Questions, thoughts and comments about intraverted, and High I.Q. Women and

[Juan Valdez]

Hello,

I am new to this forum and somehow I seriously doubt I will remain an active member, however for now I shall raise some thoughts and questions for inquiry.

I am a painter that is a fine artist, a wine connoisseur, a lover of tailored suits, high culture and intelligence. I come from a Slavic Background,
So I have dark looks, and high contrast features.

Really there is an almost infinite supply of beautiful women who will jump down my pants sometimes without my permission.

The facts are as they stand.

90% of the women I meet have potatoes inside their heads, and I can not imagine wanting to bed them any more than I can imagine wanting to bed a sheep. However about ten percent, have what I want:

A freakishly high IQ.
Extreme creativity.
The model quality appearance.
Quality, style, mystery, talent, and…
..Something strange and indefinable.
The ability to eroticize my mind, to create a(n impossible to resist) mood.


However…I have a problem, really two problems:

Every time I think I have found exactly what I am looking for ,
Every time I think “this is it, no more having to hunt through heaps of robot women! This is the one!” suddenly….they just stop.

They stop being creative.
They stop inspiring me with fascinating thoughts and conversation.
They stop talking almost completely.
They stop writing impassioned poetry to me.
They stop dreaming.

Unfortunately they do not stop being possessed of something strange mysterious, and indefinable.
Unfortunately they do not stop loving me.

So gradually I go mad, trying to get (at whatever it is) , everything that has suddenly disappeared.

Inevitably, I must move on because I do not bed sheep.

I have been in serious relationships with :

A concert Violinist
A world class model
An Anthropologist
A writer

I am currently in love with a former model, and circus knife thrower, but it is happening again, and where she used to practically drown me in love letters she writes almost nothing and says less, help.
She hasn’t stopped, she still ****s like a demon, and swears she loves me, but something is missing.

Again,
Help.

 

[NewMan]

Your problem is your looking for perfection (what you perceive as perfection) where perfection can NEVER exist.

Life is not one long string of pure bliss, where everyone is excieted about everything all of the time.

Love does not stay consistant - it evolves.

The nevousness goes away - the anticapation goes away - to be replaced by Understanding, comfort, respect... etc etc etc.

When you first purchase a new vehicle, you park it away from other cars - you clean, wax and wash it regularly - you make sure nothing mark's the paint....

6 months later it's changed slightly...

12 months later it changes....

It evolves much like relationships.

 

[Juan Valdez]

I apreciate the advice of course, but while I can not deny that I am in pursuit of perfection, i don't expect it.

I just want to know why these women keep shutting down becoming totaly silent, and seacing to produce or show any interest in producing inspiration in me.

i do not mean to argue, I did post so i could get advice.

I do not stop, I never have. I always write love letters, I always create sensual andmeaningfull conversation, etc etc.

It seems to me like turnabout is not the same as perfection. And I do expect reciprication, is this unrealistic?

I can not even think of anything she has done which I have failed to recipricate.

could you elaborate?

 

[allan976]

"Unfortunately they do not stop being possessed of something strange mysterious, and indefinable. Unfortunately they do not stop loving me."

---Juan V,

What the hell did you just say?! No offense bro, but I think you've been sniffing a little too much of that coffee you've been picking, my friend.

 

[DonRob]

Originally posted by Juan Valdez
I apreciate the advice of course, but while I can not deny that I am in pursuit of perfection, i don't expect it.

I just want to know why these women keep shutting down becoming totaly silent, and seacing to produce or show any interest in producing inspiration in me.

i do not mean to argue, I did post so i could get advice.

I do not stop, I never have. I always write love letters, I always create sensual andmeaningfull conversation, etc etc.

It seems to me like turnabout is not the same as perfection. And I do expect reciprication, is this unrealistic?

I can not even think of anything she has done which I have failed to recipricate.

could you elaborate?

You REALLY want to know why they stop being those things with you? Can you handle the truth????

How do you behave around the women who throw themselves at your feet? My guess is you don't run after them. You keep back which makes them chase you harder. You do EVERYTHING you should do to make a woman want you badly.

Then you meet Miss Right... and what do you do? Turn into the typical guy that fawns all over himself like every other boring guy she has dumped in her life!

Every time a woman starts to make moves toward the door out of the relationship its because a man is doing things to drive her away. I can assure you that you act entirely different towards the one that caputures your attention vs the hottie that you want nothing to do with! Try being a little less accessable all the time. Im not saying be a D*ck but be a real man around her and act a bit like she is one of the supposed hotties you brush off because she lacks the intellectual challenge you deem as a requirement in a girlfriend.

 

[Juan Valdez]

reply

nice.

Well it is partly true.

While I do not turn into the typical guy EVER, I am sure that my behavior does change when I am actualy enamoured with a woman; Furthermore, it is likley that I am too accessable to women I desire.

as for how to turn such a situation around?

any thoughts?


I do know I refuse to play passive agressive games though. that goes counter to what I want wholisticaly which is to have a REAL relationship, not a simulated one where controll her via remote.

I have done that and I hated it, I do not want to controll anyone, that isn't real, and it isn't satisfying. I don't want to know whats coming next, I want to be surprised, and pleasantly so.


thanks everyone for the advice, keep it coming.

 

[Juan Valdez]

Originally posted by allan976
"Unfortunately they do not stop being possessed of something strange mysterious, and indefinable. Unfortunately they do not stop loving me."

---Juan V,

What the hell did you just say?! No offense bro, but I think you've been sniffing a little too much of that coffee you've been picking, my friend.

Allan~

I meant that once the most attractive qualities are gone I really wish they would just stop fixating on me and being all mysterious, because I really just want them to GO AWAY.

I am an artist, I spend my whole life making things beautifull and interesting for other people. No one does this for me and the truth is i am becoming increasingly less inspired as a result.

I've said enough.

 

[DonRob]

Re: reply

Originally posted by Juan Valdez
nice.

Furthermore, it is likley that I am too accessable to women I desire.

This makes you look like every other man she has dated, therefore you are not a challenge and you become boring to her.

I do know I refuse to play passive agressive games though. that goes counter to what I want wholisticaly which is to have a REAL relationship, not a simulated one where controll her via remote.

This isnt about playing games. It is about understanding what a woman needs when she is in the earliest parts of courting a man and how a woman either selects or rejects a man.

You cant have a relationship with a woman until she chooses to have one with you. This is dealing with how to make a woman FEEL attraction and to CONTINUE to FEEL ATTRACTION. When she ceases to be attracted to you, she will leave you. Married, dating for 3 years, 3 weeks or 3 days.

 

[Juan Valdez]

I don't know about that.
In my experience they just latch on tighter and tighter while they become increasingly more boring and uninspiring.

As I said in the divorce forum I have never been left by a woman. Women don't leave me, they just lock on like sea urchins and refuse to let go.

 

[DonRob]

Originally posted by Juan Valdez
I don't know about that.
In my experience they just latch on tighter and tighter while they become increasingly more boring and uninspiring.

As I said in the divorce forum I have never been left by a woman. Women don't leave me, they just lock on like sea urchins and refuse to let go.

In that case start acting like an AFC... lol you will get them letting go faster than Fat Albert can down a cheesburger!

 

[al77]

Re: reply

Originally posted by Juan Valdez
While I do not turn into the typical guy EVER, I am sure that my behavior does change when I am actualy enamoured with a woman; Furthermore, it is likley that I am too accessable to women I desire.

as for how to turn such a situation around?

any thoughts?

How about something obvious: be less accessable to her?
She called you, one time out of 3 you are busy....Shorten your dates, end them before she does...

Probably you know all this, but do you focus on it when you start really being enamoured with her?

 

[Juan Valdez]

good advice

it's all good advice guys,

thanks for the help.
Like I have said elsewhere a lot of this has crossed my mind, but it helps greatly to be able to confirm it.

I have begun to withdraw a bit , I am not talking to her at all about how I feel about the whole thing at this point; My left eye has begun to twitch a bit but I think it is for the best, and it seems to be working.

Listening to women talk is not easy, it's stressfull as hell.

But it seems to be what is needed.

It isn't good for my painting though,
Perpetual manic passion would be better for it. I am beginning to understand why Picasso was such a wolf. anyway...

thanks to all .

 

[NewMan]

Perpetual manic passion would be better, and I am beginning to understand why Picasso was such a wolf

And why these kinds of women are crazy m#ther Fvckers.

 

[iveyleeger]

Juan,

Your post is hilarious . . . Instead of painting you should write irony. See, for example, Neal Pollack.

You are dating a circus knife thrower? I hope you don't upset her, it might affect her aim.

But you know what your real problem is? You are still seeking inspiration from women. As a more cultured and intelligent man than you once said:

"For art to exist, for any sort of aesthetic activity to exist, a certain physiological precondition is indispensable: intoxication. "

So get thee some drugs and alcohol, or mushrooms if you please, and forget about the ladies for a bit. Nothing will ruin an artist faster than too much puzzy, eh?

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by iveyleeger
Nothing will ruin an artist faster than too much puzzy, eh?

Correction. Too much of the same puzzy.

 

[iveyleeger]

I stand corrected

Nothing like the intoxication of fresh *new* puzzy to inspire art!

 

[Juan Valdez]

1. I do not indulge in drug use commentary. The casual abuse of commentary on drug use is a terrible thing in america today, and I can not condone such abuse of commentary.

2. It is *mystique*, not "fresh puzzy" which inspires art, it's insight which expands awarness of it, not double speak, or hessitance.

3. She is no longer a circus knife thrower.
she gave that up when she ditched the guy who hung himself from hooks for a living.

 

[iveyleeger]

Juan,

If you are for real I admire you. A man who speaks without irony and maintains high standards. It's like you walked straight out of the 19th century or something.

I used to be this way. It is almost impossible to do today.

 

[Juan Valdez]

In fact I Am for real.

I think it would be very hard for most people to stop being what they are and be me instead.

Firstly, because they are not me, and secondly because they are themselves instead.

But the thrid and most important reason it would be hard for most people to be me is that, they are used to such luxuries as :

1. Being able to relate to others.
2. Being popular with thier percieved peers.
3. Bieng at liberty to do things like *stop thinking when it's time to sleep* and remain silent when they have an oppinion, which in most peoples cases is almost never but in my case is almost always.


so in closing it is very easy for me to be what I am since i realy have nothing to lose, where as it is almost impossible for everyone else to be me since in the end, they would have to gain so much, and from a contemporary standpoint this would mean loosing quite a bit.

And with that i would digress, except to say one last thing.

fear the intraverted woman, unless you quite literaly want nothing but sex, because in the end they quite literaly lack any sort of legitimate substance, or intrigue whatsoever. All things with the Intraverted female flow inwardly, and that includes your soul if you let them get at it, or if you ever had one.

 

[iveyleeger]

This is gold. Juan, I am going to put you in my novel and make you famous, I hope you do not mind.