quit porn, but is this cheating?

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i quit porn, not sure when but feels like a week, maybe 2? i feel great, highly recommend it.
can i watch girls in bikinis or in yoga pants with camel toe or that's still porn?
 

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It's not porn if APPROACH them and say hi. If you don't approach and ask for her number (if she's interested and is able to hold a convo with you), then its porn...otherwise it's an approach opportunity that you need to take.
 

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When I was a kid (long before the internet), we used to look at the bra and underwear section of the Sears and Roebuck catalogue, lol.
Seriously, it wasn't porn, but it served the same effect.
 

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Nothing wrong with stopping the meat beating, everyone once and awhile no harm no foul. But when you reach consistent fap times I think it is time to dial it back. Your Brain on Porn changed my view for the better and highly recommend you to check it out.
 

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When I was a kid (long before the internet), we used to look at the bra and underwear section of the Sears and Roebuck catalogue, lol.
Seriously, it wasn't porn, but it served the same effect.
I remember doing that in the 90s when I was a young adult. If you are older than me and you were a kid, then was this like the late 70s on your end? The internet in the 90s was way slower than today and a single picture download could take like over half hour to hour (ie depending on how much the dial-up was interrupted or the connection lost in the middle of the download, etc...).
 

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When I was a kid (long before the internet), we used to look at the bra and underwear section of the Sears and Roebuck catalogue, lol.
Seriously, it wasn't porn, but it served the same effect.
My man.

I thought I was the only one.
 

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When I was a kid (long before the internet), we used to look at the bra and underwear section of the Sears and Roebuck catalogue, lol.
Seriously, it wasn't porn, but it served the same effect.
Lol!!! We were the last generation that had to work for it! I also remember watching skinamax scrambled.... nothing like omg... that’s a boob... only to find out it was an elbow.
 

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When I was a kid (long before the internet), we used to look at the bra and underwear section of the Sears and Roebuck catalogue, lol.
Seriously, it wasn't porn, but it served the same effect.
Big difference was that sensuality was more important than sexuality. We learned to appreciate female beauty for what it was. If yiu wanted porn you'd be going in a long black raincoat juat before closing time. A secret box with some magazines and some videos/DVD's hidden far away in a basement or garaga.

I cant imagine what's it like growing up in this era where everything is readily available.
 

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When I was a kid (long before the internet), we used to look at the bra and underwear section of the Sears and Roebuck catalogue, lol.
Seriously, it wasn't porn, but it served the same effect.
It was a dopamine rush seeing something taboo. Now you can see the same on Instagram with a simple search. No longer a privilege to see a woman’s half naked body before a relationship. To be honest, this has lowered women’s overall value. What is interesting is that they use to say men objectified their bodies, now they do it themselves. Don’t have to wonder what she looks like in her underwear, just check her pics online.
 
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Lol!!! We were the last generation that had to work for it! I also remember watching skinamax scrambled.... nothing like omg... that’s a boob... only to find out it was an elbow.
100%. We had one of those huge satellite dishes (12’ in diameter) and could get the Playboy channel out of the sky. Sad day when they scrambled the signal, lol.
 

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When I was a kid (long before the internet), we used to look at the bra and underwear section of the Sears and Roebuck catalogue, lol.
Seriously, it wasn't porn, but it served the same effect.
Even had some nude playing cards, nude pogs (remember pogs? I was about 8 years old), basically before the internet any semi naked woman was wanking material. I remember Christina Aguilera's "Dirrty" music video in 2002 and I would stay up and wanked to that before at my aunts house (I was 13).

When the internet came in, the 56k dialup meant images would load slowly line by line, literally women naked wanking to your computer screen, the joy of seeing a nipple. All white model blondes and brunettes as I hadn't found my penchant for Latinas then. Mum would come home from work, I'd here the front door open and the quickest way to click off of it was to hold the power button on my PC and shut the whole thing off completely. Thems were the days, a good 20-25 years ago.

Now I don't even bother with porn and haven't for over a year.
 
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Even had some nude playing cards, nude pogs (remember pogs? I was about 8 years old), basically before the internet any semi naked woman was wanking material. I remember Christina Aguilera's "Dirrty" music video in 2002 and I would stay up and wanked to that before at my aunts house (I was 13).

When the internet came in, the 56k dialup meant images would load slowly line by line, literally women naked wanking to your computer screen, the joy of seeing a nipple. All white model blondes and brunettes as I hadn't found my penchant for Latinas then. Mum would come home from work, I'd here the front door open and the quickest way to click off of it was to hold the power button on my PC and shut the whole thing off completely. Thems were the days, a good 20-25 years ago.

Now I don't even bother with porn and haven't for over a year.
hahaha!!! I also remember the old vhs tapes.... the sheer terror as I heard my dad closing his car door and the tape wouldn’t eject !!! I still remember accepting my fate... leaving the tape in... and running upstairs...
 

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If you are older than me and you were a kid, then was this like the late 70s on your end?
It was earlier than that lol. Honestly, I don't remember exactly when such images got my attention, but I'm pretty sure it was before puberty.
I also remember the early days of the internet and the long wait times to download something. That's one thing I'm not nostalgic for.

We learned to appreciate female beauty for what it was. If yiu wanted porn you'd be going in a long black raincoat juat before closing time. A secret box with some magazines and some videos/DVD's hidden far away in a basement or garaga.
Some friends and I found a box of discarded skin magazines in a woods by our house. My brother in law also had a small collection of Playboys and Hustlers I used to check out when I had the opportunity. Back then, when you were young, you had to hope to find access to someone's secondhand material.
 

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Quitting porn really helped me reduce my lustful nature and sex drive which was out of control at one point. I think getting fired from that job last year really made me wake up to just how lustful I became.

Especially because the moment after I got fired and felt that everyone caught wind at that point, it felt like every single woman and friend I had at that place stopped talking to me.. like I did some horrendous thing just by exercising my options as a single male. The feeling was super eye opening though because I really enjoyed some of the friendships I made there.
 

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Dude man come on. Porn IS NOT your problem. Try your mind first and then go from there.
Why would you quit something you want in your bedroom??
i dont know what you mean. ever since i stopped watching porn i am less anxious and don't take things so personally anymore. like today a girl was rude to me, I forgot about it after 5 seconds, whereas before I would dwell on it.
 

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Quitting porn really helped me reduce my lustful nature and sex drive which was out of control at one point. I think getting fired from that job last year really made me wake up to just how lustful I became.

Especially because the moment after I got fired and felt that everyone caught wind at that point, it felt like every single woman and friend I had at that place stopped talking to me.. like I did some horrendous thing just by exercising my options as a single male. The feeling was super eye opening though because I really enjoyed some of the friendships I made there.
Being a known womanizer comes with haters, feminists, spiteful women, etc. This is where your power lies.
 

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The goal for any don juan should be to have females take care of that release for you. Controlling your desires is paramount.
 
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