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JackHearts said:
I am not going to participate in the whole childrens-debate since I feel that everyone is entitled to their own opinions on the matter.
Everyone ARE entitled to their own opinion's and they are supposed to DEBATE the subject matter like ADULTS (in which this debate was until the "children's debate comment").

JackHearts said:
This question is one of the comments made in this thread that had me scratching my head. Why is it that so many men out there think that a womans value gets lowered if she has lots of sex?

You guys don't want a girl who's bad in bed I assume. So why is it that less experience is good? I know, I know.. a girl with few sexual partners might have lots of sexual experience - but that's not my point. The point I am trying to make is simply this:

Girls who have lots of sex - usually gets good at having sex. Sex is a skill, it takes techniques, muscles and communication to make it really good - all things that are best developed through experience.

Girls who have lots of sex are usually more aware of getting tested for STDs and are more concerned about protection from pregnancy than girls who rarely have sex - simply because those who have sex rarely think "what are the odds that it'll go wrong if I just do this this one time."

Girls who have lots of sex will usually not get as attached and obsessed with you as girls who almost never have sex and then goes to bed with you - something which I would think most of the people on a forum like this would appreciate.

The list goes on...

Here's the thing: Most men are "scared" of so-called "sluts" (I really do hate that word - except for when it's being used as a compliment) because they fear getting disapproval from their friends. Because they fear that their egos won't be satisfied by yet another girl clinging to them and making their whole world revolve around them.

This is Bull****.
Then why on earth won't you just tell men to pay up a prostitute and forget this PUA Bullsh1t??!! I mean a prostitute does fill all your criterias of everything you said above and then some. If all you are doing is telling men to go chase after the girl that has "Run the Train" because she is better, then shouldn't they just go visit some prostitutes? I am sure Mr. Soporno classes pretty much charges as much as a high end hooker.

JackHearts said:
Free yourself from your need of approval from others. Check your ego and realize that all it does is make life harder. I can guarantee you that your life, your game and your relationships will improve drastically as soon as you do this!
It has nothing to do the need of approval from others. You are just interjecting things you feel are the reason as to why men don't want to go after women who were plowed by the entire local football team.

JackHearts said:
As a player, pua, seducer, whatever-you-want-to-call-yourself, it is nothing less than egotistical and straight out mean of you to expect the women in your life to be "loyal" to you if you are not going to be loyal to them. They should be able to expect the same from you as you expect from them - nothing more, nothing less.
I make my own rules, that's why its my life and no one elses. Therefore I expect much more then women and if they don't meet my expectations then its bye-bye.

JackHearts said:
I'm honestly didn't mean to get caught up in this debate. All I wanted to say was that I recommend for EVERYONE to watch the Seductive Reasoning seminar that Johnny gives away for free, and take notes while doing it.

I watched it myself about a year ago, and it completely changed my life. The last six months alone I've worked with Johnny himself on several seminars and workshops, coached at one of AFC Adams bootcamps, shared hotelrooms and meals with Zan Perrion, met Steve Piccus and several other highly respected people from the community - all because I now get it.
I was waiting for the sale's pitch, took you long enough to leave it for the end.
 

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I've just gotten done with the first video and I am quite impressed with your logic. I wait in anticipation to finish the rest. I may just have to convert it over so I can listen to your speech on my iPod while I work out or go driving.

Very well done so far, I applaud your endeavors.
 
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DJDamage said:
Then why on earth won't you just tell men to pay up a prostitute and forget this PUA Bullsh1t??!! I mean a prostitute does fill all your criterias of everything you said above and then some.
I do not think so. That's comparing apples to oranges. A prostitute is doing something for money and may not genuinely enjoy having sex and has probably gone with THOUSANDS of guys rather than just 50. A real slvt that loves sex that you may meet on an adult site off the internet.

DJDamage said:
If all you are doing is telling men to go chase after the girl that has "Run the Train" because she is better, then shouldn't they just go visit some prostitutes?
I think he's saying that you do not "judge" loose women for loving sex with various partners. I would defend these slvts because when I wanted to loose my virginity a couple of years ago, it was only a slvt(s) that responded to my ad at the end of the day and was prepared to action (about two years ago), but I chickened out (which I'm glad I did since I don't want to lose my virginity unless it's in marriage). But the point is there -- when I was looking for love in that way, one of that type of lady was prepared to meet me and that has left an impact with me. You cant get a love connection from a prostitute, since you know all they want is money. This has taught me that even slvts can be good samaritians and should not be judged. I got hurt the most by a lady who claimed she was a virgin because she lost that with another guy.


I know another guy on here, Bible_Belt that is going with a girl that's slept with half the town and had wonderful sex. I'm currently seeing a girl who is not a virgin who is 20 y/o and has a child -- I don't care -- she seems very sexually open with me and I like that. But I'm still waiting before losing my virginity.
 

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DJDamage said:
Everyone ARE entitled to their own opinion's and they are supposed to DEBATE the subject matter like ADULTS (in which this debate was until the "children's debate comment").
I called it the 'childrens debate comment' not to imply that those discussing it were children - but because the debate I didn't want to get involved in was the part discussing children vs fathers. I'm sorry if I wasn't clear enough on that, and I didn't mean to offend anyone.


DJDamage said:
Then why on earth won't you just tell men to pay up a prostitute and forget this PUA Bullsh1t??!! I mean a prostitute does fill all your criterias of everything you said above and then some. If all you are doing is telling men to go chase after the girl that has "Run the Train" because she is better, then shouldn't they just go visit some prostitutes? I am sure Mr. Soporno classes pretty much charges as much as a high end hooker.
Because paying for a prostitute to get pleasure of your own, and going to bed with a woman for both of your sake are two very different things. I'm not saying that women with lots of experience are always the best in bed, but sexual experience is not a bad thing - and no one will convince me otherwise. I felt that Johnnys answer to the question that started this part of the debate very much summed up my own feelings on the subject.

I am not telling men to chase after the women who has "Run the Train" as you say, but rather to go for whichever women they want - regardless of how many, or how few, sexual partners she's had.

DJDamage said:
It has nothing to do the need of approval from others. You are just interjecting things you feel are the reason as to why men don't want to go after women who were plowed by the entire local football team.
As far as I can tell from countless of conversations with men about this subject, approval is one of the main problems in this area yes. Another one is insecurities - fear of not being "good enough" and such things.

But I am curious about your reason for viewing women with many sexual partners as less valuable than women with few? It would be great if you could elaborate on that for me.

DJDamage said:
I make my own rules, that's why its my life and no one elses. Therefore I expect much more then women and if they don't meet my expectations then its bye-bye.
I'm very sorry you feel that way. Of course you are entitled to your own set of rules and beliefs also in this department, but in all honestly I believe that you'd see a significant change in your relationship with the women you see if you were to give them more freedom. All of my relationships are wonderfully uncomplicated and satisfying, mostly because I expect no more from them than I am willing to offer them myself.

DJDamage said:
I was waiting for the sale's pitch, took you long enough to leave it for the end.
How can it be a sales pitch when the videos are for free? It is merely a recommendation. And since the videos were the reason this thread started in the first place, I feel that it is important to keep some of the focus on them.
 

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I watched the first two videos - currently downloading the rest.

One of the things I find really interesting about your talk, Johnny, is the emphasis on looking at things from an evolutionary perspective. I believe this kind of thinking opens many doors when it comes to our understanding of all sorts of biological systems - including human behavior. This is especially true as we continue to struggle to understand ourselves.

I never accept any claims without evidence. So, when you make these assertions and say that they are a product of evolutionary mechanisms, can you cite any RESEARCH to back these things up?

Some things you are saying on this thread I find difficult to accept. This, for example:

Therefore, it's subjective in the mind of the father and the children as to whom their allegiances are set. If you think of your kids as YOURS and they think of themselves as YOURS, then they ARE YOURS.
Evolutionarily, this makes no sense. If you are a male that will raise any child, even those that arent your own, your genes will NOT be passed down to the next generation and therefore this behavior is NOT adaptive. These kinds of males should have died out long ago - and this explains why we have jealousy built into us, no?

Then there are claims about a woman's selection of sexual partners that I find a little dubious:

The female's biological drive is to collect as many sperm from as many promising donors as are around, when she's ovulating - so long as she done what suggests she'll become pregnant, she's satisfied - and she becomes turned-off by her own 'familiar' males' scents (Familiar = of or like one's family).
Really? What happens she becomes pregnant, and nobody has any idea who the father is? What sort of poor unfortunate male is going to get stuck helping her rear the child (because it would be very difficult to do this by herself!) As I mentioned above, it is NOT in the males interest to raise a child that is not his own, evolutionarily speaking. In this sort of scenario, more likely than not the female will get stuck in a difficult situation of raising a child by herself!

To me, it makes more sense for the female to be a little choosy about who she sleeps with - to make sure the male invests some resources before giving up her large, nutritious egg (her expensive gamete) to one of the males small, cheap, throwaway gametes.

Its a constant battle of the sexes, and I'm not sure if your argument completely captures that.

I'd love to hear your response!
 

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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Serg897 said:
I watched the first two videos - currently downloading the rest.

One of the things I find really interesting about your talk, Johnny, is the emphasis on looking at things from an evolutionary perspective. I believe this kind of thinking opens many doors when it comes to our understanding of all sorts of biological systems - including human behavior. This is especially true as we continue to struggle to understand ourselves.
Thanks kindly - I've been working on my models of human psychology for nearly two decades.

Serg897 said:
I never accept any claims without evidence. So, when you make these assertions and say that they are a product of evolutionary mechanisms, can you cite any RESEARCH to back these things up?
Of course. In particular, the works of Geoffrey Miller (The Mating Mind) and Randy Thornhill of the University of New Mexico, Matt Ridley (The Red Queen) and Sarah Blaffer Hrdy (The Woman that Never Evolved) have been particularly useful.

Serg897 said:
Some things you are saying on this thread I find difficult to accept. This, for example:

Therefore, it's subjective in the mind of the father and the children as to whom their allegiances are set. If you think of your kids as YOURS and they think of themselves as YOURS, then they ARE YOURS.

Evolutionarily, this makes no sense. If you are a male that will raise any child, even those that aren't your own, your genes will NOT be passed down to the next generation and therefore this behavior is NOT adaptive. These kinds of males should have died out long ago - and this explains why we have jealousy built into us, no?
No. :) But that's a common misconception, even amongst nominally educated scientists.

Consider the wolf-pack: Normally, the 'Alpha Male' and his 'Alpha Female(s)' are the only members of the pack to breed, which is natural and appropriate, being that all the other pack-members are the offspring of the Alpha Male, at least, and mating between siblings or half-siblings yields negative results (amongst higher mammals, anyway).

Some of the males born within that pack will have an 'ambitious' temperament, and will be unwilling to accept subjugation to the presiding Alpha (likely their sire) and, if unable to overthrow the Alpha (who would then be relegated to 'Beta' male, and would still maintain dominance over lesser males within the pack) the ambitious male would have to leave the pack, and go off 'lone wolf' - seeking females in other packs to fertilize and perhaps pair-bond.

The other males in the pack are neither compelled to overthrow the Alpha, nor leave, and therefore spend their entire lives in support of the pack. In this capacity, as hunters/providers and protectors of their siblings and their siblings' offspring, they play a critical role in the assurance that their parent's genes (which they share with their siblings, of course) are passed on.

Therefore, the notion that ALL males are obsolete/useless evolutionarily if they THEMSELVES don't breed is obviously incorrect, as demonstrated by the
very existence of the countless male wolves who serve as life-support for their family's children.

In humans, the very same traits would be obvious and seen, were it not for the cultural pressures of society which requires duplicity and surreptitious misrepresentations.

Historically, the most-powerful men had harems and prevented lesser men from breeding, OR SO THEY THOUGHT anyway. The women would still manage to get impregnated by itinerant 'ambitious' males, unbeknownst to their owner (husband).

Previous to the invention of hormonal birth-control and ubiquitous availability of condoms, the frequency of non-paternity offspring generated through illicit encounters of married women would be staggering - possibly the majority of children conceived would be raised/supported by their 'father of record' (husband of the mother) without any connection to their genetic father.

Even today, where condoms are compulsory and birth-control standard, AT LEAST 10% of children born in the U.S. are 'non-paternity' offspring. Reference

Serg897 said:
Then there are claims about a woman's selection of sexual partners that I find a little dubious:

The female's biological drive is to collect as many sperm from as many promising donors as are around, when she's ovulating - so long as she done what suggests she'll become pregnant, she's satisfied - and she becomes turned-off by her own 'familiar' males' scents (Familiar = of or like one's family).
Really? What happens she becomes pregnant, and nobody has any idea who the father is? What sort of poor unfortunate male is going to get stuck helping her rear the child (because it would be very difficult to do this by herself!)
Human females hide their estrus (ovulation), unlike virtually all other species known. (ie, their asses don't glow bright pink and their vulva don't swell up, etc)
This ensures that the female, once pregnant, is able seduce & pair bond with an appropriate care-giver provider/protector, to ensure that her child is supported.

Randy Thornhill, Professor of Cultural Anthropology & Evolutionary Psychology, University of New Mexico
The Functional Design and Phylogeny of Women's Dual Sexuality: Estrus and Extended Sexuality

Recent research questions the conventional wisdom about the evolution of women's sexuality. Women have two functionally distinct sexualities. At the fertile phase of the cycle, women prefer male traits that may mark superior genetic quality. At infertile cycle phases, women prefer men willing to invest resources in a mate. Women's peri–ovulatory sexuality is homologous with estrus in other vertebrates and estrus likely arose first in the species ancestral to vertebrates. Thus, contrary to conventional wisdom, women have not lost estrus, and human estrus likely functions to get a sire of superior genetic quality, which is the evolved function of estrus throughout the vertebrates. Women's sexuality outside estrus is extended sexuality. It appears to function, as in other taxa with this type of sexuality, to get material benefits from males. Also contrary to conventional wisdom, men perceive and respond to women's estrus, including by increased mate guarding. Men's response is limited compared to other vertebrate males, implying co-evolutionary history of selection on females to conceal estrus from men and selection on men to detect it. Research indicates that women's concealed estrus is an adaptation to conditionally copulate with men other than the pair–bond partner. Women's sexual ornaments–the estrogen–facilitated features of face and body–appear to be honest signals of individual quality pertaining to future reproductive value.​

Serg897 said:
As I mentioned above, it is NOT in the males interest to raise a child that is not his own, evolutionarily speaking.
Yes, and as I identified above, that is a common misconception. Be cautious not to mistake SOCIAL requirements for evolutionary ones - they are distinct.

Serg897 said:
In this sort of scenario, more likely than not the female will get stuck in a difficult situation of raising a child by herself!
That is an example of a social constraint, exclusively. As described above, women are evolutionarily designed to become impregnated by one sort of male, and pair bond with another sort. Q.E.D.

Serg897 said:
To me, it makes more sense for the female to be a little choosy about who she sleeps with - to make sure the male invests some resources before giving up her large, nutritious egg (her expensive gamete) to one of the males small, cheap, throwaway gametes.
This is a specious argument, although alarmingly common!

The true and obvious reason that the egg is large and nutritious, while the sperm is incredibly tiny, is that while the combination of both combine to create the zygote, the egg will both be the carrier and nutrition provider for the gestation period.

Consider a hen, with her VERY large eggs, each of which could produce a chick (if they were fertilized by a single tiny sperm!) but are the same size regardless. She doesn't need to spend any time determining which male will fertilize her, the males themselves will fight it out, and the victor will procreate.

The essential difference between chickens and humans in this analogy is that chickens' eggs gestate outside the mother's body, making the chicken available for re-fertilization immediately after an egg is laid, whereas in humans, the egg gestates inside the female for 9 months, making her incapable of being refertilized until after the zygote is ejected (born or miscarried).

In both cases, the distinction between egg size and sperm size is obvious, and the justification the same. I submit that the notion that 'gamete value' should play any role in the mate-selection process defies reason.

Serg897 said:
Its a constant battle of the sexes, and I'm not sure if your argument completely captures that.
Socially, I constantly state that there IS no 'battle of the sexes' - but evolutionarily, there CANNOT be, or else we would have died off as a species long ago. Instead, there is merely a complex cooperative effort, supported throughout the generations by BOTH GENDERS, which relies upon the males BELIEVING that their offspring are their own, directly, and that they have not been cuckheld against their will.

I hope you found some compelling insights here - I am more than happy to continue answering question from anyone who asks! (After all, this is what I do for a living! ;))

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Hi Johnny,

A question for you: I guess this one gets asked to most people who have any progressive views on sex since well before the 60s:

-Do you have any argument against having sex with minors?
-Do you have any argument against having sex with animals?
-Do you have any argument against having sex with family members?

As you know, social movements aren't stopped in the middle, they're stopped at the extremes. I imagine these kinds of extreme situation questions, when being resolved, really help spread an idea.

I guess one other question. Do you think you have an addiction to sex or nymphomania?

I hope you'll forgive me for getting a bit psychological on you - and you seem very well adjusted, ethical, moral, good-hearted, and I would definitely take a candy from you (actually, you can mail one to me, but I like gummy worms) - I just can't fail to notice from a Freudian perspective that a lot of guys I know and read about who date a lot of women seem to have had a limited relationship with their parents. I suppose I suspect that finding unlimited love in romance seems like kind of a stand-in for parental love. Just FYI I'm probably projecting some of my own stuff onto you, but that doesn't allay my curiosity.

Thanks for the posts and video. I am definitely a fan of making our world a more ethical and interconnected place to live.

Best,
Izza
 

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izza said:
Hi Johnny,

A question for you: I guess this one gets asked to most people who have any progressive views on sex since well before the 60s:

A -Do you have any argument against having sex with minors?
B -Do you have any argument against having sex with animals?
C -Do you have any argument against having sex with family members?
A) Absolutely. I believe that 'informed consent' is an absolute requirement for any sexual activity, and that 'consent' cannot be given unless a person is capable of appreciating the ramifications of their decision.

Personally, I won't sleep with an intellectual age of under 21, and a physical age of less than 18. I can't imagine having an ongoing sexual relationship with anyone with an intellectual age of less than 25.


B) Argument against it? If the animal doesn't mind, is basically doing what comes naturally to it, and isn't being physically damaged (say, a German Sheppard sodomizing 'Looksdumb', or a horse being blown by a human, etc..) then I don't see anything inherently problematic about it. I certainly don't ADVISE it, but I don't feel I have any right to prevent sentient beings from doing what their bodies tell them to...

C) Incest which could result in children can have catastrophic results. Otherwise, it's strictly a sociological problem. I wouldn't recommend it, again, because it's VERY hard to walk-away from a nasty breakup which involves your family at the best of times; where BOTH parties are in your family, it's a prescription for messiness.

izza said:
I guess one other question. Do you think you have an addiction to sex or nymphomania?
No, not either. More often than not, I turn down sex unless I truly feel an emotional connection with my prospective partner.

izza said:
I hope you'll forgive me for getting a bit psychological on you - and you seem very well adjusted, ethical, moral, good-hearted, and I would definitely take a candy from you (actually, you can mail one to me, but I like gummy worms) - I just can't fail to notice from a Freudian perspective that a lot of guys I know and read about who date a lot of women seem to have had a limited relationship with their parents. I suppose I suspect that finding unlimited love in romance seems like kind of a stand-in for parental love. Just FYI I'm probably projecting some of my own stuff onto you, but that doesn't allay my curiosity.
I'm afraid you are projecting :) My relationships with my folks are well-settled, my childhood disappointments are all well behind me, and I have made my peace with everybody.

I have a LOT of love, and I receive a lot of love; it makes it easy to share a lot of love, without needing anything explicitly in return.

izza said:
Thanks for the posts and video. I am definitely a fan of making our world a more ethical and interconnected place to live.
Thanks so much, Izza!

Have you heard my unedited, 3 hour long Interview with David D' yet?

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Johnny Soporno said:
A) Absolutely. I believe that 'informed consent' is an absolute requirement for any sexual activity, and that 'consent' cannot be given unless a person is capable of appreciating the ramifications of their decision.

Personally, I won't sleep with an intellectual age of under 21, and a physical age of less than 18. I can't imagine having an ongoing sexual relationship with anyone with an intellectual age of less than 25.

B) Argument against it? If the animal doesn't mind, is basically doing what comes naturally to it, and isn't being physically damaged (say, a German Sheppard sodomizing 'Looksdumb', or a horse being blown by a human, etc..) then I don't see anything inherently problematic about it. I certainly don't ADVISE it, but I don't feel I have any right to prevent sentient beings from doing what their bodies tell them to...

C) Incest which could result in children can have catastrophic results. Otherwise, it's strictly a sociological problem. I wouldn't recommend it, again, because it's VERY hard to walk-away from a nasty breakup which involves your family at the best of times; where BOTH parties are in your family, it's a prescription for messiness.
I can see what you mean. Although an animal giving "informed consent" ok, I can see how that would be a thorny issue, but I see the point.

And that's an interesting point of view, I'll think about it.

No, not either. More often than not, I turn down sex unless I truly feel an emotional connection with my prospective partner.
What other kinds of things do you do with your free time?

On another point, it really sounds like you have a LOT of sex. That must be exhausting. In your opinion, do you think most people would benefit from having as much sex as you do - I guess I'm not sure how often you have sex and all.

I'm afraid you are projecting :) My relationships with my folks are well-settled, my childhood disappointments are all well behind me, and I have made my peace with everybody.

I have a LOT of love, and I receive a lot of love; it makes it easy to share a lot of love, without needing anything explicitly in return.


Thanks so much, Izza!

Have you heard my unedited, 3 hour long Interview with David D' yet?

Johnny Soporno
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You're very welcome. I listened to the audio thing - and not surprisingly it repeated the same concepts. I just wanted to thank you again for the great ideas (which I'd mostly heard about from feminist literature, but perhaps lacking the practical orientation). It is so much fun to run this by my lady-friends!! They really appreciate my attitude, and most feel liberated by what I have to tell them.

It's kind of a long "speech" though - I'm still working on getting "sound-bytes" that are more my own. But anyway, this is great stuff. Just wanted to express my appreciation again.

Best,
Izza
 

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I think the backlash your getting here is a result of conditioning and I'm sure you know that Johnny. I agree with you almost completely. Most of the girls I sleep with are in relationships or married. This is because most girls are either in relationships or married, they see it as a nescessaty so to speak (which is exactly what you elaborate on in the video). To everyone else, watch his videos, try it, test it and if it doesnt work for you drop it. It sure "beats be an ******* or jerk instead of niceguy" when either of these personality types are irrelevant.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Very interesting. I don't post often, but this is worth it. I've been in a relationship for awhile now and these are areas I have been trying to improve in before I even saw your video. I see my girlfriend and others struggling with the conventional image of what a girl should be on a regular basis. The guys these girls are with, even me to an extent, don't understand that girls truly want to be treated as equals. It's hard to break the cycle of patriarchal thinking, but it can be done, one step at a time.

I've been trying to fix my girl problems for five years now, which is quite a long time. None of the tricks, speed seduction patterns :rolleyes: , or anything else, has bettered myself as a human being, or boyfriend, than treating girls as equals. When you treat girls as equals, you convey a multitude of qualities about yourself that are attractive to potential dates, or even friends. You signify that you're confident about your present love life, your sexuality, and any girl who decides to be with you will be as happy and fulfilled as you are. Girls reciprocate your attitudes.

I can't stress enough how important it is to just treat everyone nicely and equally, the way you'd want to be treated. You'll be loved by women and befriended by men.
 

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Void - outstanding post. Thanks for sharing.

It's so rare to find someone on here who believes that we should treat women as human beings who are fundamentally not much different from us.

A book that I found helpful on my quest to treat women as human beings and not just women was "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle.

Ciao!
Izza
 

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Void said:
You'll be loved by women and befriended by men.
Excellent quote Void, No Doubt!!!

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