Rant about nightclubs

[GaryNas]

This post probably won't contain any useful information, but is just a general rant about picking up at clubs... definitely feel free to post feedback!

This past week I made the leap and started going to clubs alone. I got tired of my friends dictating when to leave (because they usually drove), where to go, or sometimes not even wanting to go... Anyway, when I got there I was VERY nervous, but that feeling gradually left as the night went on. It turned out I knew a few people there, but as VERY casual acquantences; still, that helped a little.


Unless I'm completely drunk I have pretty much zero pick-up skills... I know I'm better looking than most other guys in the clubs, but I can't do anything with it. It really got to me when this HB 9 was all over some short dude that was balding... that lessened my confidence right away. The other problem I had was the number of guys that LOVE to do the sneak up from behind move... Where the girl is dancing with their back towards them, but the guy thinks they're dancing with him, so he goes in. It may work for some, but I'm not a guy to sneak touches on a girl. Anyway, as the night went on I talked with one girl, who approached me, but I wasn't really interested... still though, she's a regular so I made a new friend.

Near the end of the night I started feeling like such a dweeb. There were many times a girl was facing me and dancing that I didn't do anything, and I have no clue why. I didn't smile, say hi, or even hold out my hand for them to dance with me. Part of me didn't want to seem like all the other "sneaky sleeze" guys there, but another part of me didn't want to be turned down. Finally as the night was pretty much done, a girl was leaning on the bar next to me. I said that it was hot in here... and then asked if she comes here a lot. And then I had no clue what to do next...

Blah.

I'm off to try it again this week at the same place and see what happens, but any suggestions would help. Also, please post other experiences or feedback!

Later guys.

 

[Mercenary]

I don't really like any of the "dirty south" hip hop that's out... but I've got to hand it to lil john, cuz he really nailed it on the head when he said...

"Stop Actin' Like a B1tch, You Scared"

You say that going up behind a girl and grinding with her "isn't you style"... I think it's that you're afraid to do it... I'm not saying that you should behave this way in order to get women, I just think you're letting your fears dictate your behavior.

You're thinking too much about how people will percieve you if you do certain things... this is true because of they way YOU judge other people... i.e. those "sneaky sleazes". Do you think those guys care about your opinion of them? Hell no, they're the one's taking the girl home and you're bitter about it.

my advice... less thinking, more action, designed to achieve YOUR satisfaction. Screw what other people think.

 

[Oxide]

GaryNas, EVERY SINGLE GUY GOES THROUGH THIS. yes, every single guy who comes into a club for the first time will say to himself "whoa, look at all those cool dudes dancing with hot chicks. Damn, they must know each other, or think each other is really good looking, damn that's cool!"


The thing is, 99% of people in the club who dance with each other have just met the person.

I advice you to go to clubs more, and as you go, you will start dancing, slowly but surely, you will be grinding with more and more girls.


It depends on how you look at it. I used to go to clubs for music and friends, i used to go for girls, now i kind of go for all three .

remember man, your actions decide how you look at yourself. Here is an interesting idea- everytime you want to aproach a girl and dance with her, say "Ball Check" MAke sure you still have balls, then realize , you are the man.. you are the one who acts... and approach her.


If you let those negative thoughts inside your head like "im a dweeb with no girl dancing with me" then you might as well go back on the couch and wonder how great it would be if girls approached guys instead.

 

[Ice Cold]

I don't go to clubs. The guys who go there are dumb. Girls are too aware that they're being picked in and their shields are too high...

A club is a marketing trick that sells illusion of available girls. It's designed not to hook you up, but to make money for the owner.

 

[Ebach]

That's from the club owner's perspective. Of course, if a girl wants a quick ****, she'll go for it. Can you sedduce her?

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
I don't go to clubs. The guys who go there are dumb. Girls are too aware that they're being picked in and their shields are too high...

A club is a marketing trick that sells illusion of available girls. It's designed not to hook you up, but to make money for the owner.

Guys who go to clubs are dumb? haha, thx for the generalisaion.

Clubs are the easiest place to pick up, most of it is simply based on looks. Most of my pickups come without even talking to the girl, just a smile, then dance near her, grind her and leave with her!! Then a bit of chitchat, then the action. If u cant pick up in clubs, work on your aura, confidence and looks!

 

[Oxide]

really ice, so the girls i DID pick up in the club and did make out with are actually getting paid?

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

While many people meet and hookup in clubs all the time,

the statement that 99percent of people don't know one another is just plain wrong.

If you go to enough clubs over a long period of time, you will begin to realize that it's the same people who visit over and over and over again.

Yes there are plenty of new faces in certain clubs in larger cities.

But for the most part, if you've gone to the same club every weekend for a year, you'll notice most of the people either know one another or have gotten to know one another.

It's the same for bars, lounges, etc. for the most part, it's the same crowd over and over and over again.

Thats why people become bored with clubs and the bar scenes after awhile, even if they visit new ones.

It becomes the same scene, club after club, night after night.

If your looking to get laid, a club is probably the easiest place to do it, because you really don't have to talk. In many clubs, it's nearly impossible to chit chat over the loud music and dancing.

But don't fool yourself that nobody knows one another.

Clubs and bars become a stagnant scene if you frequent them all the time.

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by CLOONEY
Guys who go to clubs are dumb? haha, thx for the generalisaion.

Perhaps I used too harsh of a word then.

Just never mind my post I guess. I don't know why, but clubs seem to have mostly ONS kind of girls. Or maybe it's just a false impression?

 

[JT47319]

Clubs are sexual marketplaces.

Yes, girls know what the game is up to, but that's ALWAYS the case. They're also easier to open than just random street pickup since it is SOCIAL VENUE and you're SUPPOSED to talk to random strangers.

And one of the MAIN PURPOSE of a club, is to provide a sexual outlet for women both in the guise of validation from men who are hitting on them (giving them big ego trips), pulling them for a one night stand, or opening up her dating pool by selecting who gets her #.

You're also not going to find a higher concentration of hotties anywhere else. Girls go there for VALIDATION and SEX.

Got it? Get it. Good.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by JT47319
You're also not going to find a higher concentration of hotties anywhere else. Girls go there for VALIDATION and SEX.

Got it? Get it. Good.

Note that this means that 19 times out of 20, you're NOT going to find a girl who's worth dating for any stint of time.

But if you're looking for a cheap thrill...

Just be careful about getting into the habit of using casual sex to try to satisfy your desire for intimacy...you become addicted. And then it ceases to be fun. P*ssy is a helluva drug!

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by JT47319
VALIDATION and SEX.

I think it's more validation OR sex.

If it's validation, then you're gone after you give her the ego trip. If it's sex, you wouldn't wanna hit that pvssy.

 

[Oxide]

what i meant was when people go to the club for the first time, they do not know 99% of the people. however, you are correct, as you keep going more often, you realize just how many people come back week after week. This is where you need to start talking to these people and befriend them.


I agree with validation, a lot of chick do go to see how many guys will drool over them. But there are girls who go there.. just to dance, hoping that MAY BE there is gonna be some guy who will approach them.

Hotter girls usually want validation, ulgy ones want sex.
There are exceptions..as always.

 

[AMF]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
A club is a marketing trick that sells illusion of available girls. It's designed not to hook you up, but to make money for the owner.

Youre forgetting a small word called FUN of course

I think Ice Cold hit it, alot of girls who go to clubs see the game for what it is. They know nearly all guys go for pu55y: total ego massage.

Dont wanna look like all the other drunk sleazes? Dance! really the only smooth pick up route. IMO.

Clubs may have a good concentration of hot women but of course theres also tougher competition too.

Certain bars and clubs appeal to women more than guys. Hunt these down. Here, its a big chain bar that sells dirt cheap girly bottles that guys wont be seen dead drinking.