Quick tip to get your unsure girls weeded out

[Oxide]

I've been looking over my adress book, and noticed that i have dozens of numbers from girls that are "unsure". These are girls I've met at the parties i threw, or the mall, basically the girls i've met and may be called them to invite them to parties.

Problem is, it seems like i am not going anywhere with 90% of these girls. After reading THIS post by Tyler Durden i started being a little more careful and taking more chances of calling girls more often than usual, giving them another chance even if they woudnt call back.
However, like i said, the results have not been very good, so i am going to do something about this tommorrow.

I am calling every girl i have in my list and saying, "Hey, this is Oxide, i want to hang out with you this week. When are you free?"

If she is unsure once again, i am telling her "Nice knowing ya".

What really sucks is when girls only use you for things.. for example, i call this girl Jenny last weekend:

J - "Hello"
Ox - "Hey, what's going on?"
J -" Not much, chilling with some girl friends"
Ox - "Oh, you guys having fun?"
J- "It's ok i guess.."
Ox- "Well, grab your girlfriends and come party with me and my friends at the house"
J - "Are you guys having a party?!"
Ox -" There are some people but this is more of an afterparty"
J - "Oh... i think we are going to chill at the dorms, call me when you are having one"
- You know, i feel like you are using my just for the parties.
- No, no, i just never see you around!
- Well, here is your chance to, come on over!
- "Well, why dont you call me when you have a party"

I laugh, end it and delete the number.

I'll post the results, let me know where i could improve

 

[DonMEgaHoss]

There are some people but this is more of an afterparty

In my honest opinion you shouldn't have mentioned the afterparty. Just say There's a few people hanging out and I bet you just could be the life of the party.. Something along that line of a compliment and coaxing her into coming over...

I think when you said afterparty. She could of thought, that you were desperate as the clock was ticking away. Like a last minute hustle for the panties.. She doesnt wanna be going over when there's a few people already hammered and everything is a mess cause you fell through with some other chick(s)

Open for interpretation... wont know until next time.

 

[thefonz]

Originally posted by DonMEgaHoss

I think when you said afterparty. She could of thought, that you were desperate as the clock was ticking away. Like a last minute hustle for the panties.. She doesnt wanna be going over when there's a few people already hammered and everything is a mess cause you fell through with some other chick(s)

I was thinking that too, it kinda came off as a late night booty call to get you and your friends some ass......besides, you didn't know before you called her what her plans were or what she was up to that night cus you hadn't spoken to her in awhile. You can;t expect her IL to be that high given the situation you two were in. She definitley doesn't sound like she's **** testing or anything like that.......... it was basically a call to cut someone off completely if they wouldn't budge an inch to your demand to come over tonight. I don't know you very well so I'm not sure if your a high status dj or just a regular Joe Blow but if your looking to weed out girls I'd say just let it naturally happen and don't give people ultimatums to "stay or get lost". That sounds alittle insecure to me.

 

[sstype]

heres what happened....she didnt like you.

 

[SynapsyS]

I'm going to go against the grain here.

If i'm in the mood to rustle up lots of girls (ie, get lots of numbers before, say, the holidays), I'll instead give them MY number.

Yeah, it's against everything I've learned.

However, this automatically weeds out the "unsure" girls. I only ever get calls from girls who are like "Hey, um, want to go to the movies or whatever".

I'm a busy guy. I have uni entrance exams coming up, I surf, I hang out with friends, I game. I don't have time to be calling a whole bunch of "maybes", so I just let them do the work for me.

Of course, I only do this in situations where I'm getting lots of numbers. After about 3 or 4, i'll switch to giving numbers out. In one off cases, where you just sort of "accidently" end up talking to someone with potential, I'll always get their number. I DO have to time for calling one or 2 girls, but never more than that.

Or so I make it seem

 

[Oxide]

Basically i have talked this over with some people that know this stuff and what they said is: "Try not to give girls options". For example - instead of saying "If you want to hook up come over tonight" say - "You are going out? So am I. I will be having fun with my friends, come over to my house at 12. Bye".

This way she bascially has is making the decision, but she knows that if she flakes you probably wont call again. I wouldnt say i advocate this tactics but i will give it a try and see how it goes.

Basically, if you call a girl, this is how it should go:

"hey"
-Hey
-What are you doing tonight?
-Not much..blah..blah.
-Ok, im gonna be bust till 12, come to my house then. Bye.

if she doesnt show up, go to bed. If she shows up late, you are already in your boxers anyway.

 

[Luveno]

Originally posted by SynapsyS
I'm going to go against the grain here.

If i'm in the mood to rustle up lots of girls (ie, get lots of numbers before, say, the holidays), I'll instead give them MY number.

Yeah, it's against everything I've learned.

However, this automatically weeds out the "unsure" girls. I only ever get calls from girls who are like "Hey, um, want to go to the movies or whatever".

I'm a busy guy. I have uni entrance exams coming up, I surf, I hang out with friends, I game. I don't have time to be calling a whole bunch of "maybes", so I just let them do the work for me.

Of course, I only do this in situations where I'm getting lots of numbers. After about 3 or 4, i'll switch to giving numbers out. In one off cases, where you just sort of "accidently" end up talking to someone with potential, I'll always get their number. I DO have to time for calling one or 2 girls, but never more than that.

Or so I make it seem

I love this attitude!