Ran into ex with her new boyfriend

[Slickster]

Never had this happen before and I have to send my heart out to anyone who has had to go through this.

I've moved on, but to see them laughing, all over each other, hell they were even dressed the same. Well lets just say it was extremely tough to endure.

When it was time to walk by them she looked like she wanted to stop me and introduce her new guy. I just smiled and kept on walking by. I think it bothered her. She seemed upset later and I saw new bf consoling her.

It probably would have been smooth to do the intros but I'd still walk away feeling pain and she would feel better thinking there were no hard feelings.

Unavoidable, but very tough!

 

[TesuqueRed]

Sounds like you got to her more than she got to you....but who can measure something like that? You didn't do badly.

 

[Kodiac]

Damn, that sucks!

I haven't been through it, i can only imagine how hard it would be.
Yeah yeah, i know..im still not a true DJ, but man, i fell for my ex bigtime.... and it's only a matter of time b4 i see her with a new man.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I have had the same experience a couple of times and this is what I've done. First, what is one of the worse things that could happen to a DJ when he's with his GF? His ex shows up AND they start exchanging notes!

Knowing that, what's the worse that could happen to YOUR ex? You become friends with HER current boyfriend. It's a lot easier to do than you think.

When she attempts to show off during her introduction, you can easily say "Hey, I'm glad that you've finally found someone. Hey Jim, me and my buds are getting together to watch the game my house on Sunday, why don't you bring the chips?

Now, HE'S in a interesting predicament. Will he be a man and accept or will he act like a AFC and decline or ask your EX if he can go? Either way, you have the upper hand. You prove to your EX that she's still insignificant or that she's dating a sissy boy...

 

[hitop]

You played your cards right and don't even think otherwise. You owe her nothing at this point, not even a casual hello. Her actions in this situation around her new BF indicates to me that you got rid of a pain in the a$$, and she is now his problem and not yours.

 

[Quick]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I have had the same experience a couple of times and this is what I've done. First, what is one of the worse things that could happen to a DJ when he's with his GF? His ex shows up AND they start exchanging notes!

Knowing that, what's the worse that could happen to YOUR ex? You become friends with HER current boyfriend. It's a lot easier to do than you think.

When she attempts to show off during her introduction, you can easily say "Hey, I'm glad that you've finally found someone. Hey Jim, me and my buds are getting together to watch the game my house on Sunday, why don't you bring the chips?

Now, HE'S in a interesting predicament. Will he be a man and accept or will he act like a AFC and decline or ask your EX if he can go? Either way, you have the upper hand. You prove to your EX that she's still insignificant or that she's dating a sissy boy...

That's some good stuff IF you're over her and just fell like screwing with her. If you still feel pain, you don't really want to get to know her new boyfriend or have any extra contact with her.

You did good Slickster. I know how that can hurt. There was no benefit in you stopping, and you don't owe her anything.

 

[Bill]

Since the topic is exes, I can tell you that the *worst* I've been through was seeing 2 of my exes in the same room, with me in that same room. Futhermore, one of them was with her bf... quite a weird feeling if you ask me! May I add, back then I wasn't as "confrontative" as I am today, so I didn't do much chit chat with either of them.
Best of luck to any of you guys who encounter such a situation.
Respect.

 

[chlywly]

Hmm well the only reason it was hard for you as you havn't totaly let her go and moved on, you MUST do this... Stop dwelling, be a man be a DJ.

Love is all about freedom finally set her free.

I wouldn't have any problem seeing my ex's with their new guys, in fact I have and I was fine and friendly with them...

You are no longer together set her free, you have no reason to be frustrated upon seeing that.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Quick
That's some good stuff IF you're over her and just fell like screwing with her. If you still feel pain, you don't really want to get to know her new boyfriend or have any extra contact with her.

Why is it that guys have such a hard time being around their ex's? Women know this and hold this above our heads because they still want to have some type of effect over us. Why do we let them do it?

Think about this, WE have a trump card over their new boyfriends, we've made it to the promised land before THEY did!!! Now if your ex knew that you understood how to use this to YOUR advantage, she would normally go out of her way to avoid you instead of trying to rub your face in it.

Just something to consider...

 

[DiamondMind]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Think about this, WE have a trump card over their new boyfriends, we've made it to the promised land before THEY did!!! Now if your ex knew that you understood how to use this to YOUR advantage, she would normally go out of her way to avoid you instead of trying to rub your face in it.

Yup....when I see an ex with a new bf I just give him a little smile and think, I've already tasted her tomato long before you....been there, done that...whatever. She will pick up on that attitude....and you'll have moved on....

Never give women, especially ex's, that kinda power over you...

 

[Trickster_guy_2001]

ugh. I would hope that would never happen to me. the girl I dated turned out to be disgusting and slimy.

I would feel icky having to even see her. blurgh! I'd just pass her by, and ignore her, cause honestly, I'd probably be pissed off at her and want to say something to her.

Thank god there's only one of 'em.