Quitting Por*

[Barrister]

I have lost most interest in watching p0rn, although I will still look maybe once every 5-6 months if the fancy gets me. I did have a problem many years ago with watching it A LOT in high school. What I have found is the less I watch the less I care about watching it. The more I have watched, the more I want to watch.

If you are struggling and watching too much, you about have to cut it off cold turkey to re-adjust IMO.

 

[ManFromTartarus]

Another alarming trend I’ve noticed is that it seems that cuckold relationships have become more popular and I think there’s a correlation between easy access to porn and the rise in popularity of that. A lot of men have become so used to and conditioned into achieving arousal and orgasm by being in third person and watching other people have sex to where they like the idea of watching their girlfriends with other men.

This makes some sense here. The cuck stuff always gives me the creeps and when I ever do view pron it's that POV kinda stuff. I even turn the sound off so I don't hear a man's voice groaning.

I can see folks that are addicted to it getting their morality stretched while going down a rabbit hole on some of those sites with AI suggestions.

 

[soulforge]

It definitely is, most Instagram models make so many provocative posts and several of them have a OF link in their bio too.

Another alarming trend I’ve noticed is that it seems that cuckold relationships have become more popular and I think there’s a correlation between easy access to porn and the rise in popularity of that. A lot of men have become so used to and conditioned into achieving arousal and orgasm by being in third person and watching other people have sex to where they like the idea of watching their girlfriends with other men.

Watching porn is pretty much Cuckoldry.

Your not a participant in the sexual act, your essentially watching other people having sex (Vouyerism).

Your also watching/looking at other men's c0cks and getting used to the sight of other men's diks (this isn't normal)

In no previous time in history, have men viewed other men's diks at this scale, sometimes 2-3 times a day.

Watching others having sex becomes the normal, so it's not that far fetched for dudes to enjoy watching his girlfriend have sex, with other dudes & he sits back as the voyour.

I quit watching porn 4 months ago.. it's completely rewired my brain.

 

[soulforge]

For you guys that struggle with p0rn becoming too addictive, does it keep you from doing things you should get done? Do you put off your tasks/duties to watch p0rn?

I'll view p0rn from time to time, but it doesn't get in the way of other things.

I think the biggest issue with watching porn for me was, losing that enthusiasm to meet/approach girls for real in the outside world.

It rarely got in the way, of my day to day jobs or duties, as I'm a pretty motivated person & that tends to stem from my strict fitness lifestyle.

I haven't watched any porn at all close to two months now, and I feel much better for it.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Anyone got any tips on leaving this weird addiction behind ?

I don’t know if this can be done by one’s own volition, but I quit when I developed a brutal hatred for it.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Ive majorly cut down to once or twice a week since I started this thread

sometimes I will go like 7 days and then something will just stress me out or a random chick will turn me on and I'll want to bust one out

Hoping to cut it out completely in 2024

 

[soulforge]

Ive majorly cut down to once or twice a week since I started this thread

sometimes I will go like 7 days and then something will just stress me out or a random chick will turn me on and I'll want to bust one out

Hoping to cut it out completely in 2024

What your experiencing is... That dopamine hit from porn or jacking off to porn helps you feel better when something has you feeling down or stressed out.

Just like any addict, who will turn to alcohol or a cigarette or even heroin.. You choose the porn dopamine hit in order to feel good again.

It's like any addiction, you brain needs to rewire, and your dopamine receptors need to start operating back to normal again.

I would suggest go gold turkey.. It was only difficult for me, for about 2 weeks, after that it became a breeze.

I'm not even tempted to look at porn at all now.

By the way.. When you are intentionally trying to avoid, getting lured back into pornography and imagery of naked girls, it's only then you truly understand the amount of semi nudity and temptation that is on social media.

You literally cannot look at any social media, without a chick throwing her azz in your face every 5 minutes.

 

[Bingo-Player]

You literally cannot look at any social media, without a chick throwing her azz in your face every 5 minutes.

I think as much as men are addicted to female physicality and beauty , women are addicted to male attention and well just attention full stop

Women know the fastest way to get it is post a saucy pic and most men will be drooling

Just as men are becoming desensitised to naked women , women are becoming desensitised to male attention

In the end nobody really wins , men view women as objects & women view men as weak / thirsty and unworthy of respect

Its very very difficult in this day n age to express interest in a woman without bowing into her promiscuity

 

[needimprovement250]

This makes some sense here. The cuck stuff always gives me the creeps and when I ever do view pron it's that POV kinda stuff. I even turn the sound off so I don't hear a man's voice groaning.

I can see folks that are addicted to it getting their morality stretched while going down a rabbit hole on some of those sites with AI suggestions.

Yeah if you’re gonna watch porn, you should only watch the POV kind honestly because at least you’re still getting off from a first person perspective with those videos. Getting your morality stretched is an extremely common thing with porn addiction because you eventually need more taboo content in order to achieve the same level of pleasure and dopamine that you used to get from the more vanilla type of content. And cuck stuff while more common than it used to be, is still taboo and men can get more drawn to it when they realize that its basically live porn happening right in front of you, which is what they’re used to more so than real sex.

 

[needimprovement250]

Watching porn is pretty much Cuckoldry.

Your not a participant in the sexual act, your essentially watching other people having sex (Vouyerism).

Your also watching/looking at other men's c0cks and getting used to the sight of other men's diks (this isn't normal)

In no previous time in history, have men viewed other men's diks at this scale, sometimes 2-3 times a day.

Watching others having sex becomes the normal, so it's not that far fetched for dudes to enjoy watching his girlfriend have sex, with other dudes & he sits back as the voyour.

I quit watching porn 4 months ago.. it's completely rewired my brain.

It has completely rewired mine too, I’ve been addicted to it since I was 12 and I’m 30 now. It is also true that even regular porn videos that are not the POV ones could be considered cuck porn since you are still watching two people have sex in third person. The viewing other diks thing has has an effect on guys too because I’ve heard stories from the NoFap community where guys started out by looking away and being grossed out by seeing another dude’s dik, to eventually developing dik preferences when choosing a porn video to watch. I even came across a story on Reddit from a guy who was a porn addict could never get it up when having sex with his girlfriend, so he suggested that she lets him watch her with another guy, she went along with it after some convincing and he got it up no problem by watching her with the other guy. It got to the point where she had to take this guy on as a side piece just so her and her boyfriend could have sex.

 

[Mike32ct]

Excessive P use can also mess with a guy’s ability to make proper eye contact. He might struggle to look women in the eye in real life due to an underlying shame and increased anxiety, or it can go another way and he can catch himself inappropriately staring at boobs, butt and crotches.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Defenitley found P0rn to have become a bit of an issue for me this year

Don't know how I got into it but in the last 2-3 years my use of it seems to have really increased to almost daily

Seems to be corrupting my mind and I am finding myself constantly looking at random women and thinking about them in lingerie and having sex with them

this is leading me to sexualise a lot of conversations with them very quickly which most of the time doesn't end well

whilst to some extent I accept this is normal for a red blooded male ...... I definitely feel I have lost some control over my sexual desires and need to get this under control

10 years ago I was a lot more mentally resilient to women and sex now I am like a schoolboy

I am also finding its demotivating me to get things done in my work life , I am conscious that this isn't healthy and its defenitley doing something to my mind

So Currently on day 4 of no FAP will try to update in this diary where possible

Anyone got any tips on leaving this weird addiction behind ?

Porn is cuck. You are fapping to another man with a woman. It's gay.

All of it be it OF or cam *****s and the hub.

There is no way forward BUT to sever ALL connections to it. Abstain. The flesh is weak. Avoid. I don't go to strip clubs. I don't watch even soft core Porn or smut in movies or TV shows. I don't entertain it with me attention nor my resources.

That leaves pulling or nodda. I still fap. I like blowing on a girls face or telling a girl age 21 to open her mouth and stick out her tongue before I bust a nut. I don't need obnoxious cuck in 4k to get me going.

It's fascinating what your libido and sex life are allocated when you sever all that rubbish forever. Kill it forever.

 

[soulforge]

Excessive P use can also mess with a guy’s ability to make proper eye contact. He might struggle to look women in the eye in real life due to an underlying shame and increased anxiety, or it can go another way and he can catch himself inappropriately staring at boobs, butt and crotches.

I don't believe there is moderation when it comes to Porn, it is highly addictive..

I compare it to junkies using heroin in moderation.

 

[obelisk]

Yeah I 100% agree soulforge. It's all or nothing, no in between. Maybe you'll slip from time to time but the goal state is to not use it. As one gets more aware of all the dopamine lures in their life and their effects on the mind, behavior and life, they become more ruthless about trying to remove/counteract their effects and influence on their lives.

 

[soulforge]

I have found watching porn kinda makes you choose the wrong girls for a relationship.

You're brain becomes so addicted to the slvtty looking girls, who are experts at kinky sex, the types you see in porn, this results in men actively looking for and dating this type of girl.. The Sexualy experienced one, and the slvtty looking one.

Often this doesn't end well, when you get attached to a 304 who has been around the block.

Since I quit porn all together, I feel like I can make better decisions about who I get involved with sexualy.

 

[Pandora]

I haven't fapped to porn in 15 years. That's what your girlfriend is for.

If you have pickup skills, you shouldn't need porn. Porn is for losers.

I used to feel the most urge to spank after I bang a girl. Sometimes a gf makes it worse because you get addicted to the orgasm.

 

[soulforge]

I used to feel the most urge to spank after I bang a girl. Sometimes a gf makes it worse because you get addicted to the orgasm.

Yeh I have done that too.. like I fvked a girl for 3 hours straight.. Orgasmed 3x times.

And still watched porn and jacked off when she left... That's how insane porn addiction is

 

[needimprovement250]

Bumping this thread because I have been doing really well with quitting since the new year started, only having occasional slip ups and have been mostly successful at limiting myself to 1-3 times a week when I used to do it every day and sometimes multiple times in a day. But now I’m being faced with an all too familiar obstacle: more sexual energy than I previously had, but my life situation being so bad to the point where the overwhelming majority of women will probably write me off. This is what always leads me to relapse and lose my progress and I really don’t want that to happen again.

 

[Solomon]

Haven't watched porn in 4.5 years best thing I ever done, it sucks your life energy and also is very demonic

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

The way to quit porn is not through "willpower". I've been reading posts on antiporn/nofap message boards for over 12 years now and it's always filled with people trying to subsist on sheer will alone and then beating themselves up when they relapse then repeating the cycle. It will never end.

You have to be seriously intentional about your environment. It takes a real effort. One of the easiest things you can do is setup multiple redundant filters/blockers to make it a pain in the ass to even access xxx content in the first place. When you create barriers/friction to an addictive behavior it reduces the chances if it happening. You can block websites with the /etc/hosts file on windows, use dns filters like Adguard or 1-1-1-1, and even paid software. Setup multiple filters.

People will say this is pointless because at the end of the day it comes down to setting an intention and sticking to it. But inevitably when you're sick, stressed, or in a weak state of mind you will be vulnerable and you cannot expect to rely on your willpower alone, it doesn't work for 99.99% of people. Drug addiction is rarely quit from willpower alone either, it's quit by doing deep work on your emotions and environment. Read the "Easy Way" to quit porn: https://easypeasymethod.org/ this is modified from Alan Carrs Easy Way to quit smoking, it's based on a simple philosophy of reframing your addiction.