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TotalNoob

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As the name indicates I'm new to this place. Ive always done ok with women in the past. Have a novel situation going on and would love some opinions.

Please don't judge but I'm already in a LTR that's gone kind of stale. I actually live with my partner.

A while ago I met a woman at a social thing who initially i wasn't that interested in. She flirted a lot during the evening. I gave her lots of chances to leave my side and she didn't. She was drinking alcohol and I was driving so was sober. As the evening wore on her eye contact became more pronounced and... as a sober guy... I was pretty sure she was into me.

She's actually 7-8 years younger than me (i'm early 30s)... don't think that's necessarily an obsticle.

PROBLEM : I didn't mention I had a gf that night which might have been a bad move. In fact she only became aware i did have a gf via a mutual friend at a late date... When i saw the new girl at another social thing our mutual friend asked how my gf was, etc. This will have prob raised my sleaze factor.

(as an aside i think the mutual friend - female - was ****blocking - she barely knows my gf and i can't think of her ever asking after her in the past... anyway...)

As it goes with these things, it was around this time i started thinking the new woman was kind of interesting and it might be fun to get to know her.

Next time i saw her my gf was with me. Very interesting reaction. We didn't speak that night though she did walk past me when I was talking to a guy friend and gave me a really, REALLY, dirty look. It was kind of cute when I think about it. must've been deliberate, right?

I've seen her a few times since, have her number and have texted her a couple of times. Platonic texts that are hard to explain in this context. She responds (except for one occasion), friendly, with a x at the end.

Seen her a few times now and there hasn't been any flirtation really (nothing compared to the first night). even so, i have a feeling there's interest there. this has gone on for maybe 6 weeks. unsure how to proceed. don't know whether the knowledge of the gf is holding her back.

n.b. i am guilty of some not so alpha behaviour. kind of being socially inept. but that's generally my schtick anyway and I think I pull it off (it has worked to my advantage in the past).

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Thatsalotoffish

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I dont think she will care about you having a gf, like if she was into you nd you made the right moves she would pull you most likely.a

I think the reason the flirtation has dropped is because from the sounds of it you havent really done anything to suggest you want to be more then a friend, like have you done any kino with her? What were your conversations like when talking to her? Why the platonic texts of just 'chatting', why not arrange to meet her, stuff like that.
 

TotalNoob

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Thatsalotoffish said:
I dont think she will care about you having a gf, like if she was into you nd you made the right moves she would pull you most likely.a

I think the reason the flirtation has dropped is because from the sounds of it you havent really done anything to suggest you want to be more then a friend, like have you done any kino with her? What were your conversations like when talking to her? Why the platonic texts of just 'chatting', why not arrange to meet her, stuff like that.
To be honest, I don't think you're wrong. I've not consciously escalated with her - just been friendly though there has been some staring across crowds/smiling/holding the look moments. I gave her a lift the other day but totally played it as a friend. Bad. I'm basically going to lie low for a few days to put some distance between that incident as o think it's less likely to be repeated that way.

As I indicated at the top, new to this a generally don't do much to attract women. Generally just happens for me, usually duelist by alcohol. I'm thinking that my plan is basically get this girl drunk and things should go from there! Worked in the past! Hardly slick but effective!
 
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