rate this chick IL

[pyros]

Hiya.

I went to a club some nigths ago.
I talked to this girl for a while. She told me she was from a different city, she said she lived in France for a year, she said where she worked etc etc
We have a nice light conversation for around 10-15 mins. We danced a bit too.

When I was about to leave, I talked to her again and I said 'well, I gotta go now, see you around' she said: 'yeah, good-bye Pyros'.

I'd like you to rate her IL because I asked her some questions, she gave me extra information, we talked but she did not ask me anything, anything personal.
On one hand she gave me extra personal information that I did not ask for, but on the other hand she did not ask me any questions but my name. They say that if you listen to a girl talking about herself she would 'like' you, but if she does not ask me anything personal I understand she has an IL of 50% max, not so high.

Is it ok just to talk about her in the begining? dont know, during the first 30-60 mins of meeting her?

Some weeks ago, I made out with a girl that was friend's of a friend of mine, and the same thing happened.
We all went out one evening. I talked to ehr for an hour or more, and we were basically talking about her, with just tiny little comments about me or my life, I mean, she was not asking me personal questions, I was just giving little pieces of my life while talking about hers.
Some days after that, we talked again and after another hour or so, she started to ask me personal questions. By the end of the evening we made out, so we did next day etc.

Is this common? I mean, when the girl is talking mainly about herself, you're asking her questions and stuff, but she doesnt really ask you about your life, at least for the first hour or so of your interaction.



Comments?

P.S.
I say this because in 'The Game' there is one story where one guy meets a girl in a party. He asks her her name, what she does, if she is friends with the host etc
This girl replies, they talk, but she doesnt really ask him any personal questions. So The Game suggests that the girl has low IL, and that the proper thing to do it to leave her and go find other chick.
Do you agree?



Thanks.

 

[Iceberg]

Pyros in my opinion, you've gotta avoid thinking about a woman's interest level. Just put yourself out there man and invite her out. You'll know for yourself just how interested she is.

What he said.

I live in a world with two types of women: The ones who are sleeping with me and the ones who aren't.

You can't go around measuring IL based on conversations and looks and signals and whatever. You get the number. You ask them out. You go for the makeout. You go for the sex. SHE goes for the relationship. And that's how the story goes.

 

[CCFCmid]

You can't go around measuring IL based on conversations and looks and signals and whatever. You get the number. You ask them out. You go for the makeout. You go for the sex. SHE goes for the relationship. And that's how the story goes.

Pure gold. That should be tattooed at the very top of this forum for all to see!

 

[SgtSplacker]

This has happened to me before just like that. I figure the girls a little nervous, the second time we hung out I could tell she was a little embarrassed about not asking me a single question about me and she made sure to that time. She ended up being psycho crazy, but i'll save that story for another thread...lol

 

[DSL Connection]

The game can be hard and made harder when you start overthinking it when the slightest thing happens. If you want to know her interest at that stage, provoke her somehow: grind, make out, phone #, etc. Then you will know.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Your conversations built comfort and rapport with girls; which is important.

But ATTRACTION needs to be present concurrently for the girl's interest to be peaked towards seeing you as a possible mate.

In both of the initial scenarios you told us about, there is comfort but not much attraction.

Dancing together is good; but what type of dancing? Grinding? If so that's good since its purely sexual. But if you were simply dancing by each other, that's not anything to consider significant.

With the friend you made out with; you did a better job of creating attraction and building on the comfort the 2nd time you saw her.

Since you didn't get the girl's # from the club or create much attraction, I'd say her interest was luke warm at best.

Learn how to FLIRT and then keep your good listening, conversation-leading ability and you will see much better results.






PIMP

 

[DonGorgon]

Pyros in my opinion, you've gotta avoid thinking about a woman's interest level. Just put yourself out there man and invite her out. You'll know for yourself just how interested she is.

yeah these women find you attractive physically but your personality is so dry that you get no where... you need to get their numbers and simply invite them to you place to watch a movie..lolol

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

What he said.

I live in a world with two types of women: The ones who are sleeping with me and the ones who aren't.

You can't go around measuring IL based on conversations and looks and signals and whatever. You get the number. You ask them out. You go for the makeout. You go for the sex. SHE goes for the relationship. And that's how the story goes.

I beg to differ. If I could sit on the sidelines and watch a guy hitting on 100 girls, I could tell you every single time whether or not he will get a number.

Sometimes it is better to know when to quit rather than wait for a rejection. After all, the time you spent building towards a rejection could have been spent talking to a girl who actually likes you and getting a number. A girl who only answers your questions bluntly and doesn't help carry the conversation is a HUGE red flag as far as attraction goes.

I have NEVER had success or personally seen another guy have success with a girl when this happens (unless they were drunk, which is another matter).