dereklearnslow
Don Juan
How do I get to the 'Tired of quick lays' stage?
I've read the bible, I've read most if not all of the 5 star threads here, and countless other literature about it, probably to the point of over-analyzation.
I go out as often as my time and budget allow me to. I'm pretty tall at 6'4", I'm not super hideous, I have all my teeth, but I still have a problem approaching women. I'm a little skinny for my height, so I'm pretty lanky. I'll be hitting a gym for that real soon. My forehead is a wee bit bigger than others, but I can't b1tch about what I was born with. I could post a pic, but I will not bother because I know for a fact looks don't matter, as I have seen some pretty hideous guys with trophy chicks.
I need to get some things going in my life to better improve my self-esteem (becoming a DJ, not read Don Juan, but guy who spins dance records at clubs, actually joining a gym, getting a better job, etc). Right now I got nothing really going for me.
I'm not completely lost though. I have awesome friends who constantly tell me how awesome I am and how every woman who passes me by is a fool.
I've had women actually approach me, but I usually turn them down for lack of attraction. I guess that's karma for ya. My last and only relationship of 3 and a half years was from an attention starved maiden that I ALMOST wished I had never met (better to have loved and lost, yada yada). She was actually too intimidated by me to ask me herself, so she asked her friend who I worked with at the time for my #. I thought it was a joke, but sure enough she called me later that week. Sucks that she was an uber ho before and after we hooked up, but thankfully not during. In fact, she was %200 devoted to me while we were going out and wanted to marry me and have my kids (which I never want) but I could not stand to be around her for long periods of time after a while. She ended up living with me for most of that 3 1/2 years (yes I know now that that was a big big big mistake) and I ended up dumping her last Feb (yea around V-day, I'm an insensitive bastard).
Sad thing is I still think about her and if I made the right decision to dump her, because she the only girl I've had any play from, which is sad.
I don't know how to fix myself. I can make women laugh and feel good about themselves to some extent. And like I've said before, some of them have approached me. Last time I was at the Smartbar in Chicago a 27 year old fitness instructor from Cali sat next to me at the bar, started up some convo on her own, had her 24 year old bf buy me a drink (yea still shocked about that), and played with my dreads for most of the time we we're talking. I can safely say I had no idea how to approach that situation so I just smiled and talked back. Her bf afterwards thanked me for 'watching his girl' while he was cruising the scene. I'm too nice it seems.
Meh, I don't even know what I'm ranting about anymore. I just need to get over this dry spell and approach more, but damn getting the guts to do so is killing me! Maybe I'll have to lower my standards (yea right).
I've read the bible, I've read most if not all of the 5 star threads here, and countless other literature about it, probably to the point of over-analyzation.
I go out as often as my time and budget allow me to. I'm pretty tall at 6'4", I'm not super hideous, I have all my teeth, but I still have a problem approaching women. I'm a little skinny for my height, so I'm pretty lanky. I'll be hitting a gym for that real soon. My forehead is a wee bit bigger than others, but I can't b1tch about what I was born with. I could post a pic, but I will not bother because I know for a fact looks don't matter, as I have seen some pretty hideous guys with trophy chicks.
I need to get some things going in my life to better improve my self-esteem (becoming a DJ, not read Don Juan, but guy who spins dance records at clubs, actually joining a gym, getting a better job, etc). Right now I got nothing really going for me.
I'm not completely lost though. I have awesome friends who constantly tell me how awesome I am and how every woman who passes me by is a fool.
I've had women actually approach me, but I usually turn them down for lack of attraction. I guess that's karma for ya. My last and only relationship of 3 and a half years was from an attention starved maiden that I ALMOST wished I had never met (better to have loved and lost, yada yada). She was actually too intimidated by me to ask me herself, so she asked her friend who I worked with at the time for my #. I thought it was a joke, but sure enough she called me later that week. Sucks that she was an uber ho before and after we hooked up, but thankfully not during. In fact, she was %200 devoted to me while we were going out and wanted to marry me and have my kids (which I never want) but I could not stand to be around her for long periods of time after a while. She ended up living with me for most of that 3 1/2 years (yes I know now that that was a big big big mistake) and I ended up dumping her last Feb (yea around V-day, I'm an insensitive bastard).
Sad thing is I still think about her and if I made the right decision to dump her, because she the only girl I've had any play from, which is sad.
I don't know how to fix myself. I can make women laugh and feel good about themselves to some extent. And like I've said before, some of them have approached me. Last time I was at the Smartbar in Chicago a 27 year old fitness instructor from Cali sat next to me at the bar, started up some convo on her own, had her 24 year old bf buy me a drink (yea still shocked about that), and played with my dreads for most of the time we we're talking. I can safely say I had no idea how to approach that situation so I just smiled and talked back. Her bf afterwards thanked me for 'watching his girl' while he was cruising the scene. I'm too nice it seems.
Meh, I don't even know what I'm ranting about anymore. I just need to get over this dry spell and approach more, but damn getting the guts to do so is killing me! Maybe I'll have to lower my standards (yea right).