Quick POF question -- regarding girl who takes days to reply.

[-E-]

Hey all,

Been exchanging messages with this girl on POF over the last couple of weeks and trying to escalate each time, but here's the catch -- she takes DAYS to reply each and every time. Within a few hours of my reply she reads the message, but then I don't hear back from her for 4 or 5 days.

My question is, should I bother? She seems interested by the things she says in her replies and she's basically asking when we're going to meet now, but the fact she takes days to reply even though she reads the message right away tells me she's not really that interested.

Thoughts? Thanks guys.

 

[j0n24]

Stop texting and call her then set something up on the same day you call her to meet up.
If she DOESNT say yes immediately or begins giving you these dumb excuses why she cant then hang up on her and dont text her.

Fastest way to tell if she is interested or not.

 

[-E-]

Stop texting and call her then set something up on the same day you call her to meet up.
If she DOESNT say yes immediately or begins giving you these dumb excuses why she cant then hang up on her and dont text her.

Fastest way to tell if she is interested or not.

I'm not talking about texting, I'm talking about the online dating site Plenty Of Fish (POF). We've been exchanging emails on that site, but she takes days to reply to each email I send her, despite reading them shortly after receiving (you can see when they've read them).

I don't have her number yet. I just now managed to get her Yahoo Messenger ID.

 

[Slick101]

Hey all,

Been exchanging messages with this girl on POF over the last couple of weeks and trying to escalate each time, but here's the catch -- she takes DAYS to reply each and every time. Within a few hours of my reply she reads the message, but then I don't hear back from her for 4 or 5 days.

My question is, should I bother? She seems interested by the things she says in her replies and she's basically asking when we're going to meet now, but the fact she takes days to reply even though she reads the message right away tells me she's not really that interested.

Thoughts? Thanks guys.

FACTS!... I use that site all the time... MY MAN!,,DONT BE AN AFC AND ASK FOR HER YAHOO MESSENGER!!

SEND HER THE NEXT MESSAGE WITH THIS!

"How many more messages are you gonna send me before, you give me your number?"

Get her number and CALL HER!! SET A DATE!!

 

[corrector]

This is an internet dating site where girls get a tonne of messages from guys, so it probably takes allot of time for her to sort through all the messages and eventually reply back to your message. She probably replies with a one or two liner I bet eh? Many attention-hors on there.

-- this is the dynamics of how POF works, it's a crap-shoot. Four days to reply doesn't sound like she's interested -- the one she is interested in she's replied back promptly while leaving the rest of the mail in the backburner.

 

[-E-]

Thanks for the input. Good call on the number thing, maybe I'll do that next time.


Here was her last message to me --


"my yahoo is ##########

So how was your weekend? Mine was kind of long but fun none the less lol.

I got a good thursday planned. Lynard skynard concert.

I have never tried crawfish lol.

So when would be a good time for you to do this dinner"




This whole chain of messaging started when I sent her a joke one-liner "The perfect dinner date" or something like that, and said "I'd like to take you out to a romantic dinner sometime. How about McDonalds? You can have anything you want off the dollar menu!" Hence her asking about when we should do the dinner... lol.

Can't take credit for it though, read the line in a thread on the Misc.

 

[Slick101]

Thanks for the input. Good call on the number thing, maybe I'll do that next time.


Here was her last message to me --


"my yahoo is ##########

So how was your weekend? Mine was kind of long but fun none the less lol.

I got a good thursday planned. Lynard skynard concert.

I have never tried crawfish lol.

So when would be a good time for you to do this dinner"


This whole chain of messaging started when I sent her a joke one-liner "The perfect dinner date" or something like that, and said "I'd like to take you out to a romantic dinner sometime. How about McDonalds? You can have anything you want off the dollar menu!" Hence her asking about when we should do the dinner... lol.

Can't take credit for it though, read the line in a thread on the Misc.

I would have replied like this:

BEtter yet, I dont need your yahoo... I belive communication consists of body language the most then verbal.. Messengers dont even count in that manner...

And its ok that you have never tried crawfish at least you tried "plentyoffish"

and I can tell you, you made the right move because, you met a wonderful person ME WINK*

Anyways, Send me your next message with your number and We will set that dinner date that you have promised me

 

[Poonani Maker]

I've recently had girls just up and give me her number after 2 or 3 messages, WITHOUT me asking for her number. These usually are au pairs overseas students. They're a Lot more gullible.

As long as she's messaging me 2-3 times a week, I'll keep her as a potential plate.

If she drops off, no big deal, I'm already getting it elsewhere. They sense that too, in my messages.

I recently went straight to talking about SEX to a 20 yr old who contacted me first once again. She's very interested and we are FREELY talking about sex in our messages to each other. There are women out there who have no problem with discussing sex. THIS is what you want them talking about. You don't want the prudes and the socially conditioned ones.

 

[n00bPimp]

as a rule of thumb you want to ask for hern number on the 3rd reply.

 

[the305]

Get her number, that is all.

"I really don't use this site much, but you're actually really cool - whats your number ill text you this week so i can tell you how much better then concert would of been if I was there"

take it to the phone - if you are going to go from one for of net contact to another, go to a facebook - so you can see "real" pictures of her and her friends.. get a sense of the person she is, dont go from pof to yahoo - thats pointless.

 

[Lexington]

The key to POF and all online dating sites: the numbers game. Forget about investing much time in each chick. It's pointless. Every decently good looking girl on any online dating site is getting bombarded by messages. Even if you get a reply back, there is no guarantee that it'll lead somewhere.

But there are lots of chumps sending stupid messages. Just send a short, lighthearted 1 or 2 line message to large numbers of girls. Some will reply, some won't. As in real life, always be working multiple "plates" at once and don't put all your eggs in one basket.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Hey all,

Been exchanging messages with this girl on POF over the last couple of weeks and trying to escalate each time,

Why is it taking you a couple of weeks talking to anybody, period? The only escalation happens when you are face to face, which was long over due weeks ago.

but here's the catch -- she takes DAYS to reply each and every time. Within a few hours of my reply she reads the message, but then I don't hear back from her for 4 or 5 days.

Off course she does. She has absolutely no interest in meeting you. You are her online buddy, that is it. Nothing more, nothing less, and that is where she likes you best. Similar to women who have gay male friends, Why would they want to give that up?

Also, Why haven't you talked to her on the phone?

My question is, should I bother?

The question is, Why have you been bothering, and for this long?

She seems interested by the things she says in her replies and she's basically asking when we're going to meet now,

Really? So you're still holding on to her every word she says?

but the fact she takes days to reply even though she reads the message right away tells me she's not really that interested.

Ah, good grasshoper, you are begining to get it. Judge her on her actions not her words.

Thoughts? Thanks guys.

Yes, you should talk and keep talking with her even more and talk about how your virtual date would be. Tell her to give you a chance to take her out to an expensive dinner. Buy her flowers and chocolates, and if possible, rent a limo. Once you are at the place, make sure you pour your heart out and tell her you are very lucky to be out on a date with such a stunner as her. Tell her she is special and that you will give/get her anything and everything she wants. Also make sure to tell her how she is different and how beautiful she is and that you'll never, ever meet anybody like her.

 

[spinaroonie]

Here's the key to online game:

1. Message girls who are ONLINE. Make the message brief and to the point and ask her a question to bait her into a reply.
2. Once you've received her reply exchange a few more messages WHILE SHE IS STILL ONLINE. This is key so a) your messages don't get lost in a sea of messages from other dudes when she logs on next and b) you build emotional momentum.
3) After you've exchanged a few messages GET THE DIGITS. If she complies, she's interested. If not, don't waste your time. Next.
4) Text her that night so she has your digits.
5) Get her on the phone the next day and build rapport for a half hour. No more and no less. Suggest a meet-up.

That's it.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

E,

Just keep mass emailing other girls and don't lay all your fish food on this one.

You don't need a chat buddy and to write long replies (If you are). Too much emailing back and forth will get boring for you both.

Just tell her you're just looking to go out and see how it goes and aren't looking for marriage, just to go out and have a good time. She may've been burned by other guys on the site or who didn't live up to her expectations.

Just joke about how many emails you guys have been sending that you can make a paper machete straight jacket out of it and wear it if you two ever meet. Tell her: "Let's stop the nonsense and talk on the phone quick and see how it goes". Then I can worry about if I still want to meet you or not."

In other words telling her in a kindof funny way. "Sh!t or get off the pot".

 

[pipe007]

Omg, OP you are stressing over a girl you met at POF?????

are you kidding me???

I feel I have to go over there and slap you!!!!, first of all, do you know that 80% of the girls in POF are either single mothers, have Mental issues, personality disorders, or attention *****s, or really fat???

the other 20% are getting massive attention from other guys... the DJ rules still apply.. show her you are the catch and you are giving her a chance to get to know her... qualify them...

I attract them by being direct, challenging, confident, ****y, funny, dominant, sexual...

then I leave and tell them.. hey this is my number!!!... call me if you feel you wanna get to know me better

and dissapear... now its up to her if she wants to call you or not... SO FAR MOST OF THEM HAVE CALLED ME OR TEXTED ME

I Have 5 girls lined up for next week, they all wanna see me ( girls I met from POF, who I have only chat with couple times or ONLY ONCE!!
why??????
because I apply the freaking DJ rules
I am the catch.... women want me. Im not available for all of them, so I qualify the hell out of them, and they like it.

peace!!


IMPORTANT: make your profile as detailed as you can, about what you like and you dont in a girl... be especific and qualify them, say that you only talk to so and so, if you are like this please dont contact me.... if you are into this or you behave like this it will end up our friendship before it even begins..... stress you are picky and you dont settle for less.

and that you are nice and blablabla

I get tons of compliments for being detailed and knowing exactly what i want and i dont want, and what I wont put up with