Ran into a girl in class while working, enlighten me.

[DonChino]

Hey all, well like I posted in another thread, I got a job working retail to force social interaction and get rid of anxiety. Yesterday while working I bumped into a girl from one of my classes she approached me with a question and I answered the question but proceeded to make conversation unrelated to it. The convo flowed nicely but got cut short due to me needing to help someone on the other side of the store.

The last day of class is this Monday. She sits on the other side of the room while I sit in the middle. Come monday I plan on approaching her and using her question to me as an opener (basically asking her if it worked out for her). Since its the last day of class, it's now or never to see if this can go somewhere.

So here is my question: Direct or Indirect? Should I just give her my number and let her decide if she wants to call me? If not what's a smooth way to get her's instead?

-I was thinking indirect since it will make it less rough if I get rejected in the middle of class. Also I don't know if she has a boyfriend, going indirect will allow me to play it cool and spout something like "whoa wait, who said anything about being your boyfriend? *que laughter*" and proceed to follow through with getting her number.
-I also thought I would give her my number, if she calls me then I know I'm green-lighted to proceed to setting up a get together.

Other note:
-She is not the typical girl in the sense that she likes video games, computers, etc. lol... That makes it good for me because so do I and I don't have to avoid those subjects. It will make for EASY conversation piece.
-I don't know if she has a boyfriend. She actually made a comment when we were talking that "she doesn't get out much". Since I'm not sure whether she has a boyfriend that's why I was thinking I should go Indirect since I know how to handle it if she says she does.

This will actually be my first attempt in going in for the "kill". I have a feeling after this attempt ,rejection or success, I will start doing so on a regular basis. It's that first hurdle that gets me but after I get over it I should be able to proceed with ill-regard to hesitation. If you guys can hit up on the questions and give some advice that will be great. I will approach regardless but it will be nice to have some previous backing before said approach.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Hey all, well like I posted in another thread, I got a job working retail to force social interaction and get rid of anxiety. Yesterday while working I bumped into a girl from one of my classes she approached me with a question and I answered the question but proceeded to make conversation unrelated to it. The convo flowed nicely but got cut short due to me needing to help someone on the other side of the store.

Great job forcing yourself to improve!! Your ahead of most of the newbies I see on this board, instead of making improvements, they read theory and analyze all night.

The last day of class is this Monday. She sits on the other side of the room while I sit in the middle. Come monday I plan on approaching her and using her question to me as an opener (basically asking her if it worked out for her). Since its the last day of class, it's now or never to see if this can go somewhere.

Don't plan out your approach. When guys are new to approaching they plan everything out in their head like a movie and it never goes that way. Just go say "hi" to her and ask her how her weekend was and go from there. Asking her about the question she asked you about indicates your interest in her right off the bat whether you realize it or not.


So here is my question: Direct or Indirect? Should I just give her my number and let her decide if she wants to call me? If not what's a smooth way to get her's instead?

Dude c'mon are you serious?? I know your new but NEVVVVVVER, EVVVVVERRR give a girl your number.......EVVVVVER, unless you also get hers. Giving her your number and expecting her to call is like closing your eyes and hoping that an ugly girl turns hot in 10 seconds.... not gonna happen.

Have a conversation with her and see how its going. If its going well and she's digging it as well, tell her....NOTE THE WORDS I USED, TELL HER to give you her number.....THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT to portraying to her that your a confident man, not a little sissy boy.

U: Hey its been great talking to you, give me your number and I'll give you a call...

Couple other points to know:

-never tell them exactly when your going to call

-always go for the close when the conversation is at its peak, so you can end the conversation first and leave her wanting more...


-I was thinking indirect since it will make it less rough if I get rejected in the middle of class. Also I don't know if she has a boyfriend, going indirect will allow me to play it cool and spout something like "whoa wait, who said anything about being your boyfriend? *que laughter*" and proceed to follow through with getting her number.

Your thinking too much..... and DEFINITELY DO NOT say "who said anything about being your boyfriend." That is just weird and creepy!! If a girl doesn't have a bf and your talking to her, that does not mean she wants you to be her bf!! LOL

-I also thought I would give her my number, if she calls me then I know I'm green-lighted to proceed to setting up a get together.

Don't do this, see above for why... You need to be a man, right now your being a sissy and taking the easy road out. Its not attractive and it won't make her want you, whether she's a swimsuit model or a computer dork.QUOTE]





You need to read the Bible, all the questions and thoughts you have are rookie mistakes and will kill you if you don't realize how to do this properly.


With that said, go have fun and go get this girl's number so you can fuvk her!!!





PIMP

 

[Frank_Tartaglia]

I agree with pimp-sicle. Make sure you get her number. It doesn't matter if you give your number to her or not because women never call first.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Hey all, well like I posted in another thread, I got a job working retail to force social interaction and get rid of anxiety. Yesterday while working I bumped into a girl from one of my classes she approached me with a question and I answered the question but proceeded to make conversation unrelated to it. The convo flowed nicely but got cut short due to me needing to help someone on the other side of the store.

Great job. The fact that you are now aquainted makes your next move a non-cold approach; you also already have something to talk about, by picking it up where you left off, or, as you did so well, start talking about something else.

The last day of class is this Monday. She sits on the other side of the room while I sit in the middle. Come monday I plan on approaching her and using her question to me as an opener (basically asking her if it worked out for her). Since its the last day of class, it's now or never to see if this can go somewhere.

Dude, don't put too much stock on the outcome by putting that type of "It's now or never if this can go somewhere" approach. It already has gone from nowhere to something. Any outcome will be a good thing. To me this looks like a can't loose situation.

So here is my question: Direct or Indirect? Should I just give her my number and let her decide if she wants to call me? If not what's a smooth way to get her's instead?

I say you go direct, and get her email first, small talk, then go for her number. The best way off course is to have a short talk, that's ideal, but that is not always the case. If you are pressed for time, you do something like the David D. email/phone close, just do it in a way you are conformable and rolls naturally out of you.

-Make comment/question
-Ask about plans for holiday (don't linger too long on this part)
-Say you gotta go but "Would like to talk to continue this conversation. What's your email?", then as she's writing it, tell her to write down her phone number.
-Excuse yourself and contact.

-I was thinking indirect since it will make it less rough if I get rejected in the middle of class. Also I don't know if she has a boyfriend, going indirect will allow me to play it cool and spout something like "whoa wait, who said anything about being your boyfriend? *que laughter*" and proceed to follow through with getting her number.

There is no way of getting or giving her the nubmer without being direct. If she rejects you because she has a boyfriend, it means it has nothing to do with you. In this case, it will be direct, yet still very low key and low threat. Believe me, she will not be offended, or mad, or upset, or anything, by you wanting to get the digits, and neither should you if she doesn't comply. If anything, you are already aquainted and you can chat her up next semester/quarter.

-I also thought I would give her my number, if she calls me then I know I'm green-lighted to proceed to setting up a get together.

I rather get her email than give my number, but if you can do both, that's acceptable. You can teasingly ask her if she plans on calling you, etc.

Other note:
-She is not the typical girl in the sense that she likes video games, computers, etc. lol... That makes it good for me because so do I and I don't have to avoid those subjects. It will make for EASY conversation piece.

That's good, but at the end of the day, girls are girls, and they want you to be differnt than them and do, talk, and engage in other stuff besides video games, computers, etc. She can be a nerd by herself, so just don't over play that, specially once you get the digits.

-I don't know if she has a boyfriend. She actually made a comment when we were talking that "she doesn't get out much". Since I'm not sure whether she has a boyfriend that's why I was thinking I should go Indirect since I know how to handle it if she says she does.

"I don't get out much" is a signal that she is available. To you and I that is indirect, but to them, in their little brain, they are being very direct and are wishign you pick up on it.

If she says she has a boyfriend, you can bust her and call her/him on it. "You mean you have a boyfriend who doesn't go out with you much?", etc.

This will actually be my first attempt in going in for the "kill". I have a feeling after this attempt ,rejection or success, I will start doing so on a regular basis. It's that first hurdle that gets me but after I get over it I should be able to proceed with ill-regard to hesitation. If you guys can hit up on the questions and give some advice that will be great. I will approach regardless but it will be nice to have some previous backing before said approach.

Again, don't put too much stock on this particular result. Remember, you will get the number and a new contact, or you will still get a new aquaintance you can always re-intiate a sarge with next quarter. Worst case scenario, you learn a lot more on how to and not to go about things with the skill.

 

[DonChino]

Great responses guys made me laugh and smile in a good way; very informative. It's really late right now but I will get up in the morning and go through and reread everything you all said again and apply it.

Thanks again guys I really do appreciate the help. If it's a success great, if not there is plenty of opportunities everyday. IF this works out, I'm going to be picking your brains again for some more info!

 

[Prodigy746]

Yah man dont give her your number. Be a man get and her number. DO NOT ASK "CAN I HAVE YOUR NUMBER". Sit next to her start a conversation and than at the end of the class walk with her and get her number by saying, "You seem pretty cool let me get your number and we will hangout some time".

Or "We should hangout sometime. What is your number?"

I would advise you to ask for the number while walking with her from class and not in the classroom where everyone can hear. It will make it ackword especially if she is the shy type.

I have gotten 7 numbers in college and all of them came from girls in classroom. I usually say .. "You seem cool, whats your number we should study sometime" .. bam haven't been rejected yet.