Ranking American cities for women & dating

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I always seem to meet Dallas people in the bars at Breckenridge.
This happens in Vail, Avon/Beaver Creek, and Aspen as well.

It is easy to find Dallas residents and Texans in general in the Colorado mountain towns.

Plenty of attractive women in DFW area for sure.
Yes!

Fort Worth was always easier but very far for me. The people are a lot more down to earth and less pretentious than Dallas.
True!

The ski areas, are as close as 20 minutes from the airport which is a luxury compared to the drive to resorts from Denver.
This is a major advantage about making a trip to Park City, UT as compared to any of the Colorado mountain towns.

Plenty of attractive people up there skiing & boarding.
Most of them are part of established couples.
 

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Most of them are part of established couples.
Actually we’ve seen plenty of singles. Divorced parents skiing with kids, young people who are single. So I don’t buy that based on personal observation. My sister is finishing her divorce now. She has teens on ski team, so she is on the mountain herself every other weekend and knows there are other singles. And they are more affluent, because skiing is not a cheap endeavor.
 

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Actually we’ve seen plenty of singles. Divorced parents skiing with kids, young people who are single. So I don’t buy that based on personal observation. My sister is finishing her divorce now. She has teens on ski team, so she is on the mountain herself every other weekend and knows there are other singles. And they are more affluent, because skiing is not a cheap endeavor.
When I have been to the Colorado mountain towns and Park City, UT, it has either been with an established girlfriend or on a family trip with a parent or parents.

Generally, when I have looked around, I've seen mostly couples. I don't see many cases of younger, single, and childless women in those towns. I also don't see single men either. Unmarried men who are childless aren't going to a place like Aspen, Vail, or Breckenridge alone for a week. They'll typically go with their girlfriends or with a parent or parents. I could envision the 40+ divorced woman getting alimony from her beta ex-husband (likely a business or medical professional) in the mountain towns. Childless men typically aren't interested in these women, at least for more than hit it and quit it.

I might be able to envision some Denver single and childless females in the Colorado mountain towns for a long weekend, either in winter or summer. These are likely women with higher paying jobs, probably $75,000+. Maybe some Denver guys could find them there. However, either in summer or winter, the mountain sports guys will exceed the mountain sports women, which is why Denver has its Menver reputation.
 

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Unmarried men who are childless aren't going to a place like Aspen, Vail, or Breckenridge alone for a week.
I've done it as a bachelor all over the world. And some places like Tahoe and East Europe (and even western Europe if Frankfurt & Amsterdam are considered somewhat nearby), there is EscortMaxxing nearby.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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I've done it as a bachelor all over the world. And some places like Tahoe and East Europe (and even western Europe if Frankfurt & Amsterdam are considered somewhat nearby), there is EscortMaxxing nearby.
Most of travel is designed for established romantic couples and families, not unattached men.

Unattached men have limited options for travel. An unattached man often has to find a male friend as a travel companion. That's not easy. It's common for male friends to go to Las Vegas, New Orleans, or Miami to try to seduce. Some destination bachelor parties are in those cities. It's also common for a bachelor male to go on a hunting or fishing trip with 1-2 other bachelor males.

Getting laid in NYC was easy for me.
NYC gets a lot of favorable reviews for its mating environment as compared to a lot of other USA cities.
 

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Unattached men have limited options for travel. An unattached man often has to find a male friend as a travel companion. That's not easy. It's common for male friends to go to Las Vegas, New Orleans, or Miami to try to seduce. Some destination bachelor parties are in those cities. It's also common for a bachelor male to go on a hunting or fishing trip with 1-2 other bachelor males.
Out of all of the countries I have visited, East and Southeast Asia seems the best for single men or people in general. Your experience single would be severely limited in North America & Europe. I would absolutely hate to go to Las Vegas, New Orleans, or Miami by myself.
 

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I would absolutely hate to go to Las Vegas, New Orleans, or Miami by myself.
I can't imagine any man going to Las Vegas, New Orleans, or Miami solo. Unattached men USA men will typically find other unattached friends to go with them to those party cities.
 

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I can't imagine any man going to Las Vegas, New Orleans, or Miami solo. Unattached men USA men will typically find other unattached friends to go with them to those party cities.
New Orleans seems to have a lot of "we've driven down and are staying with our brother fraternity at Tulane" weekend. I can't fathom anyone going there to mack; contrary to popular opinion, even the strip joint are rather tame
 

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New Orleans seems to have a lot of "we've driven down and are staying with our brother fraternity at Tulane" weekend. I can't fathom anyone going there to mack; contrary to popular opinion, even the strip joint are rather tame
People go to New Orleans to party on the French Quarter and try to get laid there.
 

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i disagree about NY. An average guy can likely get a woman quicker in other states while being shut out of NYC.
I’m from one of the boroughs.
This. NYC is one of the hardest cities in America to date. You need significantly higher income and social status as opposed to smaller cities. I've heard Miami is potentially worse but have no experience there.
I lived and gamed in NYC for 5 years and have been doing so in Miami for about 2 years now. NYC is by far the easiest city in the entire country for me to:
  • Get laid in
  • Get into an LTR in
  • Meet women in
One demand though is that you must live in Manhattan and nowhere else. If you were living in the Outer Boroughs then yes, the average quality of women is garbage and the women themselves are unpleasant to deal with, don't even get me started on Long Island. However, if you cannot meet, date, and do decent with women in Manhattan then you are clearly the problem.

The guys complaining about dating in NYC are office dorks who want supermodels but cannot even hold a conversation with a 7. In no other city is it realistic for you to date women in your league here in the US than it is in NYC.

It is time for some serious game coaching or a real self-reflection if you are struggling to meet and date women in NYC. I have never seen any other city where men consistently punch above their weight class.

Dating and hooking up in NYC is a cake walk compared to just about any other major US city. Local NY guys just talk way too much and are too sensitive to do well with game which makes it even easier.
 

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I lived and gamed in NYC for 5 years and have been doing so in Miami for about 2 years now. NYC is by far the easiest city in the entire country for me to:
  • Get laid in
  • Get into an LTR in
  • Meet women in
One demand though is that you must live in Manhattan and nowhere else. If you were living in the Outer Boroughs then yes, the average quality of women is garbage and the women themselves are unpleasant to deal with, don't even get me started on Long Island. However, if you cannot meet, date, and do decent with women in Manhattan then you are clearly the problem.
I don’t live in Manhattan and NYC it was super easy to get laid.
 

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don't even get me started on Long Island

Please do tell. I live with my wife and kids on LI and most of my friends live here too.

I had a relationship with a Manhattan woman once.
 

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On the skiing thing, I’ve personally seen single dads skiing with kids and plenty of single guys either alone or in friend groups who are all out skiing & snowboarding together. Ditto the women although it’s more unusual for a single woman to be skiing alone unless she’s a local to whatever area.

So I strongly disagree with @SW15 on this. Additionally riding the lifts with strangers is an automatic conversation starter. On days when I ski without hubby there are any number of available men who chat me up on the lifts. Of course they discover in short order that I’m married, but they are on the slopes having conversations and meeting women, some of whom are single & available, especially in younger age groups.

Skiing is uniquely well positioned to meet someone and hang out right away too. You can ask if your lift mate wants to ski a bit with you. Great insta date opportunities.

Again, what I personally observe.
 

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Please do tell. I live with my wife and kids on LI and most of my friends live here too.

I had a relationship with a Manhattan woman once.
In that case, more than happy to.

Out of all the places I have lived in the United States, Long Island is the dump of humanity. What makes Long Island uniquely awful is how it really is the worst of all worlds converged into one. It is home to the first suburb in all of the US and an embodiment of the overcompensating middle class ways of annoying suburbia. Outside of certain places in North Long Island and The Hamptons, most people on LI are not in any way rich. It is Westchester County for the middle class.

Outside of the wealth, I want to talk about the low quality of people that place has. Snobs that think they are entitled to everything despite the fact that they are dumber and trashier than most other areas of the Tri-State. The loud Guidos who act abrasive and go around trying to start fights while being woefully unaware of their own history. Yeah, your grand parents left the 5 Boroughs because things got too violent there and now you are trying to act like you are the Bronx all of a sudden?

Then let's get to the women of Long Island or what I like to call, trailer trash with botox and makeup and there is no better way to describe them. The kind of girl that dolls herself up but seethes with deep envy knowing that she will never be a high status model like her counterparts that were raised in Manhattan or even Westchester County. There is a degree of trashiness and toxicity in most Long Island women unless they grew up in the few very wealthy parts.

I also want to talk about the guys themselves and their confrontational ways. LI dudes worship football but let's be real here, where are all the top football recruits coming from? Not from there. It's like a Bro Culture with very little to show for it, at least the Hicks in Alabama produce football talent across the board.

Most of all, what's up with the racism? Did the Italians in Long Island all of a sudden forget their own history? Why are the former immigrants of Ellis Island acting like they came here on The Mayflower all of a sudden?

All in all, Long Island people have no value to add and basically ruin everything and everywhere they flood to. It is like Jersey with lipstick. No, Long Island is like Jersey going midway through a gender transition.

Long Island is the figurative dump of America full of the lowest quality of people in the entire northeast.
 

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In that case, more than happy to.

Out of all the places I have lived in the United States, Long Island is the dump of humanity. What makes Long Island uniquely awful is how it really is the worst of all worlds converged into one. It is home to the first suburb in all of the US and an embodiment of the overcompensating middle class ways of annoying suburbia. Outside of certain places in North Long Island and The Hamptons, most people on LI are not in any way rich. It is Westchester County for the middle class.

Outside of the wealth, I want to talk about the low quality of people that place has. Snobs that think they are entitled to everything despite the fact that they are dumber and trashier than most other areas of the Tri-State. The loud Guidos who act abrasive and go around trying to start fights while being woefully unaware of their own history. Yeah, your grand parents left the 5 Boroughs because things got too violent there and now you are trying to act like you are the Bronx all of a sudden?

Then let's get to the women of Long Island or what I like to call, trailer trash with botox and makeup and there is no better way to describe them. The kind of girl that dolls herself up but seethes with deep envy knowing that she will never be a high status model like her counterparts that were raised in Manhattan or even Westchester County. There is a degree of trashiness and toxicity in most Long Island women unless they grew up in the few very wealthy parts.

I also want to talk about the guys themselves and their confrontational ways. LI dudes worship football but let's be real here, where are all the top football recruits coming from? Not from there. It's like a Bro Culture with very little to show for it, at least the Hicks in Alabama produce football talent across the board.

Most of all, what's up with the racism? Did the Italians in Long Island all of a sudden forget their own history? Why are the former immigrants of Ellis Island acting like they came here on The Mayflower all of a sudden?

All in all, Long Island people have no value to add and basically ruin everything and everywhere they flood to. It is like Jersey with lipstick. No, Long Island is like Jersey going midway through a gender transition.

Long Island is the figurative dump of America full of the lowest quality of people in the entire northeast.
Thanks.

Did you live on LI? If so, what area?

Have you observed racist behavior here?

I lived in Queens nearly all my life. Can you write some about there too?
 
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"Houston- 10- There are plenty of single women, but the logistics can be challenging, and you may need to sift through a lot of individuals with questionable behavior in this area." Can you elaborate on this? I live in H-Town and just wondering what type of questionable behavior that you speak of ???.
 

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In that case, more than happy to.

Out of all the places I have lived in the United States, Long Island is the dump of humanity. What makes Long Island uniquely awful is how it really is the worst of all worlds converged into one. It is home to the first suburb in all of the US and an embodiment of the overcompensating middle class ways of annoying suburbia. Outside of certain places in North Long Island and The Hamptons, most people on LI are not in any way rich. It is Westchester County for the middle class.

Outside of the wealth, I want to talk about the low quality of people that place has. Snobs that think they are entitled to everything despite the fact that they are dumber and trashier than most other areas of the Tri-State. The loud Guidos who act abrasive and go around trying to start fights while being woefully unaware of their own history. Yeah, your grand parents left the 5 Boroughs because things got too violent there and now you are trying to act like you are the Bronx all of a sudden?

Then let's get to the women of Long Island or what I like to call, trailer trash with botox and makeup and there is no better way to describe them. The kind of girl that dolls herself up but seethes with deep envy knowing that she will never be a high status model like her counterparts that were raised in Manhattan or even Westchester County. There is a degree of trashiness and toxicity in most Long Island women unless they grew up in the few very wealthy parts.

I also want to talk about the guys themselves and their confrontational ways. LI dudes worship football but let's be real here, where are all the top football recruits coming from? Not from there. It's like a Bro Culture with very little to show for it, at least the Hicks in Alabama produce football talent across the board.

Most of all, what's up with the racism? Did the Italians in Long Island all of a sudden forget their own history? Why are the former immigrants of Ellis Island acting like they came here on The Mayflower all of a sudden?

All in all, Long Island people have no value to add and basically ruin everything and everywhere they flood to. It is like Jersey with lipstick. No, Long Island is like Jersey going midway through a gender transition.

Long Island is the figurative dump of America full of the lowest quality of people in the entire northeast.
I mean FFS the island itself is shaped like a turd.
 

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