you're in Nazi Germany..

Please...lol..it's hopeless really..and it's pisses me off that people compare the two.

How can you compare something like not being able to find a job cuz of your skintone to people looking at you funny when you enter a black nightspot?

Ugh..whatever...then people say.."Oh african american have bad attitudes"..

Oh,no they're gonna be all smiles and roses,right?...jesus christ..

 

[TheVirtualMind]

Re-Closed.