Ran into ex from 10 months ago...

Desdinova

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Today, I had to visit a building an ex works at to do some work. I had a feeling I might run into her, but that's just part of life. I knew I'd handle it fine.

So I go into the building and I see her walking away from me down the hallway. I went to the receptionist and asked her for directions. She directed me to where the elevators were, and I thanked her with a smile. So I go down the hallway, turn the corner, and stand behind a worker who was also waiting for the elevator. The doors open and we walk in. There's my ex, right in the elevator. She reacted to my presence as if someone hit her in the head with a fvcking brick.

She couldn't figure out whether to speak to me or not. I figured I'd just follow her lead. If she wanted to pretend like we didn't know each other, I'd be fine with that. Her co-worker had noticed that something was wrong and asked her twice if she was okay. "I'm fiiiine!" she responded as she was fidgeting and wishing for the goddam elevator to hurry up.

She finally asked how I was. I responded that I was well and returned the question. The elevator stops on the 2nd floor and she darts out the door saying "Well, this is three!" Her co-worker said "No! This is two!" So my ex, all embarrassed and obviously messed up in the brain gets back onto the elevator and waited for our arrival on the third floor, which is exactly where I was headed.

I got assistance from one of her lovely co-workers who made the joke "Usually when I see a man with a bag, I run!" I jokingly responded with "How about I pull out my hammer and THEN see how fast you run?" She laughed and helped me find where I was going.

I ended up returning back to this lovely creature to seek some assistance in locating a missing piece of equipment. My ex was working behind the desk and she quietly said something to me. I couldn't hear her, so I asked her to repeat herself. She repeated herself, and again wished me a merry Christmas.

Anyway, I ended up following the lovely lady who was helping me and I was suddenly found my eyes glued onto another worker. Short, cute, big juicy ass... Fvck me! The things I'd do to that gorgeous creature.... Wished I could've stayed around and sunk my teeth into that big round butt of hers, but there was work to be done.

Anyway, after I was all finished, I headed back toward the elevator. My ex was looking busy behind the desk. I couldn't tell if she was genuinely busy, or was making a huge effort to avoid interacting with me. Regardless, I left without saying goodbye.

After I got back to my vehicle, I started thinking, "did I really fvck her up that much?"

But this is what she wanted. Back when we were dating, she had that fvcking orbiter she was bragging about having a huge crush on. She was also talking about all the hot firemen she saw in the Christmas parade we attended, and all the hot Cubans she saw when she visited Cuba.

I initially told her that I wouldn't tolerate orbiters and she agreed to not have any. Eventually, she came back to me saying that she wasn't going to ditch her male friend for ANY guy. Two days later, I ended the relationship. Less than a week later, I was dating my current GF who was more than happy to swear off orbiters.

No regrets here!

The moral of the story is, don't bother maintaining LTRs with women who refuse to meet your expectations.

I think the only part I'm a bit saddened by is that women never learn lessons from this kind of stuff. I guarantee that she won't be removing any orbiters for any other guy she dates in the future. Women tend to believe that there's something wrong with the guy instead of realising that they're the ones with the defect.
 

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Well done.

And I have to agree, she will never allow herself to realize that perhaps she should have done something different.

And most likely she will have a chorus of friends cheering her on: "That's right! Don't let any man tell you what to do girl!".

-Augustus-
 

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Good story man! I bet she won't sleep for weeks. Is your physique different than when you dated?
 

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Good job my dude. I think you handled it like a champ.
 

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I initially told her that I wouldn't tolerate orbiters and she agreed to not have any. Eventually, she came back to me saying that she wasn't going to ditch her male friend for ANY guy. Two days later, I ended the relationship. Less than a week later, I was dating my current GF who was more than happy to swear off orbiters.

No regrets here!
No clue if you were, but seems to me that the comment about not swearing off orbiters for just 'any' man was supposed to be a hint that you should get exclusive with her.
Yes, if a woman is really into you, she doesn't need orbiters to make herself feel good or to (hopefully) remind you of her value.

Howevah - she did you a favor! She free'ed you up to meet your current GF, and you've mentioned beforeyou are pleased and content with this one.
Gotta love the way the universe works!
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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She reacted to my presence as if someone hit her in the head with a fvcking brick.
She reacted like this because their little scheming heads think they can predict everything so that they can figure out responses in advance, but they can't. It's not how the world works. You were a shock and she was taken off guard pretty much. But that's great.

I am really glad that the Manosphere is teaching men how to behave in conditions of uncertainty. The inner game part is actually teaching you this, to have the inner conviction that you can and will handle whatever is thrown in your way.

The moral of the story is, don't bother maintaining LTRs with women who refuse to meet your expectations.
Yeah, I had to learn this the hard way. But I did. I guess that's where my arrogance is coming from with women, because I've seen too much irresponsible, pathetic, childish behaviour from them.

I think the only part I'm a bit saddened by is that women never learn lessons from this kind of stuff. I guarantee that she won't be removing any orbiters for any other guy she dates in the future. Women tend to believe that there's something wrong with the guy instead of realising that they're the ones with the defect.
And they usually never learn.

Well, they do, but when they have to, and that's when they have hit the wall. But it's way too late then, and I'm glad they are receiving the cumulative effect of all the stupidity they have done and caused so many people around them to suffer.

I'm just sad that the wisdom transfer grandmother-mother-daughter is dying out, because this was one of the best mechanisms (the other being the patriarch, of course, as well as some others) to put smarts in those empty, hypergamy-driven heads.
 
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