Mr.Fantastic
Don Juan
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- Apr 15, 2006
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Ok, I feel really bad about not being with my girlfriend any more. She is a wonderful girl and hasn't really done anything wrong, but a while back we started getting a bit stressed at eachother and she eventually was the one that called it off. We made the decision to split and now we are friends. I speak to her a lot and we still go out sometimes.
It is clear now that she really wants to get back together, but I am reluctant to. I mean she has all these ideas about marriage and kids n stuff, she said to me that she needs to have kids before the age of 26 otherwise she cant have them (aparently nurses have told her this) and I think she feels under pressure from her family to have a boyfriend. As I say, she is a great girl and we get on brilliantly, but I dont think that at this stage of my life I can be with someone and make that commiment, there is too much out there for me to do.
Another thing that I think about a lot is the fact that she has a lot of health issues and a brother who is autistic so I wonder if she would be the best person to have kids with or not? I mean she talks about her genetics and kind of knows that she may have inherited problems, and this is a large part of the reason why I just can't be with her.
I mean even the fact that i'm thinking this way, and about having kids and marriage and stuff just blows my mind! im only 23 years old, I shouldnt be thinking about this, I should just be enjoying life.
It just gets me down, i mean I speak to her and she is all 'I miss you' and stuff and I just dont know what to say, I mean I really do care for her, but I dont feel that i can be with her. What should I do?
It is clear now that she really wants to get back together, but I am reluctant to. I mean she has all these ideas about marriage and kids n stuff, she said to me that she needs to have kids before the age of 26 otherwise she cant have them (aparently nurses have told her this) and I think she feels under pressure from her family to have a boyfriend. As I say, she is a great girl and we get on brilliantly, but I dont think that at this stage of my life I can be with someone and make that commiment, there is too much out there for me to do.
Another thing that I think about a lot is the fact that she has a lot of health issues and a brother who is autistic so I wonder if she would be the best person to have kids with or not? I mean she talks about her genetics and kind of knows that she may have inherited problems, and this is a large part of the reason why I just can't be with her.
I mean even the fact that i'm thinking this way, and about having kids and marriage and stuff just blows my mind! im only 23 years old, I shouldnt be thinking about this, I should just be enjoying life.
It just gets me down, i mean I speak to her and she is all 'I miss you' and stuff and I just dont know what to say, I mean I really do care for her, but I dont feel that i can be with her. What should I do?