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Hi guys, quick question here. Around 2 months ago, I met this girl on a meetup.com event, got her number and proceeded to arrange a date. She cancelled the first time and rearranged for another date, which I accepted. The next date, she did the same thing and (wrongly) I accepted another new date. When the final date came, she stood me up and didnt reply to my texts.

Now I realize the mistakes I did as I should have never accepted the 2nd reschedule, but now I´m probably meeting her again on friday on another meetup event, so my question is, how should I proceed? Just ignore her? Say Hi and then never speak to her after that?
 

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I would go with indifference. Genuine indifference. Don't go out of your way to speak to her, but don't be impolite/butthurt either.

If you bump in to her say hi, and be friendly, but she's just another face in the crowd from now on. And yes, just talk to other girls.
 

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I'd go with butthurt...they love that! Whine, cry, beg, etc...she'll melt!!!:p
 

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She is nothing to you until you get her out. Since she hasn't been out with you... she is nothing.

BTW, you didn't do anything wrong... you made a date, she asked for a reschedule you gave it. She flaked chicks do that, forget bout her... onto the next one.
 

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Hi guys, quick question here. Around 2 months ago, I met this girl on a meetup.com event, got her number and proceeded to arrange a date. She cancelled the first time and rearranged for another date, which I accepted. The next date, she did the same thing and (wrongly) I accepted another new date. When the final date came, she stood me up and didnt reply to my texts.

Now I realize the mistakes I did as I should have never accepted the 2nd reschedule, but now I´m probably meeting her again on friday on another meetup event, so my question is, how should I proceed? Just ignore her? Say Hi and then never speak to her after that?
She cancelled on you three times and stopped responded to your messages? AND you are still willing to meet up with her? Have some self-respect and dignity. Simple fix, don't meet up w/her again.
 

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She cancelled on you three times and stopped responded to your messages? AND you are still willing to meet up with her? Have some self-respect and dignity. Simple fix, don't meet up w/her again.
Im not meeting up with her, its a meetup.com event. Many people will be there, including several other females.
 

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My advise: don't schedule another date with her lol.

If she approaches you to apologize, just tell her no worries since "you're obviously not compatable" and smile and walk off.

You owe her nothing, but still keep your cool.
 

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I'd go with butthurt...they love that! Whine, cry, beg, etc...she'll melt!!!:p
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It will be a grand slam! Just like in the Disney and Hallmark movies! Don't forget to have a ring in your pocket, just in case, so you have the option to propose after she cries in utter joy. Have some close friends and family members blend into the crowd so they can enjoy this big moment with you.

Don't forget to hire a video guy to capture this incredible moment and to post on SS for all us DJs to enjoy!
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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I'm convinced that often, flakes occur because she thinks she should feel good about going out with you, but she's looking for a certain emotion to pop up to green-light the meeting. When she doesn't get that feeling, she flakes.
 

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Rescheduling or even scheduling a date should always be under your terms. As a man, you lead by picking the time and date. Now with that particular girl you're pursuing may be too late for this. She lost interest and moved on. You should do the same. Just make sure you keep in mind about setting up dates should be under your terms. The initial date, and even the rescheduling.
 
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